Originally posted by: ..Peppermint..
I was about to make a post on this, but then I saw your post. In today's episode, I was not looking at Virat as a husband (He might be a good guardian/motivator and even that is debatable, but he is failing in the husband dept.), I was actually looking at Virat as a best friend, since that seems to be the relationship that is most imp. to him.
How is he fairing in the best friend dept.?
We are a group of 3 and one of my bestie is a guy as well. He is a person with whom I can share absolutely anything, and yet there are boundaries that we never cross, because we are just that, best friends. Heck, whenever he and his gf are fighting, we generally try to make him understand his gf from a girl's perspective. When we go on trips, its just the 3 of us, because there is an implicit understanding between the 3 of us and his gf. That implicit understanding is missing here, because its obvious what Pakhi wants, while Virat has never cleared his relationship with Pakhi with Sai.
The fact that he hmmed and his body language showed no shock at Pakhi's vulgar suggestion- surprises me because this is no friendship. I would have killed my guyfriend had he suggested something this indecent to me. And to the very least, he would have been shocked had I suggested something like this to him. This action and the reaction is so not ok for a man who is committed to another. It's crass.
I don't know, maybe my definition of friendship is different but the most important thing in that relationship is respect. Are you really a friend if you do not respect the choice of your friend?
Are you a true, genuine friend if you cannot show your friend that she is in the wrong. I don't know about you'all but I am the kind of person who tells my friends frankly on their face that they are wrong. Because for me that's what friendship is - when you can hold your friend's hand and show them the way. I know that Pakhi is incorrigible, but Virat has not made any attempt whatsoever of telling her that she is wrong when she is. Playing the diplomatic card and letting her do whatever she wants is gonna push her further into the dark pit.
Just like he stops Sai when she says anything wrong, why does he not do that with Pakhi as well. He knows that Pakhi still feels for him, why does he not sit down and clear that with her?
Forget as a husband, Virat is failing in the relationship that he has hyped the most - that of dosti. It's such a pure bond, and its a pity that the makers are showing such nonsense in the name of friendship.
Exactly my thoughts! I think there’s a clear boundary that’s implicit between best friends, that is missing here. I find it extremely odd that he doesn’t point out the obvious wrongs in anyone but if there is one in Sai, he retorts to point it out by screaming at her. It is not a marriage as it is also not a friendship. They have labeled their relationships such to define them but there’s obviously something else going on there .. this kind of response is not normal in the most intelligent or unintelligent human being. To understand where each women stands and where to draw clear boundaries doesn’t require one to be an ips officer or have an iq of a genius.. he just doesn’t take the actions to correct the mistakes of others bc he just doesn’t want to be involved in shit and to fix things .. at this point, we can say that Virat is shown to have a lack of spine when it comes to relationships.. he may be starting to develop one but def isn’t as understand and mature as he makes it seem.
The fact that the makers are showing this kind of non sense is making me lose my interest even more (and I hate to be the person that keeps saying this but also follows the show and what’s going on lol) but if they want to show something, they can focus on other things but not curse and defame friendships and marriage like this .. no one who respects herself will stand her husband favoring another woman in what doesn’t seem like a friendship to be disrespected in front of another woman in their relationship.. are we supposed to like Virat bc he likes Sai? Are we supposed to like SaiRat bc he’s nice to her sometimes and seems to be falling for her? If he can’t give her the basic respect of clearing his boundaries and not disrespecting her in front of another woman how are we supposed to get close to their relationship?
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