Addressing the elephant in the room... Note on Pg 21 (24 April) - Page 9

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Posted: 4 years ago
#81

Originally posted by: VioletOrchid123

The major problem here is virat is an ips officer whose job is to protect the citizens... Yet he turns a blind eye to the injustice meted out to his wife, mother, brother etc by the other family members... He has no problem in accepting authoritarian nature of kaku and even participates in the wrongdoings at times.... He is a very much problematic person.... Men like him has the potential to be an abusive husband... He needs to get help asap.


Makes me think what the writers were thinking by promoting him as some sort of envoy of women's protection

If they planned to copy and paste to the T, they should have been careful with how they are establishing the characters.

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Makes me think what the writers were thinking by promoting him as some sort of envoy of women's protection

I doubt if the writers were thinking anything in that line as well.

Because if they were, then he being an IPS officer and moreover being a topper of UPSC one of the toughest exam of the country, he would have analyzed and gauged the behavior and consequences of his ‘mature friend’ while taking his wife to the trip along.

The more ironical situation will be if they show Virat fighting for Women rights in his profession

If they planned to copy and paste to the T, they should have been careful with how they are establishing the characters.

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Posted: 4 years ago
#83

Thank you for this post Kesuuu 🤗

Agree with it on all levels, it is NOT okay to normalise it and make it seem like romance.

Hope to meet you in better times, take care, stay blessed and keep being the light of hope that you have always been, rockstar ❤️

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Posted: 4 years ago
#84

Originally posted by: Sanleema

Peppermint - Firstly Thank you for this post, this was a much needed post. Loved reading all the POVs, reminds me of my school debate competitions. It was relieving to know that I wasn’t the only one who felt insulted as a woman by the male lead’s behavior. ITV has had it’s share of MCP male leads and the competition only seems to be getting more stronger over the years. Will virat take the trophy of all-time worst MCP lead? only time will tell. Sai’s character maybe assassinated too in the future tracks, because it’s ITV and no one is spared from it’s drama. There’s one major problem though with people like virat, especially an ACP officer that they are not only a danger to their spouse but a danger to the society as well.


That being said it’s also sad to see that it took a ML’s physically abusive behavior towards the FL to identify how regressive this show is and to bring this topic on how regressive ITV as a whole is even in this day and century. This show has always been regressive, right from the beginning. What could be more regressive than portraying an ACP officer with no other option of saving an 18yo but that of marrying het, could there be anything more regressive to show? A 30yo man expecting conjugal rights from a 18yo without any concern for her well-being, physical or emotional. A mentally disabled adult like Devi being abused the way she is, literally locked by her own family and even the educated people turning a blind eye? A mother who is wise enough to understand the people responsible for her son’s marriage mess, yet hypocrite enough to admonish only one half of the problem and turning a blind eye to her son’s part in the mess. All these from the supposed positive characters of the story...


There seems to be a serious problem rapidly escalating in ITV and it’s just not the content, it also includes the actors. The number of young actresses (not even out of their teens) being paired against older male actors in recent years is scary as well as worrying. These young girls are being made to act in the most intimate ways possible too without any concern for their mental or physical health. I know it’s common in movies too, a young heroine for a hero twice her age, but the problem arises when people especially youngsters who watch this day in and day out of older men romancing young girls. At least the trp audiences can be forgiven citing they just watch what they are served, but what’s more concerning is the number of youngsters who invest their time on these shows on social media. They are at such an impressionable age. This sends a whole new disturbing message that it’s okay for an older man to expect intimacy from a young girl, because they are mature and more romantic? That’s a scary picture. The lack of censorship in ITV is a major problem too when the show is being watched by people of all age. Wish there was some way to regulate the contents shown in ITV....


In a nutshell, ITV has and will continue to be regressive as long as people continue to watch it, as long as people still continue to promote them in social medias with hashtags for the couple, and as long as people keep hoping there’s light at the end of the tunnel after each regressive plot.


My apologies if I was brutally honest, but meant no offense to anyone.

Goodbye...

I don't think anyone here gave the show a pass for all the things that were shown. Many members have raised questions, right from the start - all the things you highlighted were specifically pointed out. I don't know about any other platforms, but these issues were addressed here. It's juat that I wanted this topic to focus on the emotional abuse that a wife is facing, which would be normalised.


But I agree with everything you said. Unfortunately it's the TRPs that decide the fate of a show. People may hype the couple and may show any form of appreciation or feedback, but at the end of the day, its only TRPs that matters.

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Posted: 4 years ago
#85

Originally posted by: nilmi

100% agree with you. There is nothing to talk about chavan's. sometimes I wonder is this kind of families there in India. They are cheap. And on top of it they are normalize their insanity...True I enjoy outer beauty as non Indian. But on national television at prime time showing these toxic thing and normalize it is not a good thing. There isn't any hindi show that showing normal husband wife relationship. (According to my knowledgeI don't watch tv. I've seen on Insta little bit promo and all). Whether we believe or not there is a huge bad impact on the society from these serials.


And I 💯 % agree with you

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Originally posted by: nautankitadka

Thank you for this post Kesuuu 🤗

Agree with it on all levels, it is NOT okay to normalise it and make it seem like romance.

Hope to meet you in better times, take care, stay blessed and keep being the light of hope that you have always been, rockstar ❤️


Awww, hope you are doing well.

See you soon😘

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Posted: 4 years ago
#87

THIS!!!!!! BEST POST EVER!!!!!! HYPING IT UP!!!!!!!

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Posted: 4 years ago
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This is so beautifully well put together. Something I completely agree with. These shows show abuse as normal and also impact people to a great extent. And Virat is definitely abusive towards his wife in so many ways. Even in today's episode the way he said tmhare sar pe ab chat nai hai shows sadistic pleasure. This is so so awful.


By the way I didn't know it's a remake. Can u tell me the name of the original show.

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Posted: 4 years ago
#89

Thank you you for saying this

In real life when I told my some of the class mates they told me I am cold and unemotional. My bro watched a few snippets when Amma and badi ma were watching. I was also in the hall. Later when we went for pre sleep. Walk he told me all that was trash and real.life relationships do my work that way and that was abuse.

After that I have tried in my own way to explain to classmates and few people in real-life and SM.

Believe me when I tell u this I know beta misogynistic behaviour can do to u ..I have walked out of one very abusive relationship and faced a lot of public devastation due to it.

But sai here is alone but I had my bff, my bro and Bhabhi

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Brutally honest but loved Evey point you put out.💞💞

It's a glaring truth that itv has promoted toxic relationship n behaviours of spouses as romantic gestures. Even though adults can differentiate between the right n wrong concepts of romance....it greatly affects the teenagers mind.

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