Adi surrenders to his emotions some more - Page 16

Originally posted by: FlowerHater

Even I feel so😆 unko bolo ghar jamai banne ka offer mile to lapak k haan bol denge😆

He is enjoying his honeymoon ☺️

Yeah, adi is looking for another excuse to stay in PD. Aaj usne khana dekh kar excuse bna diya kal dinner pe chalte hain. Ab age ja kar, fields dekh kar bolega meethi aur SK ke samne, yahan aap sab farming karte ho kya. Chalo kal farming karte hain 🤣

Yeh PD rukne ke liye kuch bhi kar sakta hai. Honeymoon extend karne ke bahane dhoond rha hai. 😆

Originally posted by: pamk06

Ohh yes!! He needs to definitely feel the burden of the choice and decision that he alone made when he married Malini. Imlie did support it but it was all his choice and decision.

@bold 2: That journey is something that I have been waiting for and I think it has kind of started, baby steps yet but the emotional struggle has started to be evident. Ab, we have to see how much "woh isse gol gol ghumate", and what bahanas he comes up , before he accepts his feelings and start facing the repercussions of his wrong choices and decisions.

PD was just small view of his ping pong bahanas from responsibility to farz to closure to career to marzi and he went from one to other within a span of couple of days. I just cant wait to see what he comes up with in Delhi to justify his feelings for Malini and his contradictory actions for Imlie. 😆

I think we saw the Adi upholding his Malini promises till now by sub-consciously blocking his growing attraction for Imli time and again. The way I perceive the story - that phase is not just beginning - its what has been going on till now - in his head - all his over compensating pda with Malini - while growing closer to Imli - even his desperation to get rid of Imli - if he had not been attracted to her and worried sub consciously about it - he may not have been as brutal about sending her back or would have tried harder to tell his family. Part of his extreme reactions to Imli - have been bcos of the sub-conscious awareness of her attraction for him - since he first came to PG. Now there is dawning realization....we are now heading into the - I've toed the line so far and now that I have a full understanding of what I feel - for the better good and in the interest of truth...I'm considering getting this all out before MAlini and facing everyones wrath. Adi seems ready for the truth to come out. As I said earlier - this phase is Imli forcing less than willing Adi to keep his promises. The guy does have selfish traits - but thats why I love him :)

I don't see him justifying anything for Malini - I see a trapped man in Delhi - not a delusional one :)

All is good so far with the realization. Even though I cannot get enough of their chemistry, we are now entering a rather menacing zone. I want Adi to go back now.

Looks like the Imlie team itself is a such a BIG shipper of their jodi and their sizzling chemistry, that they just do not want to end this PD bit...:)

Originally posted by: PPak

I think we saw the Adi upholding his Malini promises till now by sub-consciously blocking his growing attraction for Imli time and again. The way I perceive the story - that phase is not just beginning - its what has been going on till now - in his head - all his over compensating pda with Malini - while growing closer to Imli - even his desperation to get rid of Imli - if he had not been attracted to her and worried sub consciously about it - he may not have been as brutal about sending her back or would have tried harder to tell his family. Part of his extreme reactions to Imli - have been bcos of the sub-conscious awareness of her attraction for him - since he first came to PG. Now there is dawning realization....we are now heading into the - I've toed the line so far and now that I have a full understanding of what I feel - for the better good and in the interest of truth...I'm considering getting this all out before MAlini and facing everyones wrath. Adi seems ready for the truth to come out. As I said earlier - this phase is Imli forcing less than willing Adi to keep his promises. The guy does have selfish traits - but thats why I love him :)

Bang on. I think he is moving into the I know what I want and I do not care what truths get uncovered along the way territory.

Originally posted by: PPak

I think we saw the Adi upholding his Malini promises till now by sub-consciously blocking his growing attraction for Imli time and again. The way I perceive the story - that phase is not just beginning - its what has been going on till now - in his head - all his over compensating pda with Malini - while growing closer to Imli - even his desperation to get rid of Imli - if he had not been attracted to her and worried sub consciously about it - he may not have been as brutal about sending her back or would have tried harder to tell his family. Part of his extreme reactions to Imli - have been bcos of the sub-conscious awareness of her attraction for him - since he first came to PG. Now there is dawning realization....we are now heading into the - I've toed the line so far and now that I have a full understanding of what I feel - for the better good and in the interest of truth...I'm considering getting this all out before MAlini and facing everyones wrath. Adi seems ready for the truth to come out. As I said earlier - this phase is Imli forcing less than willing Adi to keep his promises. The guy does have selfish traits - but thats why I love him :)

I'm not sure I'd say this shows his selfishness.. stepping back isn't selfless if he knows he loves another person, it's just cruel. Pretending with Malini that everything is fine when it's not to satisfy a promise is awful.

It's strange how different things affect people differently but yes that's my take. Not to say BBS isn't selfish though 😆 that he is I don't disagree at all. But becoming a Dev who's neither here nor there benefits no one. All it does is build extra resentment in people. (Yes ok not the same circumstances, but whatever there is a parallel here)

Originally posted by: PyaarDostiHai

I'm not sure I'd say this shows his selfishness.. stepping back isn't selfless if he knows he loves another person, it's just cruel. Pretending with Malini that everything is fine when it's not to satisfy a promise is awful.

It's strange how different things affect people differently but yes that's my take. Not to say BBS isn't selfish though 😆 that he is I don't disagree at all. But becoming a Dev who's neither here nor there benefits no one. All it does is build extra resentment in people. (Yes ok not the same circumstances, but whatever there is a parallel here)

He is not a Dev is what the gist is. Aditya has always been one for let’s get the truth out kind of a guy. Circumstances and he himself because of Malini stopped disclosure previously. It will now be Imlie. The day he knows that Imlie is who he wants to be with, he will want to be with her and that will be his truth. Imlie is going to be the reason he continues to stay with Malini. Will this cause resentment? Of course. You do not want any man to stay with any woman pretending to be something he is not. But that is also the fire Malini will have to walk through. Aditya and Imlie already have a cross each to bear.

Originally posted by: PyaarDostiHai

I'm not sure I'd say this shows his selfishness.. stepping back isn't selfless if he knows he loves another person, it's just cruel. Pretending with Malini that everything is fine when it's not to satisfy a promise is awful.

It's strange how different things affect people differently but yes that's my take. Not to say BBS isn't selfish though 😆 that he is I don't disagree at all. But becoming a Dev who's neither here nor there benefits no one. All it does is build extra resentment in people. (Yes ok not the same circumstances, but whatever there is a parallel here)

I agree that him stepping back from the promise to Malini won't be the selfish part.....selfish would be if he wants to forge ahead without accounting for his decisions.

The tricky part with Adi is that he can be very black and white/righteous about the TRUTH sometimes.....so if he decides something is the ABSOLUTE truth, then he doesn't back down from it....that is how he rationalizes it to himself also then....ki yeh sach hai aur ab hum iske liye hi ladenge.

That said, I don't think he's yet reached that point of "absolution" regarding this particular truth of him and Imlie. My sense still is that yes he's growing closer to her, closer to his realization of what she means to him.....but some bigger guilt will crop up to put everything in a grey zone again.....Adi will yearn for a black and white choice....but milegi nahin.

Regarding his attraction for Imlie that was in his subconscience all this while and is now just reaching the conscious space.....the issue is actually more complex than that.....it's not just that he was attracted to her all this while and suppressed it by pushing her away brutally....it's also that he did indeed accept her as his wife subconsciously from back then too and was too terrified to face it so blundered into another marriage to deny that he felt that attachment to Imlie as her husband. And that second part of this problem is the bigger deal.....if it was an attraction, love jo bhi....he could still say, oh but I'm still married to Malini only so that is the only commitment I can keep......the problem is that his heart tells him not just that he now loves Imlie, but also that he wants Imlie as his wife......and this monumental realization is slowly building up that he also made a commitment to Imlie (a commitment he made BEFORE Malini) when he married her with rituals and that is what his soul is now pushing him towards consciously admitting.

How do you even begin facing a commitment whose validity you yourself denied so adamantly for so long? That's the conundrum.....lol

Originally posted by: PPak

I think we saw the Adi upholding his Malini promises till now by sub-consciously blocking his growing attraction for Imli time and again. The way I perceive the story - that phase is not just beginning - its what has been going on till now - in his head - all his over compensating pda with Malini - while growing closer to Imli - even his desperation to get rid of Imli - if he had not been attracted to her and worried sub consciously about it - he may not have been as brutal about sending her back or would have tried harder to tell his family. Part of his extreme reactions to Imli - have been bcos of the sub-conscious awareness of her attraction for him - since he first came to PG. Now there is dawning realization....we are now heading into the - I've toed the line so far and now that I have a full understanding of what I feel - for the better good and in the interest of truth...I'm considering getting this all out before MAlini and facing everyones wrath. Adi seems ready for the truth to come out. As I said earlier - this phase is Imli forcing less than willing Adi to keep his promises. The guy does have selfish traits - but thats why I love him :)

I agree that he always had an emotional connection with Imlie and many of his actions were due to his subconscious awareness of it but I do not think that his PDA with Malini was overcompensation. He totally and fully believed that he loved Malini and Malini is the only correct partner for him. and the PDA was the result of that truth. His desperation to get rid of Imlie was also due to this fact that he could not afford or did not want to lose Malini. The bike scene was also a result of his fear that Imlie's presence might affect his marriage.

In my opinion, his true conscious emotional struggle and awareness for Imlie only began after the bike scene and it escalated from there to the first doubt with the alter ego scene that things are not as he thought they are. Even now he is just questioning his action and still is in denial.

The reason I say that PDA was real and he did not think that it was wrong or that he did not have any clue consciously that he was toeing the line is because there was no jijak in his interaction with Malini vs now after the first doubt crept him. In the phone call, he could not say things that used to come naturally to him in the past. He deflected because he could not lie. Second was when Imlie brought up Malini, there was true uncomfortableness there and again he deflected unlike where in the past he would have said something thus asserting the point that Moon is the only wife for him.

Originally posted by: PyaarDostiHai

I'm not sure I'd say this shows his selfishness.. stepping back isn't selfless if he knows he loves another person, it's just cruel. Pretending with Malini that everything is fine when it's not to satisfy a promise is awful.

It's strange how different things affect people differently but yes that's my take. Not to say BBS isn't selfish though 😆 that he is I don't disagree at all. But becoming a Dev who's neither here nor there benefits no one. All it does is build extra resentment in people. (Yes ok not the same circumstances, but whatever there is a parallel here)

Yes - selfish not for this scenario. More about how he moved ahead with Malini - without fully understanding Imli's plight. Maybe he was emotionally distraught, confused and not thinking straight...but the whole - I take no accountability for what just happened at PG - when Imli stepped in to save him - I don't recognize it - so Imli you go do your thing - without considering impact to her life - just because he maybe suspects she used him to get to Delhi. And again and again moving ahead with the wedding with Malini - saying it was his choice that needed to prevail vs everything else.

Even with Malini and Imli - he often shows signs of wanting his own way - sacrificial Adi is not one Ive seen a lot of ...hehe

Originally posted by: AreYaar

I agree that him stepping back from the promise to Malini won't be the selfish part.....selfish would be if he wants to forge ahead without accounting for his decisions.

The tricky part with Adi is that he can be very black and white/righteous about the TRUTH sometimes.....so if he decides something is the ABSOLUTE truth, then he doesn't back down from it....that is how he rationalizes it to himself also then....ki yeh sach hai aur ab hum iske liye hi ladenge.

That said, I don't think he's yet reached that point of "absolution" regarding this particular truth of him and Imlie. My sense still is that yes he's growing closer to her, closer to his realization of what she means to him.....but some bigger guilt will crop up to put everything in a grey zone again.....Adi will yearn for a black and white choice....but milegi nahin.

Regarding his attraction for Imlie that was in his subconscience all this while and is now just reaching the conscious space.....the issue is actually more complex than that.....it's not just that he was attracted to her all this while and suppressed it by pushing her away brutally....it's also that he did indeed accept her as his wife subconsciously from back then too and was too terrified to face it so blundered into another marriage to deny that he felt that attachment to Imlie as her husband. And that second part of this problem is the bigger deal.....if it was an attraction, love jo bhi....he could still say, oh but I'm still married to Malini only so that is the only commitment I can keep......the problem is that his heart tells him not just that he now loves Imlie, but also that he wants Imlie as his wife......and this monumental realization is slowly building up that he also made a commitment to Imlie (a commitment he made BEFORE Malini) when he married her with rituals and that is what his soul is now pushing him towards consciously admitting.

How do you even begin facing a commitment whose validity you yourself denied so adamantly for so long? That's the conundrum.....lol

I think between love and commitment, he will latch on to commitment because it more easier to accept as it still comes in the boundary of the forced relationship. Love would take a whole lot more for him to accept because that would basically be accepting that he was wrong.

Commitment also is difficult but the way he keeps declaring that she is his wife and with the ease with which he took Imlie name this time (vs last time where he was struggling and took Moon name instead) I think he is halfway there in accepting it. But I am not sure if it’s deliberate and I need to go back and see the scenes but he only questions himself where “marzi” come out of his mouth. Calling her his wife or giving her his name comes under that “forced but still commitment” tag so he is Ok with it and never question himself but “marzi” is whole different ball game and that is where he is struggling and questioning his words and actions.