And the self-victimization CONTINUES...| DT note P.6 - Page 11

Originally posted by: laksh

Hi,

Thought of sharing my views and my understanding.

I have also had issues in him talking to Pakhi over the phone. My issues were not because I doubted Virat's intentions. Virat did not stay in touch with Pakhi to lead her on.

Pakhi expressed that she loved Virat only on the night, she got married. It was when the reality actually sinked in her and it was when Virat also had got time to think that he had actually lost her.

Even while speaking to Pakhi, he had asked her how she is able to call him and where Samrat was. He respected the relationship of Pakhi and his brother. That was the only night did she speak to Virat about his love.

Virat could have avoided her call, but that would also mean that he is insulting her because they have had a past. Him ignoring her calls could be misunderstood by a girl, she could think that the guy is not trusting her and that is why, he is ignoring her calls. He didn't want to insult her, it would look as if her character was questioned by him.

Virat genuinely felt bad for Pakhi since Samrat had to leave and also with the information that Samrat might have come to know about him and Pakhi. The calls were not taken to lead her on, but it was taken to give support to a person whom he had promised, to remain as a friend.

Virat calls up Sunny when he is upset because Sunny can understand him and his pain, hence Virat knows that in the position Pakhi was, she wouldn't be able to share her pain or people might not understand her and so he supported her as how any friend would do by letting her share her pain and sorrow. He couldn't understand what she was implying or what her motives were.

I do agree that he could have avoided it, but he was also worried about her, could be worried as what if she takes any rash decision because she lost the love of her life and because her husband had also left her.

Whatever feelings Virat had for Pakhi, was only buried within him, he didn't keep thinking about her, he didn't entertain any thoughts which even came up without his own knowledge, he didn't speak about it to anyone, never ever gave hints of his buried feelings to Pakhi too.

Whatever feelings he had for Pakhi was buried deep within him and he tried as much as he could, to never let it surface and to respect the relationship he shared with her, saw her and treated her as a friend and his brother's wife.

His vaada is problematic, he should start building walls and not lines between him and Pakhi, we have to see how the story unfolds. His guilt canmot always drive his actions, he has to understand that it was Pakhi's decision to marry Samrat and that he did not force her to get married. The day, he frees himself from this guilt, he will understand that there is no necessity for him to support Pakhi when there are so many others in her life to support her.

Some people will only learn through their mistakes, he is going to pay a big price for his actions.

But that cannot change the fact that he has very recently come to know clearly of what is disturbing Pakhi. He seems to have been denying that she could be pursuing him. Looks like he felt that he would be insulting her by doubting her intentions. Now that they are no more doubts, he has started to act more conscious.

He has always tried to maintain distance from her even in the past, not that he is doing anyone any favour, I am saying that he did what was expected out of him. He never thought of her or looked at her in an inappropriate manner. He has asked her not to question him when he his with his wife (after returning from.Naag Nadi), not to wait for him, has stopped her from feeding him and even moved away from her maintaining a distance, has always spoken only about Sai even when the two were alone, was lost in Sai's thoughts, even when she tried to check him in the pretext of being a caring friend.

He has made mistakes by staying silent once when Pakhi was speaking ill about Sai after the Amay's incident, by not fighting with her as much as he should have during many times, but we also cannot ignore that he doesn't do that with his family members too. It has got to do with his nature and not because he feels anything for Pakhi.

Even if I have said he should have handled things better when it comes to Pakhi, be more strict and stern with Pakhi, we cannot deny that he has fought against Pakhi many times supporting Sai and has asked her why should she be behaving with Sai in an unfair manner

- while returning from Usha Maushis room taking Sai back to his room

- at Pakhi's house while trying to call her back

- the day when he took Sai for her college admission

- that same evening by saying people will have to accept husband and wife's relationship and understand that thry can spend time with each other

- on the first day of college

- the day he had asked Pakhi why she had to taunt Sai about not be able to grind chillies when Pakhi herself cannot do

- that same morning when Kaku snatched Sai's food too he had fought with Pakhi for Sai

- on the day of Mohit's lunch issue

- on the day they were leaving to Ladakh

- on the day when Sai had returned from PD's house and when Sai and Virat were having food

- on Mahashivratri day

- by supporting Sai when Pakhi wanted to speak to Virat alone and while Pakhi was blaming Sai after Pulkit visited their house

- supporting Sai on the day they spoke near the jhoola

- spoke her to respect his and Sai' s relationship on the day of holi

His approach to stop Pakhi or to correct Pakhi might not be as how it could be, doesn't mean he has any feelings for Pakhi or that he is cheating Sai in anyway. Neither is he betraying Sai, nor is he betraying his brother.

You go girl, I love this analysis.... Yes I agree in starting he might have some last feeling left but ... As janaki mentioned in her post today... Unfortunately feelings are not made of switch which we can switch off or switch on whenever we want... Just imagine if pakhi is not virat's bhabhi but was married to someother guy and virat is married to sai, and trying to overcome his feelings of pakhi over the time, still we think he is cheating.... Even in real life so many people have past before marriage they might have fell in love with one person but due to circumstances married some one else, later on slowly they will fall in love with their partners , that's not wrong... It happens with so many people.... Keeping those feeling for ex and ignoring your partner is wrong but virat never ignored sai because he have feeling for pakhi... Yes during DIG track he did mentioned pyaari cheez, but that too early to leave all feeling behind... He did it eventually but he is also human so he too need time to overcome and fight with own feelings.... And he never ever pulled pakhi back infact he always tried to show samrat is better person for her... But unfortunately destiny too ugly turn and samrat gone missing which left pakhi alone on the road to which virat guided by giving stupid vadha ( but not forced ) to go, and he feel responsible for that, that's the reason why he tries to listen to her even at phone call ( marriage night), he might thought as it took some time for him to overcome his feelings, she needs sometime some help to let go off her feeling and move ahead in life... Don't throw chapals on me, way before even when he don't know sai much, he tolerated all her tantrums and try to help/protect her , so how can we expect him to suddenly ignore the girl ( one who he thought he loved) all of a sudden.so he did took some time but now he is completely over her...

In past and present I saw some ITV shows where ML used to love his wife alot but suddenly one fine day he falls in love with other girl and start romancing her under same roof without showing any concern for his wife feelings...I know pakhi is not his wife but she is the girl he loved ( atleast he think) even before his vahini.... So I am happy progression in sairat relationship is slow and virat mind considered pakhi as his brother's wife on haldi only but his heart took some time which is fair according to me ( from her marriage to his marriage).... But after that he never have any feelings left other than guilt...

While coming to support sai, he even supported Kaku and his father against sai, that doesn't mean he have feelings for them in sense of love vala love... He feels they are family and believed they were right at that point of time same way he thinks pakhi is family... nothing more than that.. and yes I still don't supporting him for scolding sai infront of pakhi or other family members but yes he should built in that front....

I hope I am not confusing you guys... I tried to say virat's charector is near to relatity but he is not bad human... He is just human with good and bad traits just like sai.

Originally posted by: BBFanForever

Virat never loved or talked about loving Pakhi after his or her marriage. Sure @ 1:44 lol...

https://twitter.com/SaiJoshi_Loops/status/1384382545328939012?s=19

And the kinda conversions he had on phone with her after she married Samrat knowingly & where she openly talks about loving him and needing him beside her which hints her intention. It's morally and ethically wrong. Idk how can anyone turn a blind eye to it just cos they didn't have physical affair. And especially after Virat used to throw big claims of loving Samrat & all. Didn't he realize it's one kind of a betrayal? Also, continuing to have your bro's wife in your heart for lifetime is wrong on so many levels. Not my fault if y'all can't see how problematic his so-called vaada & commitment towards Pakhi was.

So inappropriate. Also that Ladakh trip bedroom scene ugh even the thought of it makes me want to vomit. Pakhi comes to his bedroom, to ask for his clothes (to keep in one bag) while his wife is not going on the trip (acc to her and both him and her know that pakhi knows sai is not going). And just look at his cool toned down reaction. Later after the Ladakh trip face off, he goes to Pakhi to apologise and say, “you may know your truth..” which clearly indicates he is conscious of the fact that her truth could be different. God help us 🤢😣

Originally posted by: Shristhi2002

Haina, I felt mistakes are being searched in anything and everything he does.

Kuch 2 log kahenge kyunki unka kaam hai kehna song is best suited.

One day they will ask why virat is breathing only coz vo usme bhi problem nikal lenge .

Originally posted by: Guneet80

Rehne do, it'll be pretended this didn't happen🤪

Heyy Guneet wassup. Pehchaana mujhe? I was unfair Salman in BB13 forum. RaSim stan. Had to abandon that account 🤬

How have you been doing? Hope all good on your side.

Originally posted by: BBFanForever

Heyy Guneet wassup. Pehchaana mujhe? I was unfair Salman in BB13 forum. RaSim stan. Had to abandon that account 🤬

How have you been doing? Hope all good on your side.

Oh you're unfair salman?? Arre yaar I totally remember you! We both were raSim Stans.

I'm toh doing okay. Pehle se thoda zyada busy but I'm good.

How are you? Sab theek na? It's soo good to see old friends!

Originally posted by: Guneet80

Oh you're unfair salman?? Arre yaar I totally remember you! We both were raSim Stans.

I'm toh doing okay. Pehle se thoda zyada busy but I'm good.

How are you? Sab theek na? It's soo good to see old friends!

I'm doing good :) bas work schedule bohut zyada bad gaya hai 😆 good to see you here & Radiant_Eyes too. S14 was so lameee hope BB15 is going to be half as good as was BB11! 😒

Originally posted by: BBFanForever

I'm doing good :) bas work schedule bohut zyada bad gaya hai 😆 good to see you here & Radiant_Eyes too. S14 was so lameee hope BB15 is going to be half as good as was BB11! 😒

OMG !! Hi !

You were unfair Salman 😲

I remember talking with you on bb13 forum

Loved your posts ✨

Missed you lil in bb14

I thought Unfair Salman left the forum 😅

How are you?

Take care ✨

You watch Ghum ?

I kinda stopped watching it because of chavans :/

Someone pls ask Sai to annul this marriage and focus on her dreams

I will happily watch that journey

sick of this family and their issues 🤪

Toxic 🤬

Originally posted by: uneorchide

tagging another

Thanks for the tag! Virat still doesn't get it. He only feels bad because it turned out she was right. What if he was right instead? Then in his mind, throwing two women out into the street in the middle of the night is justified. So in turn for him, domestic abuse is acceptable to him under the right circumstances. So essentially he learned nothing. And especially now thinks that just showing up crying, he'll be able to convince Sai to go back, because "hey, you were right, so you're welcome back!" Very little introspection on how he shouldn't have done that regardless of what Sai did.

Then at home, he's still letting Pakhi spend half the episode talking sh about Sai, while all he can muster are mild disappointed squints (like I might if the store ran out of my favorite donut type that day). With all the lessons taught to him about Pakhi from UM, Devi, and Sai, he's still letting her run her mouth. Had he grown at all, he'd shut her down right away.

Plus he's still an embarrassment of an investigator. He had to be spoon fed Omkar's culpability, and it doesn't occur to him even once that hey maybe it's not just him (because historically he's not smart enough to act alone without the blessing of his superiors). If I was an actual IPS officer, I'd find this show *so* insulting.

So the only way Virat redeems himself in my eyes, is that he truly realizes that domestic abuse is not okay. Show some episodes of him learning about the subject, attending anger management/abuse prevention classes, apply that to defending his mother, and shut down the toxicity in the house. And then be an actual police officer and figure out the letter and kidnapping. Actually lay down the law. When he grows this way as a character and turns CN into a safe and comfortable place for Sai, that's when he becomes worthy of her. Nothing less.

Originally posted by: BBFanForever

I'm doing good :) bas work schedule bohut zyada bad gaya hai 😆 good to see you here & Radiant_Eyes too. S14 was so lameee hope BB15 is going to be half as good as was BB11! 😒

I've toh given up BB totally. Bakwaas hai ekdum. I'm currently binging on good south indian movies. They're surprisingly very well written