Shahid Kapoor didn't want to date a working woman - Page 22

Originally posted by: Maroonporsche

Tum Kya Jano Kitna Maza Aata Hai Dil Tod Ke 😆

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Originally posted by: BirdieNumNum

fresh is good, better than stale. Much better 😉😂

He wants to date women from a different profession....they work too...title is wrong...its ok if he didn't want to date or marry an actress...

Originally posted by: .Lonewalker.

I don't know Shahid personally. No idea if he is a dominating control freak like he is being made out to be. If that's the case & he "domesticated" his wife that's problematic. But I don't see why it's a problem if being a housewife is Mira's own choice. I read in few comments people called her lazy bum who doesn't do any work & I was further shocked to read that apparently being a housewife is a pathetic choice that needs to be looked down upon coz no one should sit free at home & mooch off of their spouses. Every woman needs to go out & make some financial earnings or else she is a doormat. Like seriously?

Believe it or not, for a kid's mental health & general wellbeing, it's actually preferable that at least one parent always stay close to him/her & be attentive to his/her moods & emotional needs. No nanny can do this. From only a parent's attentive care, a child gets the assurance that he/she is loved, wanted and is in a secured environment. And that can be ANY one of the parents. Either mother or father. I would appreciate whoever does it for their kid. Now that's another thing that usually mothers are better at it than fathers. I am not looking down upon fathers, fathers can do it too if they put their minds on it & is keen to learn, but to mothers it comes naturally. It's nature. Sometimes societal norms stem from nature & biology too & not each & every one of them needs to be changed or defied just to prove a point.

For middle & lower class families, there's not much choices available. Often it takes both the spouses' earnings to run the household smoothly. I myself belong to a middle class family & both my parents were working. I have grown up literally by myself & honestly speaking, I was not a very happy kid. I used to envy my friends who had at home mothers to take care of their every whim or had the time to chatter with them. As a child, I never had a very emotional bond with my mother. In my childhood I had felt very lonely & I often used to even doubt whether my mother loved me as much as my friends mothers (who were housewives) love them. My mother's usually cranky mood didn't help much either. Now that I have grown up & I myself work too, I of course understand that she was just exhausted. Working a full day leaves you with very little energy left. Imagine taking care of household works & dealing with children's tantrums with that little leftover energy.... Of course you are going to be irritated. NOW, I understand that & I salute my Mom for managing both work & house at the same time. But back then, I was young & I didn't understand that. I just used to see her as a guardian who's absent for most of the day & when returns, only scolds me. I know, I certainly do NOT want the same thing for my child. I want my child to feel secure in the knowledge that his/her parents are attentive to him/her & love him/her a lot. Am I bending down under societal pressure? I don't think so. I just want what's good for my child.

Of course I cannot marry a jobless guy who can look after our children while I work. I am a private sector employee & my earning is just moderate enough to maintain a comfortable middle class life. I have my own parents to take care of. My husband will have his parents too, probably a sibling too. Then we are gonna have child / children. Then my earning alone won't be enough to maintain this comfortable lifestyle anymore. So of course I need a guy who earns at least as much as I do, if not more. Am I being regressive & not so woke? Maybe. But who cares? I know I am being practical.

I won't be able to give up working as my earnings will be needed to maintain our comfort level, so I will have to look for freelancing or work from home projects for at least 5-7 years so that I can look after my child well. If my husband volunteers to do so, I will gladly let him. But still the first year he would need my help as you know....he won't be biologically functional as a breastfeeding parent, irrespective of however much progress we make😆 Both leaving work or earning less is not a very practical situation, so I will rather send him to work. That's not society pressuring me. That's me finding a practical solution.

People from the elite class, someone like Mira, thankfully has a choice. She herself comes from a well off family, married a rich husband & so has enough money to live a comfortable life. Her earnings is not really needed to run the house. Being independent, having a profession is certainly a good thing, but sacrificing your children's well being for it might not look appealing to everyone. Mira has the luxury to be a present, attentive mother to her children and she is just utilising it. She did nothing to be ashamed of. At least not in this respect.

No offense, but aren't you making a sweeping generalization here? I empathize with what you went through in your childhood, but not every kid with working mothers have the same experience. I had a working mother, 70% of friends did. We were all very happy and carefree kids in our childhood.

So this stereotype that you're trying to push that "being a working mother means sacrificing the well-being of your kids", is a very very harmful one and actually strengthens conservative views on working mothers.

Working mothers already have a lot of judgment from society to deal with, I'm sure they don't need more. Thanks.

And contrary to what many people think, kids don't always need a parent hovering over them. That's called being a "helicopter parent", and very few kids need it.

"All kids need a parent 24*7 around them" is a very big misconception that people use to pressurize working mothers.

The toxicity in this thread has reached a whole new level. 😆

the simple point here is that grown humans are mature enough to make their decision and deal with its consequences and everyone should respect others decision and not pass judgement

Originally posted by: BettyA1

Did he say working women? He said actress...

After dating Kareena and Priyanka I am surprised if he even wanted to date again🤣

Jokes apart....its his personal choice....I know a lot of people who don't want marry doctors....kyonki raat mein 2 baje bhi emergency ho toh jaana padta hai...people have their own preferences....he also said that there is nothing wrong with actresses focusing on their careers....he just didn't want someone who gives the profession priority over personal life.....nothing is wrong with that..its the way people think and decide to lead their lives....why judge them for it??

People can't live their lives the way feminists want them too.....he didn't marry an actress and then made her life hell by asking her not to ay attention to their career...that would have been wrong...he married a girl who probably had the same perspective about life and family as he does....

Originally posted by: Fallen-Embers

The toxicity in this thread has reached a whole new level. 😆

Yes, thanks to the blatant sexism and prejudice against working women.

"Women who work risk the well-being of their kids", " Kids who have homemaker moms are so much happier" and all that BS. Keep em coming, I'll get the popcorn. 😆

Originally posted by: Mahisa22

Yes, thanks to the blatant sexism and prejudice against working women.

"Women who work risk the well-being of their kids", " Kids who have homemaker moms are so much happier" and all that BS. Keep em coming, I'll get the popcorn. 😆

your bigotry against homemakers has contributed to the toxicity both you and those who are disrespecting working woman are equally toxic so.....