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I love when he touch her cheeks or cup her face

Is it an Imlli thing or he did it to Malini too?

Coz as much I remember his PDA an Luvs U for Moon , I didn't notice him doing this to her 🤔 , and not in that intense way at least

I can't wait for this week to start 😭

I really hate Sundays now 🤣

The goodbye was the best I have come across, very natural, with emotions overflowing in both of them. NO long drawn out sad looks or same shots...

The scene felt so natural on so many levels and a hug would have been way off IMO. Hug I relate more to western culture and the desi version is of holding hand while saying goodbye or a pat on the back or aashirwaad. Totally appropriate as the setting was PD.

We got the cupping of the face by Adi, that is his way of showing his pyaar and emotions to Imlie. Felt like he wanted to take that image of Imlie back with him to dilli, to remember her by. Yaad tho bahut aayegi and this was the final time he was going to see her, so to capture that moment in eternity.

Another parallel, just as Imlie filled the T house with her apnapan and nautanki, so did Adi at PD with all the folks and in her house. Kona kona, woh Adi ko yaad karegi ab. In these 4 days, they have been so much together and she cannot help but be reminded of her BS all the time. Right from Mithi, to SK, Pari, NN, mandir, everywhere she goes she will be reminded of him. It has become more difficult for her now than when she returned for good.

Wonderful gifs.

Originally posted by: nim_var

Another parallel, just as Imlie filled the T house with her apnapan and nautanki, so did Adi at PD with all the folks and in her house. Kona kona, woh Adi ko yaad karegi ab. In these 4 days, they have been so much together and she cannot help but be reminded of her BS all the time. Right from Mithi, to SK, Pari, NN, mandir, everywhere she goes she will be reminded of him. It has become more difficult for her now than when she returned for good.

Wonderful gifs.

Word on this! It is not going to be only Aditya who is going to be remembering her. Imlie will also remember him as acutely. She was already thinking about him when she initially returned but they’ve almost been inseparable during this trip of his. She can keep telling herself that she will not come in the way of Malini’s happiness but there is no way the man who left on that bus is going to be able to give even an iota of it to Malini.

A word on the non-hug - I feel the exact same way. Their separation was perfect the way they showed it. He is determined to leave everything to fate and she is steadfast about forging ahead on her own thinking destiny is not going to play a role.

I also think, had she claimed him even for a second, nothing would have stopped him from taking her back and setting things right. He actually says in the bus - woh humen saath rehne nahin degi. Does not say hum saath nahin reh sakte. Instead, it’s about what she wants again.

What a beautiful and classic end to this journey which did not end with tears but with hope that we will meet again. Skimming through the thread, I think the “vishwaas” part was already discussed but not sure if the "hope", “pehchaan” and "choice" were discussed so apologies if I repeating it. 😊

For Imlie, the most important thing is to become an officer and currently, Aditya is her biggest motivator. We saw him doing it during the examination too, he gave her that vishwaas that she can do it and it filled her with a new energy to do better. Similarly, today he did the same thing. He gave her that hope, that he believes in her and her ability to achieve her dreams. That’s she can do it and she will do it and he will be waiting for her. By giving her this, he gave her that energy and hope which she will carry with her for the rest of her life. His words would be her driving force when things are complicated and things are difficult. They would fill her with renewed hope whenever she might feel low or would want to give up and push her forward to achieve her dreams because he would be waiting for her.

On the other side ,Imlie gave Aditya her Sita Maiyaa. She knows that the journey ahead is a very difficult one for him and he needs to do it alone. Whatever decision he takes, whether to live with Malini or separate from her, it’s will not be an easy one for Aditya. It would be a tough fight between his righteous nature and his emotions, what is right and what he wants and what his family wants. He would be overwhelmed at times and would have no one on this side not his family, not Malini, not her. Hence, he would need someone to talk to, to give him that support, that renewed energy , hope to keep moving forward. Hence, like SM was Imlie's support and strength on her most difficult journey where her husband was also not on her side, all alone in the new world, SM would also be Aditya's support during his lonely journey in his new world of feelings.

Pehchaan was another word that struck with me. The thing is Imlie and Aditya are in similar in many aspects but they complement each other too in some respects. Where Aditya is practical, Imlie is more emotional and where he is impulsive, Imlie bring in the "theraav" to their relationship . Hence, being more emotionally savant of the two, she stopped him from saying the words that would only bring regret to both of them at this point of time. Personally, I really like that because though he is married to both his love commitment was only to Malini. Hence, now when his feelings have changed, the first person who has the right to hear about it is Malini and not Imlie. By stopping him in the nick of the time and reminding him about this fact not only showed how very strong and mature she is but also how well she knows her BBSB. Because though Aditya due to his impulsive nature would have blurted it out, he would have regretted it later as he had cleared things with Malini. Once he has done that, only then can give her the "words and the "Pehchaan", she so deserves.

Imlie did not ask him for her "haq" because she wanted to give that choice to Aditya just like he gave her the choice. She gave him the right to choose what he wants in the future, and she did not want to burden him with her reminders, hence she choose not to come with him nor give him the Moti Roti. She choose not to give him anything that would pull him back to her. On his path forward, she set him free of any obligation towards her as she wanted Aditya to make an independent decision of what is best only for him, his family and Malini and not take her into consideration. All she gave him was her Sita Maiyaa, the silent support, her best friend who will be his guide and his strength. If and when Aditya comes back to her, it should only be when he is free of all obligation and be allowed to give her the "pehchaan" and acknowledge their "rishta" in his world. That would be his true acceptance of this relationship and when he should be free to say the words that he should not be saying to her even in the dreams.

Originally posted by: nim_var

The goodbye was the best I have come across, very natural, with emotions overflowing in both of them. NO long drawn out sad looks or same shots...

The scene felt so natural on so many levels and a hug would have been way off IMO. Hug I relate more to western culture and the desi version is of holding hand while saying goodbye or a pat on the back or aashirwaad. Totally appropriate as the setting was PD.

We got the cupping of the face by Adi, that is his way of showing his pyaar and emotions to Imlie. Felt like he wanted to take that image of Imlie back with him to dilli, to remember her by. Yaad tho bahut aayegi and this was the final time he was going to see her, so to capture that moment in eternity.

Another parallel, just as Imlie filled the T house with her apnapan and nautanki, so did Adi at PD with all the folks and in her house. Kona kona, woh Adi ko yaad karegi ab. In these 4 days, they have been so much together and she cannot help but be reminded of her BS all the time. Right from Mithi, to SK, Pari, NN, mandir, everywhere she goes she will be reminded of him. It has become more difficult for her now than when she returned for good.

Wonderful gifs.

Same to same.. a hug wouldn't have fit in my opinion.. mere liye this was a complete scene with the right emotion that was needed.. it had that heartbreaking feel to it.. that bittersweetness ubhar ke aayi that how far they can go for the other.. apna aap bhikar raha ho but dusre ke liye they will go to that extent...that selflessness in that moment she is doing it for his promises his zimmedaris not being able to claim him still due to her love and commitment to didi ki khushi and him following her command of jayieye na chahte huye caz that is what she wants so he will dil pe patthar rakh ke follow.. *sigh* I can't with how right they got the melancholy in that moment.. it made me tear up a bit on rewatch it was that effective..

Hug hua ya nahi doesn't matter to me caz the emotion was so right...again I am the person jo sirf iss liye nahi dekhti ke agar yeh box check na hua toh sab barbaad hai.. mere liye uss lamhe ka ehmiyat sahi nikal ke aana chahiye emotion sahi hona chahiye it should move Me make me feel something and all that was there. They aced it they had so much intimacy in those few last moment of togetherness woh ek jaan wali feeling where their souls connected when they looked at each other.. I also feel yeh cupping the face is so much more intimidate and has become their thing.. when he doesn't know what else to do he just holds her face ever so gently and it has saare zamane ka pyaar and apnapan.. it just is such a delicate fine line but even in his aggression when he cups her face it is so gentle and one can see his need to savor to cherish the moment so beautifully.. it is like itna sehej ke rakh loon vibe.. it is like that calms the Strom inside him when he is on the brink of falling apart

Originally posted by: MuteButton

Word on this! It is not going to be only Aditya who is going to be remembering her. Imlie will also remember him as acutely. She was already thinking about him when she initially returned but they’ve almost been inseparable during this trip of his. She can keep telling herself that she will not come in the way of Malini’s happiness but there is no way the man who left on that bus is going to be able to give even an iota of it to Malini.

A word on the non-hug - I feel the exact same way. 🤗

Their separation was perfect the way they showed it. He is determined to leave everything to fate and she is steadfast about forging ahead on her own thinking destiny is not going to play a role.

I also think, had she claimed him even for a second, nothing would have stopped him from taking her back and setting things right. He actually says in the bus - woh humen saath rehne nahin degi. Does not say hum saath nahin reh sakte. Instead, it’s about what she wants again.

Bold - yes

I happened to see #76, when Adi bursts at Anu for insulting Imlie and the convo that Adini have. The words that Malini uttered make more sense now. She says 'aap Imlie ke baare mein sochne lage, tho mujhe bhool gaye' That is exactly what has happened now to Adi. He cannot even spare a thought for Malini in these 4 days at PD, let alone say her name. Earlier it used by him, throwing Malini's name at Imlie whenever he felt his emotions being affected by Imlie, it was a tactic used to distract himself and the others.

Adi is giving preference to Imlie's wishes, by returning, by accepting that she will make her own choice on whether to return, to meet him.

This is more a broader message for women empowerment. I came across a speech, that was part motivational, part spiritual where they say that when a woman is given the freedom, to make a choice, SHE always chooses the option that is right, that is dharmic in nature vs having the freedom taken away from her that results in impure thoughts and actions.

There was this story as an example too - A yaksha or divine being's form is seen as that of old hag when she is really a beautiful young person. A man falls in love with her and she tells him that she can be a beauty at day, at night she will turn into a hag or vice versa. She asks her lover to decide which forms she should retain, to which her lover replies, I will accept and live with whatever form you decide. To which the yaksha says, I have decided to retain my youthful form at all times.

Adi has now given complete control of her life back to Imlie and says he will support her, no matter what. Now if Imlie does return, that is her own choice and she will be at peace with that, it was not forced, she will not be back out of guilt.

I was reading in this thread that Imlie has to be guilt free in order to accept Adi. Yes, in the same #75/76, she says she cannot live with the guilt of breaking of Adini's rishta. She has to realize and accept that she is not to blame, their marriage had issues from the start, the cracks began spreading faster and now Adi/T's will see/understand that Malini is insecure, not emotionally strong to handle situations and is living in a bubble that Anu has placed her in.

Originally posted by: Lodestar

I am also attached to Imlie calling him BS. My only problem is that it is not exclusive to him😔.

If it was exclusive then I wouldn't have wished him to be called Aditya.

Also in case of Imlie & BS, this term is also a demarcation between their status. Her status in his life has already been so devalued, she was not given the haq to call him as her own.

So, now after becoming equal partners for each other, I would prefer her to call him Aditya. I wouldn't mind if the writers have some other exclusive name for him.

Circling back to this just now.....lol I can understand Fary's nostalgia for Nakku and her Saab too.....but Adi-Imlie's case is different for a few reasons that I think Fary also pointed out.

a) She doesn't call him Babusahib cuz of their difference in status in so much as the difference in their background.....a person from the city is always "babu" by default to a person from the village....and the sahib is added in as a respect I think both for him being older than her and also for the respect she feels for him as a person.

So here I would push back a bit on the premise that they are "equal partners" for each other.....the age and background difference will always play some part and they will never have that peer quality between them as a couple I feel......there will always a bit of a nod to the fact that he is older while she's still in college....it plays into things like the fact that he is still a teacher for her in many ways even as she is his wife otherwise. They are building towards an equality of mind between them but there is still that old school kind of respect between them as well where she gives him the regard of holding him in higher esteem while simultaneously having the courage to push back sternly too if she feels he's not right.

b) A major reason this is different from Nakku's "saab".....Nakku never had any other name for her Saab😆.....Imlie has alternated between Babusahib and Sheheri Langoor when she felt the need to😆.....she is capable of giving him other nicknames....so in that sense, Babusahib is also a kind of nickname for him from her side along with being that respectful title.....ek baar Kauvva bhi bula diya tha isne Adi ko.....lol......and Adi himself raised this in his little confession speech where he was like, "Hum isko Jhalli bulaate hain, yeh humein Sheheri Langoor bulaati hai".....so in that sense, the Babusahib is not as much of a mental barrier in Imlie's mind as Saab was for Nakku to overcome....lol

I don't yet know if I want to hear her call him Aditya or Adi....lol for now, Babusahib gives a different flavor to their equation and kuch apna sa hai usmein.....her calling Nishant Chhote Babusahib doesn't factor in much yet cuz she doesn't talk to him that often😆....I feel like N he will ask her to give him a different name aage since he also calls her "Cool dude", so Babusahib will go back to being just for Adi for a while.

Aditya/Adi would sound better at a different stage in their relationship I feel....they aren't there at this point....I also feel the writers will keep that as a line between them until whenever Adi can bring her into his life as his wife......this Babusahib title helps keep a demarcation between them on the city side to keep up the facade in front of the family too that she only considers Adi a kind of older guardian figure.....makes it even easier for everyone to dismiss the possibility they could be anything more😆.

Originally posted by: pamk06

Pehchaan was another word that struck with me. The thing is Imlie and Aditya are in similar in many aspects but they complement each other too in some respects. Where Aditya is practical, Imlie is more emotional and where he is impulsive, Imlie bring in the "theraav" to their relationship . Hence, being more emotionally savant of the two, she stopped him from saying the words that would only bring regret to both of them at this point of time. Personally, I really like that because though he is married to both his love commitment was only to Malini. Hence, now when his feelings have changed, the first person who has the right to hear about it is Malini and not Imlie. By stopping him in the nick of the time and reminding him about this fact not only showed how very strong and mature she is but also how well she knows her BBSB. Because though Aditya due to his impulsive nature would have blurted it out, he would have regretted it later as he had cleared things with Malini. Once he has done that, only then can give her the "words and the "Pehchaan", she so deserves.

Imlie did not ask him for her "haq" because she wanted to give that choice to Aditya just like he gave her the choice. She gave him the right to choose what he wants in the future, and she did not want to burden him with her reminders, hence she choose not to come with him nor give him the Moti Roti. She choose not to give him anything that would pull him back to her. On his path forward, she set him free of any obligation towards her as she wanted Aditya to make an independent decision of what is best only for him, his family and Malini and not take her into consideration. All she gave him was her Sita Maiyaa, the silent support, her best friend who will be his guide and his strength. If and when Aditya comes back to her, it should only be when he is free of all obligation and be allowed to give her the "pehchaan" and acknowledge their "rishta" in his world. That would be his true acceptance of this relationship and when he should be free to say the words that he should not be saying to her even in the dreams.

Aditya actually set himself free only to be bound by Imlie’s boundaries I thought. He has always been one to want to tell the truth atleast in that sense. The fact that he fails to do so at every instance is a different issue. Aditya already knows who he wants to be with. And he is pretty much determined to do what his conscience told him to. He did the acceptance part of it in PD. Telling Malini the truth that he is now Imlie’s is the second bit. But he will not be able to do so because didi behosh ho gayi bhook hadthaal karte karte. He will suffocate living with her but it is not a tie he wants to restrain himself with anymore. The finality of that will happen once Imlie is back in his orbit anyway.

The bigger onus is also on Imlie realizing that Malini’s happiness is not with Aditya. And that Aditya actually means it when he says his relationship with Imlie is the only one that matters. So a lot of it is going to be Imlie’s journey of self-reflection whereas Aditya’s will be one of atonement.

On their partnership - the fact that he mentions honesty, belief/trust and courage as the qualities that binds him to Imlie is so indicative of what these two are to each other. Partners in the truest of sense. He will always motivate her - do teen episode se zyada toh door rakhenge nahin inn dono ko. Which means he will do it in person every time.

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Circling back to this just now.....lol I can understand Fary's nostalgia for Nakku and her Saab too.....but Adi-Imlie's case is different for a few reasons that I think Fary also pointed out.

a) She doesn't call him Babusahib cuz of their difference in status in so much as the difference in their background.....a person from the city is always "babu" by default to a person from the village....and the sahib is added in as a respect I think both for him being older than her and also for the respect she feels for him as a person.

So here I would push back a bit on the premise that they are "equal partners" for each other.....the age and background difference will always play some part and they will never have that peer quality between them as a couple I feel......there will always a bit of a nod to the fact that he is older while she's still in college....it plays into things like the fact that he is still a teacher for her in many ways even as she is his wife otherwise. They are building towards an equality of mind between them but there is still that old school kind of respect between them as well where she gives him the regard of holding him in higher esteem while simultaneously having the courage to push back sternly too if she feels he's not right.

b) A major reason this is different from Nakku's "saab".....Nakku never had any other name for her Saab😆.....Imlie has alternated between Babusahib and Sheheri Langoor when she felt the need to😆.....she is capable of giving him other nicknames....so in that sense, Babusahib is also a kind of nickname for him from her side along with being that respectful title.....ek baar Kauvva bhi bula diya tha isne Adi ko.....lol......and Adi himself raised this in his little confession speech where he was like, "Hum isko Jhalli bulaate hain, yeh humein Sheheri Langoor bulaati hai".....so in that sense, the Babusahib is not as much of a mental barrier in Imlie's mind as Saab was for Nakku to overcome....lol

I don't yet know if I want to hear her call him Aditya or Adi....lol for now, Babusahib gives a different flavor to their equation and kuch apna sa hai usmein.....her calling Nishant Chhote Babusahib doesn't factor in much yet cuz she doesn't talk to him that often😆....I feel like N he will ask her to give him a different name aage since he also calls her "Cool dude", so Babusahib will go back to being just for Adi for a while.

Aditya/Adi would sound better at a different stage in their relationship I feel....they aren't there at this point....I also feel the writers will keep that as a line between them until whenever Adi can bring her into his life as his wife......this Babusahib title helps keep a demarcation between them on the city side to keep up the facade in front of the family too that she only considers Adi a kind of older guardian figure.....makes it even easier for everyone to dismiss the possibility they could be anything more😆.

I am also not expecting Imlie to call him Aditya now. I want her to call him that once their relationship has gained acceptance.

Yes BS is basically used to respectfully call out to any shehri person in PD. The title works given kind of mentor role Adi is playing currently when there relationship is hidden from others. Just that it has been tainted for me because of DC. So in the long-term I would like to see her calling him Aditya. I don't know if I ever want to hear her call him Adi.....it just doesn't sound right.

Originally posted by: Lodestar

I am also not expecting Imlie to call him Aditya now. I want her to call him that once their relationship has gained acceptance.

Yes BS is basically used to respectfully call out to any shehri person in PD. The title works given kind of mentor role Adi is playing currently when there relationship is hidden from others. Just that it has been tainted for me because of DC. So in the long-term I would like to see her calling him Aditya. I don't know if I ever want to hear her call him Adi.....it just doesn't sound right.

LOL maybe Aditya will sound better in Imlie's voice cuz Malini ki tone mein toh Aditya sounds kinda annoying😆.....all depends on how it's adjusted in their relationship when the time comes....and I feel that time is a very long away right now😆

This mentor wala gap between them will remain for a while....especially until she's still completing her college studies and he's still in more of that fussy and strict teacher mode with her😆.

DC ab waapis aa gaya hai Dilli and Mithi is more focused on SK again.....lol so I think we can relax and focus on Babusahib being only for Adi for a while again😆