Adi-Imlie and candid emotions DT nt. Pg 8 - Page 3

Originally posted by: Snazzy_Naz

Really enjoyed reading both your different takes @AreYaar & @MusicMuse 👏

See I completely understand why most are feeling cheated and frustrated by that Adilie scene and also the nauseating Adini content. On the other hand, I'm surprised at Imlie being disparaged over what she said to Adi. Hearing Adi again say he couldn't accept the relationship with Imlie because Malini's the only one for him isn't anything new. And Imlie explaining why and saying she accepts him as her husband isn't breaking news either because she pretty much told him the same thing during their suhaag raat fighting scene as well as the time she said his name during the saat janam ritual scene. She may not have used as direct language as she did now but she has put that same message across to Adi before.

So they were both pretty much reiterating what they have said to each other before. I think the only reason it seems so different to us this time is because they were speaking in such a amicable way about this issue for the first time. Adi wasn't roaring his stance and Imlie wasn't having to emotionally defend hers. It was really refreshing and beautiful to see them speak so tenderly to one another. It seems the forum is in meltdown mode today. 😆

@bold: See, I actually don't understand the uproar over that scene😆.

That just shows to me that people still aren't being able to understand that Adi-Imlie's relationship isn't going to follow a black and white straightforward path. Is this all unfair to Malini? Ofcourse it is....the lie will build up a long way before it comes out and shatters everyone. But is it also understandable why both Adi and Imlie feel trapped in their own ways? To me it is....because I view their relationship through the lens of the emotional bonding.....which will only happen surrounded by this complicated quagmire of relationships, no matter how much many ppl would prefer a neat and clean break of when Adi can openly admit his attachment to Imlie or that Imlie should foresake him since he isn't giving her her rights and take off on her own. That is not what these characters are.....if that is what people are expecting, I'm not sure they noticed the signs in the story so far.

I really don't understand how it is being called out of the blue for Imlie to admit that she will value sindoor since she is a girl from the village.....that is how she was since day one....or she wouldn't be so freaked out by seeing sindoor fall on her at Pagdandiya. She has always said that the marriage is real to her because it happened with rituals.....but she also accepts that it isn't real to Adi. That paradox is a fundamental part of their relationship. If people are expecting differently, this might not be the story for them.

Anyways, I mean no offense, but I see no cause for uproar at this stage....Adi-Imlie's relationship is going to progress in a kind of no-man's land only.....to me, the payoff is in the emotional bonding they share....I don't really see any cause to write off either of them at this stage.

Originally posted by: Snazzy_Naz

Really enjoyed reading both your different takes @AreYaar & @MusicMuse 👏

See I completely understand why most are feeling cheated and frustrated by that Adilie scene and also the nauseating Adini content. On the other hand, I'm surprised at Imlie being disparaged over what she said to Adi. Hearing Adi again say he couldn't accept the relationship with Imlie because Malini's the only one for him isn't anything new. And Imlie explaining why and saying she accepts him as her husband isn't breaking news either because she pretty much told him the same thing during their suhaag raat fighting scene as well as the time she said his name during the saat janam ritual scene. She may not have used as direct language as she did now but she has put that same message across to Adi before.

So they were both pretty much reiterating what they have said to each other before. I think the only reason it seems so different to us this time is because they were speaking in such a amicable way about this issue for the first time. Adi wasn't roaring his stance and Imlie wasn't having to emotionally defend hers. It was really refreshing and beautiful to see them speak so tenderly to one another.

The only thing that made my eyebrow twitch was Adi saying he wouldn't stop her from believing him to be her husband. It's also the only thing that made me even more sure that Adi is in denial of his actual feelings for Imlie. If he's truly so damn sure he'd NEVER waver from Malini, he'd also never leave the door of hope open for Imlie. Also body language is a huge thing.

Notice how he was standing or crouching beside the bed for most of the conversation but as soon as Imlie said the words “humare liye aap humri pati” he got up and sat next to her on the bed. I believe that was deliberately done by the scene director for a specific reason and wasn't just a case of Gashmeer having pins & needles. The fact that it was after this point that he caressed her cheek was also poignant.

Atleast to me, Adi's feelings aren't so confusing. He is falling for Imlie but is just caught between a rock and a hard place. He feels a huge responsibility to Malini because of the 7 years he kept her dream of becoming his wife alive. He can't simply just surrender to these new feelings he has for Imlie, so he's resisting them but at the same time, his heart isn't letting him put an end to them.

The last thing he said to Imlie about allowing Sita Maiya to unravel this complex web for them indicates that his feelings for Malini don't actually have that finality he wants us to believe.

“Tumhe patni ka maan nahin de sakte, patni ka darja nahin de sakte, patni ka adikar nahin de sakte.”

Sorry if I've written this all wrong, guys. I'm not a hindi speaker but I understand it to some degree. Doesn't nahin de sakte mean I CAN'T GIVE? . If so...then it's notable because there's a huge difference in Adi saying I can't give you these rights and him saying he doesn't want to. Saying I can't give you the rights of a wife just points to the fact that there are obstacles keeping him from doing so not that he necessarily wouldn't want to. Again, there's no FINALITY in his words. If there ever was any finality in what Adi feels for either Malini...he would have definitely annulled his marriage with Imlie long ago.

All I know if that after Pagdandiya track, Adi does see Imlie as his wife but ofcourse he won't openly admit it let alone act upon it yet. He has started to give her importance in his life now. Again, this was proven in that scene when he was trying to ward off his family's suspicions about Imlie being married.

“Aap sab uski employers hai, uski family nahin hai.”

Think about why he excluded himself from the employers and non-family category here? If he didn't view Imlie as his wife, he would have said HUM SAB at the start of that sentence, right? The finer details mean something guys, so let's not lose hope in Adilie. Their journey has only just begun.😊

@Green- Agree with each and every word you have interated in this analysis. I really feel bad for Malini but going forward will they actually be able to feel happy when Adi has started feeling for someone else?

@red- I noted that too. He was very quick to say that lol, and the way he was anxious to get Imlie's stuff back was way too sus for me. I wonder if he planned to keep it to himself😆

Originally posted by: MusicMuse

Nice analysis. I agree with it in parts, which obviously means there are parts that I disagree with.

See , it's a bang on point you raised that Imlie never wanted to get married , not because marriage has no value for her , it's just the opposite, it has too much value for her so that she wanted to avoid it as she had other plans.

" jab tak ladki ki hatheli kori hai, tab tak lakeere bhi apni aur kismat bhi, pad jo ek bar mehendi lag jayi, to sab kisi aur ka. "

And this from the very first episode! So , her character has stayed true to her core beliefs. She knew what impact marriage will have on her. That's okay.

However having clarity inside your mind is not the same as transparency outside. It's not always appropriate or morally correct to speak the truth. She's completely entitled to think of the marriage as truth and stick to it , because as you said it's her conditioning. It's the belief system ingrained into her.

But it was not okay or if I may say it's immoral to speak the truth aloud to Aditya. One should know when to speak one's mind and when to hold silence. What about Malini ?? I may not at all like her character, but does that mean I have to pretend she doesn't exist or that she's Aditya's wife in the eyes of the world and society ?? She blindly trusts both her husband and Imlie. She couldn't even dream such a bond is developing between them. She calls her her little sister and actually treats her like one , and Imlie calls her her Didi. If she wanted , she could've stopped Aditya from marrying Malini, she was even given the opportunity by Aditya. She backed off and it was the right thing to do as she didn't want to burden Aditya with the forced marriage relationship as she understood " jabardasti se kono rista nehi jode jata. "

Or so she said.

Did she even realize that under the given circumstances and with an unsuspecting innocent person dangling between the two of them , saying that she considers only him as husband and will always do so and consider their marriage as valid when he does none of that, itself is an act of manipulation , an emotional blackmail. Emotional manipulation is not always over the top like slashing wrist to get your parents bend to your will , or go hungry for a night so that your spouse comes to you and apologize. It is often subtle and psychological and therefore most effective. She tells a man all these ,knowing she'll go back to his house and live under the same roof and will be in his eyes 24 × 7 , with the knowledge of today's conversation burning between them. Eventually of course that will effect his psyche, that this girl considers me as husband, I was married to her etc.

It's like playing a long game. And not a good one. Won't Malini be wrecked if she finds out that Aditya and Imlie signed up this convoluted peace treaty and started staying in the same house with this peaceful negotiation that is ethically as wrong as it could be. Aditya should immediately send her away to some where safe , like a hostel or boarding school. He's being too casual in his approach.

It breaks my heart to think that by that time Malini will find out about all these , Imlie has already stolen her husband's heart and effectively ruined her marriage. No matter how dull or boring , no way a married lady deserves this.

At this point ,from this moment onwards I'll see all Imlie's actions with a new color , with prejudice, with a grain of suspicion. My firm faith is her righteousness has suffered a big shock. She's not looking so innocent to me now. I'm sorry but openness is not always synonymous with goodness and frankness is not always kindness.

💯💯💯 yaar I can't even Bolden or Colorize the texts as each word written by you is 1000000% true. You said it comprehensively. I agree with you 💯💯💯. There is nothing more to say. Ye tho kal ke pahle post hona chahiye tha.

Originally posted by: AreYaar

@bold: See, I actually don't understand the uproar over that scene😆.

That just shows to me that people still aren't being able to understand that Adi-Imlie's relationship isn't going to follow a black and white straightforward path. Is this all unfair to Malini? Ofcourse it is....the lie will build up a long way before it comes out and shatters everyone. But is it also understandable why both Adi and Imlie feel trapped in their own ways? To me it is....because I view their relationship through the lens of the emotional bonding.....which will only happen surrounded by this complicated quagmire of relationships, no matter how much many ppl would prefer a neat and clean break of when Adi can openly admit his attachment to Imlie or that Imlie should foresake him since he isn't giving her her rights and take off on her own. That is not what these characters are.....if that is what people are expecting, I'm not sure they noticed the signs in the story so far.

I really don't understand how it is being called out of the blue for Imlie to admit that she will value sindoor since she is a girl from the village.....that is how she was since day one....or she wouldn't be so freaked out by seeing sindoor fall on her at Pagdandiya. She has always said that the marriage is real to her because it happened with rituals.....but she also accepts that it isn't real to Adi. That paradox is a fundamental part of their relationship. If people are expecting differently, this might not be the story for them.

Anyways, I mean no offense, but I see no cause for uproar at this stage....Adi-Imlie's relationship is going to progress in a kind of no-man's land only.....to me, the payoff is in the emotional bonding they share....I don't really see any cause to write off either of them at this stage.

@bold I should have said "I'm trying to understand" 😛 Honestly I was struggling to see anything NEW in what Adilie were saying to each other. The only thing different was the tone of voice they were using. 😆

@green PRECISELY! I don't see how at this stage of the story that such an expectation of these characters exists. For one, we saw what happened when Adi tried to open up to Malini about his marriage to Imlie. Naturally, that reaction from Malini (or rather her fragile disposition) is now a huge deterent for him. As for Imlie...are people forgetting that she's an innocent, young girl who has come to a complete alien environment than what she's used to? We all saw how the first time she dared to venture out into the city on her own panned out. She was kidnapped. After that scary experience, she hasn't stepped outside the Tripathi household alone, so how can people expect her to just take off on her own? Let's not also forget that this girl has developed a real familial bond and attachment to the Tripathi family which she values even more than her own life.

@blue Yup there's nothing new in Imlie's speech to warrant outrage. She's always been clear with Adi about the values she's been brought up on and that these rituals mean something to her. She also respects and understands Adi's standpoint. So where is she wrong exactly? I mean atleast wait until we actually see something concrete before claiming she's out of character.

Originally posted by: Snazzy_Naz

@bold I should have said "I'm trying to understand" 😛 Honestly I was struggling to see anything NEW in what Adilie were saying to each other. The only thing different was the tone of voice they were using. 😆

@green PRECISELY! I don't see how at this stage of the story that such an expectation of these characters exists. For one, we saw what happened when Adi tried to open up to Malini about his marriage to Imlie. Naturally, that reaction from Malini (or rather her fragile disposition) is now a huge deterent for him. As for Imlie...are people forgetting that she's an innocent, young girl who has come to a complete alien environment than what she's used to. We all saw how the first time she dare venture out into the city on her own panned out. She was kidnapped. After that scary experience, she hasn't stepped outside the Tripathi household alone, so how can people expect her to just take off on her own. Let's not also forget that this girl has developed a real familial bond to the Tripathi family which she values even more than her own life.

@blue Yup there's nothing new in Imlie's speech to warrant outrage. She's always been clear with Adi about the values she's been brought up on and that these rituals mean something to her. She also respects and understands Adi's standpoint. So where is she wrong exactly? I mean atleast wait until we actually see something concrete before claiming she's out of character.

Haha then you are more generous than me in trying to understand😆

I can understand people trying to find a moral higher ground for their preferred pairing in this story.....but the harsh truth is that the moral high ground is not something any character in this journey can claim as much anymore....if it was about morality, the answer would be clear from day one. No matter what the consequences, Adi should have told Malini the truth, dissolved his marriage with Imlie and married Malini properly after that. But none of that happened.....cuz this story isn't about the moral higher ground. It's about people caught in a complex web of destiny, helplessly trapped by both circumstances as well as their own characteristics....trying to navigate their way out of it as much as they are able to in the flow of the moment.

So in all this, I don't really search for who is the clear moral winner of this story....I only search for meaningful connections....and I've found those in Adi-Imlie's relationship....and their ability to speak their truth to each other in the face of so many paradoxes and complexities makes for a fascinating watch.

@bold: I completely agree.

Originally posted by: Snazzy_Naz

Really enjoyed reading both your different takes @AreYaar & @MusicMuse 👏

See I completely understand why most are feeling cheated and frustrated by that Adilie scene and also the nauseating Adini content. On the other hand, I'm surprised at Imlie being disparaged over what she said to Adi. Hearing Adi again say he couldn't accept the relationship with Imlie because Malini's the only one for him isn't anything new. And Imlie explaining why and saying she accepts him as her husband isn't breaking news either because she pretty much told him the same thing during their suhaag raat fighting scene as well as the time she said his name during the saat janam ritual scene. She may not have used as direct language as she did now but she has put that same message across to Adi before.

So they were both pretty much reiterating what they have said to each other before. I think the only reason it seems so different to us this time is because they were speaking in such a amicable way about this issue for the first time. Adi wasn't roaring his stance and Imlie wasn't having to emotionally defend hers. It was really refreshing and beautiful to see them speak so tenderly to one another.

The only thing that made my eyebrow twitch was Adi saying he wouldn't stop her from believing him to be her husband. It's also the only thing that made me even more sure that Adi is in denial of his actual feelings for Imlie. If he's truly so damn sure he'd NEVER waver from Malini, he'd also never leave the door of hope open for Imlie. Also body language is a huge thing.

Notice how he was standing or crouching beside the bed for most of the conversation but as soon as Imlie said the words “humare liye aap humri pati” he got up and sat next to her on the bed. I believe that was deliberately done by the scene director for a specific reason and wasn't just a case of Gashmeer having pins & needles. The fact that it was after this point that he caressed her cheek was also poignant.

Atleast to me, Adi's feelings aren't so confusing. He is falling for Imlie but is just caught between a rock and a hard place. He feels a huge responsibility to Malini because of the 7 years he kept her dream of becoming his wife alive. He can't simply just surrender to these new feelings he has for Imlie, so he's resisting them but at the same time, his heart isn't letting him put an end to them.

The last thing he said to Imlie about allowing Sita Maiya to unravel this complex web for them indicates that his feelings for Malini don't actually have that finality he wants us to believe.

“Tumhe patni ka maan nahin de sakte, patni ka darja nahin de sakte, patni ka adikar nahin de sakte.”

Sorry if I've written this all wrong, guys. I'm not a hindi speaker but I understand it to some degree. Doesn't nahin de sakte mean I CAN'T GIVE? . If so...then it's notable because there's a huge difference in Adi saying I can't give you these rights and him saying he doesn't want to. Saying I can't give you the rights of a wife just points to the fact that there are obstacles keeping him from doing so not that he necessarily wouldn't want to. Again, there's no FINALITY in his words. If there ever was any finality in what Adi feels for either Malini...he would have definitely annulled his marriage with Imlie long ago.

All I know if that after Pagdandiya track, Adi does see Imlie as his wife but ofcourse he won't openly admit it let alone act upon it yet. He has started to give her importance in his life now. Again, this was proven in that scene when he was trying to ward off his family's suspicions about Imlie being married.

“Aap sab uski employers hai, uski family nahin hai.”

Think about why he excluded himself from the employers and non-family category here? If he didn't view Imlie as his wife, he would have said HUM SAB at the start of that sentence, right? The finer details mean something guys, so let's not lose hope in Adilie. Their journey has only just begun.😊

@yellow puckworthy🤮🤑. I thought it was from a genuine compassion, not a romantic kinda one. If she was a boy would u make Adi gay? Khair, after leaving the hospital, in his house, he was romancing Moon. Just imagine Mun's scenario; 7 saal pyar ,shaadi aur shaadiwala romance ke baad apne pati use chod diya tho? Wo bhi apne choti behen hi uske sautan ban gayi tho? Friendship wala love kahkar chod dega tho chappal se maarna chahiye Adi ko

@ blue. Because he can't see Imlie as a maid atleast from now on. There is gulit in his mind for making a teenage girl a maid who sacrificed everything for him, who considers him as her husband. So it's obvious that he didn't told 'hum sab'. Upar se Aditya jaante hai ki wo Imlie ke liye employer nahi, pati hai.

Just copying from somewhere else

It's funny how where actual layering exists people can't see it caz of their prejudiced views anyways...

Babusahib ko koi yeh dikhao naaaaa kaise naturally a smile flares up on his face seeing her crack a lame one liner to ease up the mood like saying sorry from kismat's side as she can't herself say it and sharing itna sweet sa chotu sa moment . it's barely 2 secs long but itna sukoon hai in how naturally the smiles appear

this is my most fav with how she mentions ke ab yeh sach haiii and sach ke saamne kisi ki marzi kabhi nahi chalti all one can do is accept it . his eyes just well up again and a tear falls slowlyy.. in this moment i felt he was more upset caz of how she is attached to this bond and how she is suffering more then himself caz then later he specificallly seedhe shabdon main said ke tumhein adhikar nahi de sakta maan nahi de sakte darja nahi de sakte patni ka toh iss rishte ko manane ka kya faayda... it almost had a samjhane wali tone itna soft tha he had that why don't you understand you are hurting and in pain here he was feeling her pain and i felt bonded over the sufferings but specifically for a moment he did look past his dard and felt genuinly bad for her having to deal with this even when he can't do anything for her.. i also felt that when he said that he can't it was more as if he wants too but something just holds him backkkkk and that something needs to be worked upon he is torn between wanting to do it but not being able to do it and then he denies the want with nope i am malini's it's almost liek he wants to help her and ease her pain in this moment.. yes babusahib we know we know aapko dukh raha hai yeh iss jhalli ko aise dard main dekh ke

then she went well it's not maths ke calculated decisions liye jaaye ya we get answers liek that about faayda or nuksan

and then this was adorable with how he careessed her face and went apna dhyaan rakhoo aww babusahib aap bohat sweet ho

Very nicely written. This is a very slow journey for both of them and we cannot accept them to just fall in love. I mean what kind of a man would Adi be if he just forgets his 7 year relationship in a jiffy. I mean what kind of a person he would be then. But the marriage did happen and I think for Adi to accept it was almost like going through 5 stages of grief, moving from denial to acceptance with the ambulance scene.

Initially, all his lashings was his complete denial to accept reality, to accept his marriage to a girl he hardly knew. He kept lashing out at Imlie because she was a stark reminder of the reality which he was running away from. The more she showed her understanding, her acceptance of the situation, her maturity, the angrier he got. All he wanted was for her to go away, kind of like out of sight out of mind. But every scene in Pagdandia was an overdose of guilt as he knew that he was doing something wrong, ending with the ambulance scene where he finally realized that he had ended up doing a big injustice and that his subconscious wish has landed some body on the death bed. It was a big blow to all that he stood for, his beliefs and him as a person especially as he is known to be a very righteous and responsible journalist. That ambulance scene was basically when he moved from denial to acceptance of the stark reality that he had married Imlie, that he had applied sindoor and now he has to take over the responsibility of it as his father had explained to him.

But there is a big difference between accepting of marriage vs realization nor acknowledgement of love/wife. That journey started today. Today he has started seeing Imlie as a person and soon he will see her as a women. We as viewers have already seen the contrast between the two relationships. His very very formal relationship with Malini vs how he is so playful with Imlie, so informal, ready to grasp his inner child, his without filter lashings that happen only to her, plus a deep understanding that happens only when you share the most sacred of secret. Now it’s Aditya turn. He is going to choose her to unburden, to share, to talk, and be a partner in crime to hide their marriage, which will bring them closer and slowly change his view and his feelings towards her to have him accept her as his wife.

The journey will also not be easy as there is still the seven year companionship with Malini and marriage bond which would be another guilt factor. But for me the most interesting/exciting part would be to see that once he does have feelings and acknowledges them , how he would make his Jaali realize his and her own feelings. Remember this is the girl who made every person touch her to understand the tingles she got after Aditya hugged her 😛 😂

Originally posted by: pamk06

Very nicely written. This is a very slow journey for both of them and we cannot accept them to just fall in love. I mean what kind of a man would Adi be if he just forgets his 7 year relationship in a jiffy. I mean what kind of a person he would be then. But the marriage did happen and I think for Adi to accept it was almost like going through 5 stages of grief, moving from denial to acceptance with the ambulance scene.

Initially, all his lashings was his complete denial to accept reality, to accept his marriage to a girl he hardly knew. He kept lashing out at Imlie because she was a stark reminder of the reality which he was running away from. The more she showed her understanding, her acceptance of the situation, her maturity, the angrier he got. All he wanted was for her to go away, kind of like out of sight out of mind. But every scene in Pagdandia was an overdose of guilt as he knew that he was doing something wrong, ending with the ambulance scene where he finally realized that he had ended up doing a big injustice and that his subconscious wish has landed some body on the death bed. It was a big blow to all that he stood for, his beliefs and him as a person especially as he is known to be a very righteous and responsible journalist. That ambulance scene was basically when he moved from denial to acceptance of the stark reality that he had married Imlie, that he had applied sindoor and now he has to take over the responsibility of it as his father had explained to him.

But there is a big difference between accepting of marriage vs realization nor acknowledgement of love/wife. That journey started today. Today he has started seeing Imlie as a person and soon he will see her as a women. We as viewers have already seen the contrast between the two relationships. His very very formal relationship with Malini vs how he is so playful with Imlie, so informal, ready to grasp his inner child, his without filter lashings that happen only to her, plus a deep understanding that happens only when you share the most sacred of secret. Now it’s Aditya turn. He is going to choose her to unburden, to share, to talk, and be a partner in crime to hide their marriage, which will bring them closer and slowly change his view and his feelings towards her to have him accept her as his wife.

The journey will also not be easy as there is still the seven year companionship with Malini and marriage bond which would be another guilt factor. But for me the most interesting/exciting part would be to see that once he does have feelings and acknowledges them , how he would make his Jaali realize his and her own feelings. Remember this is the girl who made every person touch her to understand the tingles she got after Aditya hugged her 😛 😂

Thank you! And you've made good points in your analysis too, especially @bold. This is exactly why I also feel the story is transitioning into a new phase now.....as you very rightly pointed out, for a long time, Adi was so consumed with his own helplessness to even be able to see Imlie as a person.....he will now begin to see and acknowledge Imlie as a person and with that will begin a new kind of friendship I feel....he's always been instinctively very open and informal with her....he hasn't yet paused to introspect why it's so very easy for him to talk to Imlie and share so much.....but I think he will start to do that gradually now. He has finally let down his guard enough to acknowledge that he can't shut out Imlie the PERSON....but the thing about Imlie is that she is such a force of nature like a whirlwind that she takes over the hearts and minds of everyone around before they realize😆.....Adi ke saath bhi kuch yehi hoga in the long run.....and he will grow to see Imlie the person, and ultimately Imlie as a woman more clearly.....right now, he ofcourse only looks at her like a jhalli kid....and then there is the mental block of the 7 year relationship with Malini that he's hyped up in his mind to be more than it actually is. So all this will take time to untangle....and the fact that Adi is willing to leave it to Sita Maiyya to untangle is a big step😆

Originally posted by: naadanmasakalli

this is my most fav with how she mentions ke ab yeh sach haiii and sach ke saamne kisi ki marzi kabhi nahi chalti all one can do is accept it . his eyes just well up again and a tear falls slowlyy.. in this moment i felt he was more upset caz of how she is attached to this bond and how she is suffering more then himself caz then later he specificallly seedhe shabdon main said ke tumhein adhikar nahi de sakta maan nahi de sakte darja nahi de sakte patni ka toh iss rishte ko manane ka kya faayda... it almost had a samjhane wali tone itna soft tha he had that why don't you understand you are hurting and in pain here he was feeling her pain and i felt bonded over the sufferings but specifically for a moment he did look past his dard and felt genuinly bad for her having to deal with this even when he can't do anything for her.. i also felt that when he said that he can't it was more as if he wants too but something just holds him backkkkk and that something needs to be worked upon he is torn between wanting to do it but not being able to do it and then he denies the want with nope i am malini's it's almost liek he wants to help her and ease her pain in this moment.. yes babusahib we know we know aapko dukh raha hai yeh iss jhalli ko aise dard main dekh ke

Word to all your points here. It was quite palpable in the scene that Adi could feel Imlie's pain and that is why he was feeling so upset and kind of trying to samjhaao her to spare her the pain.....but then he was defeated by her calm, matter of fact resolve and he really couldn't say anything more. The very fact though that he said CAN'T instead of WON'T is deffo notable.....it's quite obvious that he feels like he is obligated to Malini....to the promise he made to marry her. Rather than analyzing about whether it's still his CHOICE to be with Malini or an obligation, he has chosen to cling to the obligation and put that down as a hard marker that he can't cross. What keeps disarming him is that he thinks he will say all this to Imlie and she will understand....instead, Imlie disarms him by telling him she understands what he's saying....but it still doesn't change the truth and she is accepting the truth, that is all.....not asking anything of him.