LOL... yes, slow burn please. I agree, he has already shown her a few times that she needs to be pragmatic and think about herself, but after understanding the loony family better, he will be able to guide her either through taunts/challenges, or other means so that she can feel free to think for herself and be a little selfish too. Of course, once she really soars he'll be going kyunki ke woh ab haath nahin aane wali and will go places where he never expected her to and may not be able to follow her to.
It is only after this wedding and what comes with it will she recognise the double-edged sword that was hanging on her head, and she will challenge her own self to not stand silent when the Deshmukhs irrationally target her. Similarly she will teach him for instance, how barging in to state the truth is also subject to the circumstances and timing, you have to look around and grasp the sensitivity sometimes 😆
Dono cat and mouse game khelenge where each tries to overpower the other but not concede and that will make it worth the chase and journey.