Humein is rishte par vishwaas ho gaya hai - Page 10

Originally posted by: AreYaar

I forgot to quote this portion in my previous post, so I'm quoting it now....but I think you put it very well, Raaz.

With Adi, we have to turn our usual expectations from a male lead on their head.....nothing is typical with this guy, least of all if you view him through the lens of a typical ITV Male Lead who falls in love in a typical way and then acts upon it in a typical way too.

As you aptly pointed out, Adi functioned till this point in his life on the idea that compatibility is love....comfort is love. But now his whole world has turned upside down as he's realizing that just wasn't it.....love isn't about complacency and convenience. Love should make you want to fight for it in the face of all challenges and discomforts. That is the beauty of his equation with Imlie....in the midst of such immense complications, challenges, discomforts.....it is only with her that he finds sukoon...peace....not because she is a convenience or a comfort....but because he only feels himself with her. As he said that day on the bus returning from PD...with Imlie he feels safe. That is what I felt this convo showed again. He initiated the convo to reassure her that she can trust him....but the convo soon showed that ultimately he feels this need to share every unvarnished truth of his with Imlie, even the uncomfortable ones because that is the only place where he feels safe. That is what I saw from him in this scene as he was about to break down again saying that he doesn't want to hurt Malini either....like he could only share his burdens with Imlie without judgement....

I won't say all three are battling the situation trying to avoid hurting the others....right now, I mainly see Adi-Imlie trying to avoid hurting someone else as they navigate their relationship....Malini has overtly started hurting Imlie as was seen in the previous epi.....not that it matters to Imlie much....lol she was chirpy enough with Malini again in the very next scene. Atleast Adi has started calling out her attempts to zone out her hurt more directly....he's not letting Imlie retreat into her usual compartmentalized zone and is forcing her to confront that what she feels is valid and she can't deny it simply cuz she thinks accepting those feelings will hurt Malini.

THIS! What started as him trying to comfort her trying to make up for all the hurt that malini caused her and adi wanting to.reassure her that she wasn't wrong she was right in her place he is on totally her team and can trust him soon took a uturn and became him putting his raw self out by seeking the comfort in her again.. by asking her questions how can he lessen the pain why is it that this realization of love has only brought pain for them why can't it be like others where live brings absolute joy why can't they be normal.. it is heartbreaking and also fulfilling at the same time to see them address these things and be their most trueselves to each other.. the way adi started breaking down not being able to hold his emotions the pain all the guilt.is causing him he couldn't hold back in front of imlie caz this is the person he doesn't need to hide away with...this is the person who.would not judge him for showing his emotions like that. Instead she will bring calm to his internal.strom she will be able to.give him hope something to look upto to hang in there.. she is the person who can handle his crazy she is the anchor. Once again it was on full display how she is emotionally the stronger one and can not only handle her own self but has the ability to handle him too when he is so over the edge and so lost.. he tries to be the mature elder one but eventually it is her who turned out to be those things caz adi ko nahi pata khud ko kaise handle karna Hai...she is the only person in the world.who samjhoes him.who knows exactly why would he be rattled and how will it be settled.. and adi knows that she understands him.better then himself so he confides.. the best part unknowingly that part was never was he initially intended to do all he was trying to do.was give imlie the confidence that she can trust him but in the process he ended up organically speaking about his struggle his dilemma it happened unplanned and he never realized when he showcased that hurt it was causing him .. and that I find so so marvelous in their bond..

https://www.instagram.com/p/CNXXy8WhjbQ/?igshid=1qfx4ay9r9yys

For your reference @Mutebutton

Originally posted by: Tulips123

https://www.instagram.com/p/CNXXy8WhjbQ/?igshid=1qfx4ay9r9yys

For your reference @Mutebutton

Wow. They just came full circle with referencing this in yesterday’s episode. I’m gobsmacked almost

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Now it feels even more like yesterday's hug scene with Malini was a setup to jolt Adi into having this conversation with Imlie about how there is nothing like that between him and Malini anymore.

Otherwise Imlie never asked him for any proof of faithfulness even after he confessed his feelings to her in PD. Their conversations remained limited to what he feels for her, rather than getting into whether or not he feels anything for Malini anymore. Imlie never asked, and Adi never felt the need to get into that topic either😆.....but this visual forced them both to confront the reality of Malini still considering herself married to Adi. Imlie ofcourse tried to downplay it as usual to deny it bothered her, but Adi at this point doesn't want to downplay or compartmentalize anything anymore....so for both their sakes, he forced this conversation so that he can speak his truth to Imlie unvarnished yet again.

I do have to marvel at how the writers manage to write these complicated conversations between Adi and Imlie so well. They are, so far, managing to convey such a RANGE of emotions in this complicated setup....it is equally true that Adi doesn't want to hurt Malini while it's also true that he's not being able to bring himself to care much about Malini's expectations and demands from him anymore either😆. He isn't able to fake a level of care/concern simply to reassure her.....even if he doesn't want to hurt her, he will also not lie and pretend to feel something he doesn't for her anymore. Sach main whenwas the last time we got this level of writing and range.. would it be too much of I say this is the only show that is somewhere close to "gulaal" * hides from chappal* in terms of that nuance and that much depth in writing so far a close 2nd

Which then brings me back to the tag of ZIMMEDAARI....lol the way it was brought up today twice was again very telling. Adi initially tried to use the excuse that he has to take Imlie back with him cuz she's his zimmedaari....to which Malini asks him if she too is not his zimmedaari....lol so Adi says, "Aap BHI toh meri zimmedaari hain"....and I was again reminded of the way Pyar and Zimmedaari flipped during that fateful convo in the hut.

Then later on, during his convo with Imlie, Adi assertively tells her that she is his first wife....not farz, not a dhaaga, not ZIMMEDAARI😆.....and I found that interesting as well. Adi has used the tag of "zimmedaari" for a long time as his cover for his concern for Imlie rather than having to admit his love/care for her....the word has a formality associated with it in many ways. But in this moment, he assertively told her that she is his wife, not an obligation or a responsibility. In essence, he was removing that tag of formality from their relationship and acknowledging that she has the rights of a wife.....which are much beyond the formality of a responsibility. And again, I felt that contrast of how his relationship/marriage with Malini was always a formality, always depicted as something he owed her....most of Adi's dialogues have always been about what he owes to her after 7 years of dating. But with Imlie, there is never an obligation....there was a sense of claiming in this scene....he was expressing that she has the claim of being his wife, not the tag of being a formal responsibility.

Small correction I thought he said aap hi meri zimmedari hai😆 aap kahan se kahan le gayi baat ko which was like woaahh he did say clearly she is his zimmedari hahaha he only called her his zimmedari and that too his sole zimmedari but malini took it as some medal too ke aap hi zimmedsri hain if only she understood on the context he said it haha😆

But yes she erased all the tags he has used so far for imlie in the conversation later and gave her the truth she wants to.hear the one she was yearning for longing for that she is nothing of the things and excuses he used till.noe but his sach his rishta his pehli wife the love of.his.life the one and only one that matters to him and his absolute truth.. he had to.go hard on her ripping those titles away caz otherwise imlie nahi samjhti she would have taken it as his token assurance once again so he went so.blunt.. and how do we say do tok andaan main seedhi naat no bakwaas. He used her analogy in her that look once it was a dhava not anymore.. caz he has faith in it he has developed it and it is as strong as hers.. however malini remains in the picture for now and they have to.addresss it and notice when he starts talking.about the hug imlie cuts his quickly ke let it be I never wanted wafadaari ka vaxhan ever I only wanted one thing and I thought you were doing that only so Don't bother explaining even it did hurt her clearly to which he goes noo. And explained to her that she may not have wanted wafadaari but he is still loyal and will remain caz there is nothing worth not sharing he is hers completely and she can have that trust in him..

Originally posted by: MuteButton

Wow. They just came full circle with referencing this in yesterday’s episode. I’m gobsmacked almost

Me too! I am stunned that they even closed this loop!

Lol you guys didn’t get the rishte mein vishwaas reference all this time? 😆

I mentioned it in the main thread too that Adi’s dialogue was a throwback to what Imlie told him. Lol looks like you all hit “like” without actually reading it 😆

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Thanks, Whatever😆

I do feel that people should watch the Adi-Imlie scene without the expectation/baggage of straightforward solutions and a clean break. The whole hook in their story is watching them navigate complicated topics/situations while still maintaining this honest poignancy between them....the angst is all about the fact that they have a valid pehla haq on each other, they are married, they love each other....and still they have to struggle with the weight of their guilt and bittersweet emotions.....it has a poetic quality to it which I guess fans of literature would appreciate more compared to anyone watching this with the expectation of a simple romance😆.

@ BOLD1: I should have really given a little more thought before creating that userid..😂

@BOLD2: Word. Every episode I think they cannot beat this intensity of emotions (the hurt he gave her to the love he has for her and all the banter these two do). they come back and stun me with even more idyllic scenes!

Originally posted by: naadanmasakalli

Small correction I thought he said aap hi meri zimmedari hai😆 aap kahan se kahan le gayi baat ko which was like woaahh he did say clearly she is his zimmedari hahaha he only called her his zimmedari and that too his sole zimmedari but malini took it as some medal too ke aap hi zimmedsri hain if only she understood on the context he said it haha😆

Will reply to your posts in detail in a bit, but quick response on this.

Haha blame my exhaustion. I actually haven’t had the chance to rewatch the full epi since then and mujhe first watch mein clear nahin tha if Adi said bhi or hi 😆.....hi would deffo make more sense though in Adi declaring she is his zimmedaari but her not getting that’s actually a step down now 😆

I think someone else clarified it a couple of pages back too. Forgot who. But thanks to both for clearing this up for me 😆

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Lol you guys didn’t get the rishte mein vishwaas reference all this time? 😆

I mentioned it in the main thread too that Adi’s dialogue was a throwback to what Imlie told him. Lol looks like you all hit “like” without actually reading it 😆

Stop laughing at us 😆

Originally posted by: MuteButton

Stop laughing at us 😆

MB ji 😆 aapne episode nahi dekha poora post mahi oada poora 😆 to kya dekha and kya padha and kispe reply kia and react kia 🤣

Just pulling your leg 😉