Shahid Kapoor didn't want to date a working woman - Page 12

Originally posted by: aish.

Goodness this thread is ridiculous.

And maybe I'm taking this personally because I agree with Shahid 100%. I

N here I am wondering why did I defend Shahid for 2 hours! 😆 But well, it was fun.

Originally posted by: Fallen-Embers

N here I am wondering why did I defend Shahid for 2 hours! 😆 But well, it was fun.

2 hours just trolling ? 🤗

Originally posted by: Maroonporsche

2 hours just trolling ? 🤗

Agar Hrithik hota, tho mann ko shanti to milti. 😭

Watched the entire video. As expected. Mountain out of an imaginary mole-hill. He said actress, not working women. And waise bhi, uski marzi. Jisse shaadi karni thi karli.

Originally posted by: BirdieNumNum

i think Shahid is happier without these two sorry females. One married a guy who's nearing senior citizen status, and probably needs to be popping pills to be able to just make it through the day. The other seems to have married her kid. Sad, very sad😂

as for sonakshi sinha, lesser said of her the better. So i'm gonna stay mum 😂

So according to you Shahid is happy with someone who is 14 years younger but Kareena is suffering by marrying an older guy and Priyanka is distressed by marrying a younger one?

I don't know Shahid personally. No idea if he is a dominating control freak like he is being made out to be. If that's the case & he "domesticated" his wife that's problematic. But I don't see why it's a problem if being a housewife is Mira's own choice. I read in few comments people called her lazy bum who doesn't do any work & I was further shocked to read that apparently being a housewife is a pathetic choice that needs to be looked down upon coz no one should sit free at home & mooch off of their spouses. Every woman needs to go out & make some financial earnings or else she is a doormat. Like seriously?

Believe it or not, for a kid's mental health & general wellbeing, it's actually preferable that at least one parent always stay close to him/her & be attentive to his/her moods & emotional needs. No nanny can do this. From only a parent's attentive care, a child gets the assurance that he/she is loved, wanted and is in a secured environment. And that can be ANY one of the parents. Either mother or father. I would appreciate whoever does it for their kid. Now that's another thing that usually mothers are better at it than fathers. I am not looking down upon fathers, fathers can do it too if they put their minds on it & is keen to learn, but to mothers it comes naturally. It's nature. Sometimes societal norms stem from nature & biology too & not each & every one of them needs to be changed or defied just to prove a point.

For middle & lower class families, there's not much choices available. Often it takes both the spouses' earnings to run the household smoothly. I myself belong to a middle class family & both my parents were working. I have grown up literally by myself & honestly speaking, I was not a very happy kid. I used to envy my friends who had at home mothers to take care of their every whim or had the time to chatter with them. As a child, I never had a very emotional bond with my mother. In my childhood I had felt very lonely & I often used to even doubt whether my mother loved me as much as my friends mothers (who were housewives) love them. My mother's usually cranky mood didn't help much either. Now that I have grown up & I myself work too, I of course understand that she was just exhausted. Working a full day leaves you with very little energy left. Imagine taking care of household works & dealing with children's tantrums with that little leftover energy.... Of course you are going to be irritated. NOW, I understand that & I salute my Mom for managing both work & house at the same time. But back then, I was young & I didn't understand that. I just used to see her as a guardian who's absent for most of the day & when returns, only scolds me. I know, I certainly do NOT want the same thing for my child. I want my child to feel secure in the knowledge that his/her parents are attentive to him/her & love him/her a lot. Am I bending down under societal pressure? I don't think so. I just want what's good for my child.

Of course I cannot marry a jobless guy who can look after our children while I work. I am a private sector employee & my earning is just moderate enough to maintain a comfortable middle class life. I have my own parents to take care of. My husband will have his parents too, probably a sibling too. Then we are gonna have child / children. Then my earning alone won't be enough to maintain this comfortable lifestyle anymore. So of course I need a guy who earns at least as much as I do, if not more. Am I being regressive & not so woke? Maybe. But who cares? I know I am being practical.

I won't be able to give up working as my earnings will be needed to maintain our comfort level, so I will have to look for freelancing or work from home projects for at least 5-7 years so that I can look after my child well. If my husband volunteers to do so, I will gladly let him. But still the first year he would need my help as you know....he won't be biologically functional as a breastfeeding parent, irrespective of however much progress we make😆 Both leaving work or earning less is not a very practical situation, so I will rather send him to work. That's not society pressuring me. That's me finding a practical solution.

People from the elite class, someone like Mira, thankfully has a choice. She herself comes from a well off family, married a rich husband & so has enough money to live a comfortable life. Her earnings is not really needed to run the house. Being independent, having a profession is certainly a good thing, but sacrificing your children's well being for it might not look appealing to everyone. Mira has the luxury to be a present, attentive mother to her children and she is just utilising it. She did nothing to be ashamed of. At least not in this respect.

While I don’t really find shahids POV offensive , what’s with people working out who got the better “deal” in terms of a spouse?

Ever thought if they all love and understand each other then they all good a “good deal”...because that’s all that matters ...😒

Yeh sab pedigree, young looking, old looking, large nose, colour of the hair strands , bank balance... 😂...u guys sound like a suffocating matrimonial site with “requirements” like fair, thin, convent educated , no brothers or sisters 😒

Shahid has always been a control freak misogynist man..i can only say kareena did the best for herself..she must have felt free when she went from shahid to saif..i can never imagine her ruling in her professional life the way she has after marriage and kids if it was shahid she married..saif is a very secure..open minded guy

also meera is no middle class housewife who really does stuff..she must have equal amount of help for all the chores and kids..the difference is she just doesn't do anything and only criticizes others who do and have an identity of her own..who can forget her offensive puppy comment on working mothers..it reeks of her own insecurities..

@Lonewalker: Amazing post. I commend you for being able to understand your mother, otherwise it just leaves one bitter. Even I did not grow up with my parents, I was brought up by my grandparents as both my parents were working. But since I had them, I really didn't miss my parents. In fact, I was more pampered than my friends who grew up with their parents were. So...

However, slowly my mom started to take over household responsibilities since my grandparents were growing older, that was when I was in my teens. N yes, I'm more dependent on my mother than I am on my father. I couldn't care less even if he went missing for days, but if my mom is missing for a few hours, I become cranky. Lol. That makes me sexist both ways, I guess. 😆

N I agree, a child needs to have one of their parents with them at least. No matter how rich they are, or how poor.

N frankly, as for the jobless guy thing, I wouldn't mind marrying a jobless guy if I was as rich as Shahid. But I'm not, so of course, it is only practical to marry someone who is able to contribute and sustain a family along with me.

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