Shahid Kapoor didn't want to date a working woman - Page 10

Originally posted by: Mo0nLighting

Working women with kids (at least in a corporate setting) are almost always at their wits end trying to balance work life with kids and household chores on a daily basis. Anything else on their plate threatens to topple the balance in their lives that's almost always hanging by a thread. Even during covid right now, people are stuck at home but guess who's doing double the work, loaded up on caffeine and functioning with their last brain cell? Working women with kids.

Men still don't pull as much weight as women in the house when it comes to taking care of kids, household chores, etc. and I don't think that'll change anytime soon. I know a lot of working women play house AND work at the same time and given the choice to not work and given their husbands make plenty to cover all the costs with enough discretionary income to have fun as well, I'm confident that majority of the working women would happily take that option ... ONLY because trying to walk that line of balance is SOOO so difficult that it comes down to either work or family after a point just to maintain their sanity. Women around you might make it look easy and effortless but it's not.

Career women are also often fighting the clock cuz their careers almost always comes at a cost... and that's usually relationship/marriage. They're well into their late 30's or 40 when they have their first child in some cases and yet, their maternal leave isn't generous enough for them to take care of their babies during the most crucial times of their lives.

But I guess these are just additional points to throw out there cuz I don't really have a strong opinion for or against housewives. As far as Mira is concerned, she is lucky .... a lot of people compromise their passions because they *have* to work in a field that makes enough money to meet financial needs. If there's anything I would wanna "advise" to women like her, she should probably pursue something she's passionate about so that she can grow as a person. It does make me uncomfortable thinking of someone whose only hobbies include shopping, having fun and not doing anything to stimulate the mind or for personal growth.

There's also that possibility of your marriage going south and then what? What is the woman supposed to do? Live off alimony? Just to be prudent and to always have a plan B, having a career to uphold your identity and interests is essential too.

This, so much this. It is all about one's priorities, happiness, peace, and comfort. And not about making a point.

Originally posted by: Fallen-Embers

Maroon, stop trolling in a troll thread. 😆

I’m just having some fun at someone else expense 😂

Originally posted by: Lord_Voldemort

This isn't about shaming elite women who choose to be homemakers. Yeah, I mean at the end of the day they are not contributing much to society, but it's not a crime.

However, this topic is about Shahid and his clear preference for women who choose to not work and dedicate their lives to him. Again, no crime! But then misogyny or sexism aren't classified as crimes either.

So his problem was with "actresses" is because they have to work so hard and it's not possible to get enough time with them? Well, any serious profession requires dedication and time. Heck, I am not an actor or actress and I have to slog 12 hours a day in my job. So he wanted someone who didn't want to pursue any serious career and just sit at home and be happy to be his trophy wife.

It's mighty hypocritical of Shahid because he himself is in the same profession and has to put the same kind of hours into his job. He clearly wanted someone who didn't have any aspirations (I mean such a shame, Mira is so well-educated and pretty, she could have been anything she wanted, yet he got her domesticated and not pursuing any career). He married her when she was just 21 for christ sake, before she could even figure out what she wanted in life.

The way you're misconstruing Shahid's statement and making up farfetched theories on it is getting absolutely ridiculous at this point. Never even ONCE did he imply even indirectly that he wants a trophy wife who is happy to stay home. He clearly said out loud that he wants to now date a woman in a different field because his past relationships with actresses did not work out. Give the guy a break cuz he is allowed make dating and relationship choices for himself to meet his own personal goals much like everyone else.

I'm also not sure what you're trying to get at here. You want two people in a profession with grueling hours to make do with fifteen minutes each day and meet each other half way to mathematical precision just to make sure there is no gender inequality in the dynamics? Is that the end goal?

Originally posted by: Mo0nLighting

The way you're misconstruing Shahid's statement and making up farfetched theories on it is getting absolutely ridiculous at this point. Never even ONCE did he imply even indirectly that he wants a trophy wife who is happy to stay home. He clearly said out loud that he wants to now date a woman in a different field because his past relationships with actresses did not work out. Give the guy a break cuz he is allowed make dating and relationship choices for himself to meet his own personal goals much like everyone else.

I'm also not sure what you're trying to get at here. You want two people in a profession with grueling hours to make do with fifteen minutes each day and meet each other half way to mathematical precision just to make sure there is no gender inequality in the dynamics? Is that the end goal?

You're on a roll! I wish I could like your posts 100 times. 😆

You just can't create some theory and pass it off as the truth.

"He married at her 21, and domesticated her."

Yeah, okay. Did he drag her to the mandap and marry her, was her choice not involved? She seems to love her husband and is happy. If that's fine for her, who dafuq is anybody to question it. It may not be ideal for everybody, agreed. But nothing in the world is.

Tomorrow, if she says she was domesticated, and wanted something else from life instead, while Shahid held her against her will. That's a different matter. She'll have my support 100%.

Originally posted by: Fallen-Embers

You're on a roll! I wish I could like your posts 100 times. 😆

You just can't create some theory and pass it off as the truth. He married at her 21, and domesticated her. Yeah, okay. Did he drag her to the mandap and marry her, was her choice not involved? She seems to love her husband and happy. If that's fine for her, who dafuq is anybody to question it. It's not ideal, agreed. But nothing in the world is.

Tomorrow, if she says she was domesticated, and wanted something else from life instead while Shahid held her against her will. That's a different matter. She'll have my support 100%.

Thank you .... must be all that caffeine.😆

I wouldn't even say that he "domesticated" her cuz that makes it look like it was his choice more than hers. He didn't "do" it to her.... she did it to herself. Why can't it be her active choice to marry him and have kids while doing all the ads and side gigs she does as a result of being a celebrity wife?

I've watched interviews of Shahid and Mira and she is anything but a meek girl who stays complicit to her husband's sexist "atyachaar" on her. She clearly knows what she's doing and if she develops professional interests down the road, I'm sure she'll use her resources to pursue them. Some people's feminism rears its head when it's not even relevant to the people involved.

Originally posted by: Mo0nLighting

Thank you .... must be all that caffeine.😆

I wouldn't even say that he "domesticated" her cuz that makes it look like it was his choice more than hers. He didn't "do" it to her.... she did it to herself. Why can't it be her active choice to marry him and have kids while doing all the ads and side gigs she does as a result of being a celebrity wife?

I've watched interviews of Shahid and Mira and she is anything but a meek girl who stays complicit to her husband's sexist "atyachaar" on her. She clearly knows what she's doing and if she develops professional interests down the road, I'm sure she'll use her resources to pursue them. Some people's feminism rears its head when it's not even relevant to the people involved.

Ahem...if Hrithik ever wants to marry me, I'll drop everything and run to him. N yeah, that'd be my active (or destructive) choice. 😆

Also, Kangana gets to eat shit, so that's an incentive. 🤣

Originally posted by: Fallen-Embers

Ahem...if Hrithik ever wants to marry me, I'll drop everything and run to him. N yeah, that'd be my active (or destructive) choice. 😆

Also, Kangana gets to eat shit, so that's an incentive. 🤣

Unlike Saif, Hrithik is the "Greek God" of bollywood and worth his weight in gold no matter what his family tree looks like .. so I'll cut you some slack there for getting carried away.😆😉 We can all make exceptions for that special one.😎

Originally posted by: Mo0nLighting

Thank you .... must be all that caffeine.😆

I wouldn't even say that he "domesticated" her cuz that makes it look like it was his choice more than hers. He didn't "do" it to her.... she did it to herself. Why can't it be her active choice to marry him and have kids while doing all the ads and side gigs she does as a result of being a celebrity wife?

I've watched interviews of Shahid and Mira and she is anything but a meek girl who stays complicit to her husband's sexist "atyachaar" on her. She clearly knows what she's doing and if she develops professional interests down the road, I'm sure she'll use her resources to pursue them. Some people's feminism rears its head when it's not even relevant to the people involved.

He wouldn't stop her?😆 Isn't he the one who insisted PC and KK turn vegetarian becauise he is vegetarian?

Giving Mira the benefit of doubt has now transformed to absolving Shahid of his problematic behavior.

Originally posted by: HearMeRoar

He wouldn't stop her?😆 Isn't he the one who insisted PC and KK turn vegetarian becauise he is vegetarian?

Giving Mira the benefit of doubt has now transformed to absolving Shahid of his problematic behavior.

shahid might have a problematic behavior i dont know much about him

but this statement of him not marrying actress or marrying someone of a different profession in itself is not wrong that as an individual s choice just like how anushka married virat madhuri married a doctor or juhi marrying business man not an actor

Originally posted by: HearMeRoar

He wouldn't stop her?😆 Isn't he the one who insisted PC and KK turn vegetarian becauise he is vegetarian?

Giving Mira the benefit of doubt has now transformed to absolving Shahid of his problematic behavior.

This is what I don't get. I'm sticking to what started this whole topic. The topic starter was going off that one harmless statement by Shahid to accuse him of sexism, being a MCP on the lookout for a trophy wife and God knows what else. Would anyone with an iota of common sense conclude all of that about a guy based on that remark alone? Absolutely not.

Now if there are other factors involved here ... like Bollywood gossip I'm not aware of, that's a different story. All I know is that Kareena turned vegetarian while dating him and reverted to her favorite Chinese takeout ways afterwards. Who knows why she turned veggie though? Was she coerced into it? Did she get in trouble every time she ate meat? Can a woman not do things like that anymore without being labelled a doormat or without the guy being called an asshole? What is there to "absolve" him?

By the way, these theories only work from a heteronormative perspective. I don't know what people would have to say about gay couples who make sacrifices for each other... within reason, of course.