Shahid Kapoor didn't want to date a working woman - Page 17

Originally posted by: Hottspott

At the end of the day Shahid got a better deal in Mira...a fresher, younger and more beautiful homely girl, an ideal wife material. Also, He being from the industry must have known about actress's ratecard which is why he must have taken the decision to not date them anymore.

As for Mira being a homemaker, she is blessed to have such a privileged life. People who are bashing her for her lifestyle are jelous souls is all i'd say.

fresh is good, better than stale. Much better 😉😂

I hope all those who talks about fresher, younger and ratecards are not women otherwise i would feel really sorry for all womankind

Originally posted by: Kaya65

I hope all those who talks about fresher, younger and ratecards are not women otherwise i would feel really sorry for all womankind

Yes. Also feeling sorry for humankind reading the comments here. So gross. Talking about fresh and stale when talking about people as if we are buying food.

As for Shahid, I am so glad Kareena and Priyanka found better partners who suited them.

What a misleading title! No where does he state that he doesn't want to date working women, he said actresses, laid out his reasons, he also said the same could apply for actresses too, there are plenty of men and women who don't want to date people who share the same profession as them.

Originally posted by: gilmores

Well nice to see things haven't changed. Years ago we shamed women for working, now we shame them for not working, whereas men deserve praise either way!

Mind you we now expect women to do 2 jobs and not 1 - even with working, women are expected to still take care of the primary home tasks - cooking, cleaning, childcare.

I can't even make heads or tails of this thread anymore. But I've always found this "super mom with a super career" ideal problematic cuz anything less than that is looked down upon... as we witnessed it firsthand here.

People need to stop imposing unrealistic standards on women to live up to society's perception of a "perfectly feminist modern woman" cuz that's also doing them a disservice much like forcing a career woman to turn into a Stepford wife.

There are plenty of jobs out there that aren't high-stress but I really don't think a working mom can balance life and work together if her work is all-consuming like most of the corporate and high-paying jobs are.... certainly not without those women paying a very heavy price. We might not see it on the outside but they're often struggling to keep it together.

Am I then asking women to drop it all and turn into a Stepford wife or be like Mira instead? Absolutely not. All I'm saying is that there's something seriously wrong with expecting women to manage it ALL--receive education from top tier schools, land their dream jobs, marry a guy who is much more successful than her (cuz let's face it--most of the women date and marry up), have kids, same husband who also sympathizes with her and helps her do the dishes, train them perfectly.... and keep turning the wheel like a hamster.

It's clear that Shahid found someone whose values align with his. So if two people are on the same page and have figured out a way to make their marriage work, I don't know why some people who don't even know the ins and outs of their relationship have such a massive problem with her being a stay-at-home mom. Triggered for all the wrong reasons? Perhaps.

I swear, some of the "expectations" being dished out here would need all the women to come together and upend the system into a matriarchal society against all odds or just marry each other instead... so that we can all be "equal." 😵

Originally posted by: Lord_Voldemort

Mira never got the opportunity to become her own person unlike PC and KK. From her parents' daughter, she became Shahid's wife, with no individuality of her own.

It's still concerning, IMO.

I don't think it's concerning at all. If Mira hadn't married Shahid, she would have married someone else. She was looking for marriage and that's why it was an arranged marriage... with two families who were in agreement. You make it sound like she wasn't ready for a serious commitment and was about dive deep into a career of her choice but in walked this sexist dude and turned her into a Stepford wife! I find this whole line of reasoning so preposterous.

I wonder what you would have to say about some of the rural areas and remote villages in the Indian subcontinent where women are actually discriminated against and forced into doing things that would leave anyone dumbfounded... or perhaps the Middle East where women still have a long way to go on free will. The last thing we need is people gunning down Mira for choosing to prioritize her family over a conventional career just because she can afford it.

Originally posted by: Lord_Voldemort

Mira never got the opportunity to become her own person unlike PC and KK. From her parents' daughter, she became Shahid's wife, with no individuality of her own.

It's still concerning, IMO.

ya, it sucks that she is going from a happy childhood to a happy married life, no? 😛
She really needs to go through the experience of finding her own individuality first, no? 😛

by the way, how do you know she has no individuality of her own? Do women who know early on what they want don't qualify for said individuality? Does she really need to have a miserable time of it first? Hate on men, be wild and reckless? I mean is all that necessary? Isn't the point of finding one's "individuality" to be happy, and not the other way around? 😉 😂

Originally posted by: Mo0nLighting

I can't even make heads or tails of this thread anymore. But I've always found this "super mom with a super career" ideal problematic cuz anything less than that is looked down upon... as we witnessed it firsthand here.

People need to stop imposing unrealistic standards on women to live up to society's perception of a "perfectly feminist modern woman" cuz that's also doing them a disservice much like forcing a career woman to turn into a Stepford wife.

There are plenty of jobs out there that aren't high-stress but I really don't think a working mom can balance life and work together if her work is all-consuming like most of the corporate and high-paying jobs are.... certainly not without those women paying a very heavy price. We might not see it on the outside but they're often struggling to keep it together.

Am I then asking women to drop it all and turn into a Stepford wife or be like Mira instead? Absolutely not. All I'm saying is that there's something seriously wrong with expecting women to manage it ALL--receive education from top tier schools, land their dream jobs, marry a guy who is much more successful than her (cuz let's face it--most of the women date and marry up), have kids, same husband who also sympathizes with her and helps her do the dishes, train them perfectly.... and keep turning the wheel like a hamster.

It's clear that Shahid found someone whose values align with his. So if two people are on the same page and have figured out a way to make their marriage work, I don't know why some people who don't even know the ins and outs of their relationship have such a massive problem with her being a stay-at-home mom. Triggered for all the wrong reasons? Perhaps.

I swear, some of the "expectations" being dished out here would need all the women to come together and upend the system into a matriarchal society against all odds or just marry each other instead... so that we can all be "equal." 😵

😂 the title is misleading, but do you really have to figure it all out in order to have a good time?😉😂

that reminds me, who is looking down upon females who don't live up to the vision of a "perfectly feminist modern woman"? As far as i think, a wife doing well financially/ career-wise would be icing on the cake. But it would be fine even if she didn't. There's really no pressure on her either way unless they needed the double income... in which case, all that finding one's "individuality" and liberal agenda is meaningless anyway. 😃

Originally posted by: BirdieNumNum

😂 the title is misleading, but do you really have to figure it all out in order to have a good time?😉😂

that reminds me, who is looking down upon females who don't live up to the vision of a "perfectly feminist modern woman"? As far as i think, a wife doing well financially/ career-wise would be icing on the cake. But it would be fine even if she didn't. There's really no pressure on her either way unless they needed the double income... in which case, all that finding one's "individuality" and liberal agenda is meaningless anyway. 😃

@bold: of course not ... this thread is a fine example of it.😆

Ironically, I saw some women looking down on Mira for being a stay-at-home mom ...probably cuz they think the only way to salvage her worth is by dragging her butt outta the house to pursue a full blown career. It looked like a vicious circle with women being shamed no matter what they do.

Anyways, I know that the pressure on women to earn and do well professionally is not as high as it is for men... and I'm glad you like a successful, rich wife and wouldn't turn her into a housewife, Mr. Birdie. You win brownie points there and can take it easy now.😆

Originally posted by: Mo0nLighting

People need to stop imposing unrealistic standards on women to live up to society's perception of a "perfectly feminist modern woman" cuz that's also doing them a disservice much like forcing a career woman to turn into a Stepford wife.

Earlier patriarchy had set roles for men and women. Men work outside and bring the money and women work inside the home and take care of kids. Post-80s patriarchy is even worse for women. Now they're expected to be superwomen who work outside and bring the paycheck and also do all the domestic work and take care of the kids.

It's easy to write theoretically without any basis in how things really are for Indian women. Have people here seen arranged marriage ads lately? Now men demand "working women." Do you think it's because Indian men are suddenly feminists? No, they've just realized they can now get domestic workers who will also get them a paycheck.

Let people have the choice to do whatever they want to do. If Shahid and Mira want a traditional life that makes them happy, how does it matter to anyone else?