Member Topic: Have you Dealt W Depression/Anxiety/Insomnia - Page 5

Originally posted by: heartbleed

Why don't you try sleeping pills? Try talking to a doctor about which one.

I’m on melatonin

Been on it since 2016

Originally posted by: TMKOC_MY

I have even forgave the person who was somehow responsible for that.

What ? Care to elaborate ?

Originally posted by: columbia

Btw on a very light note - I was told once (not by a therapist) - so it’s not medically proven that an orgasm can solve the insomnia problem. When I suggested it to my therapist, she laughed and said it is probably the safest thing to try but remember you could get addicted to that too. That’s how people get addicted to p@#$&n and sex. I was like there is no hope for hopelessness!!!! 😀😀

Well I have 7.5 month pregnant wife

Don’t know if it’s possible but I’ll try 😂

Originally posted by: pathaka

I have anxiety and it has been controlling every single aspect of my life

My relationship with parents, friends , siblings , studies, work life ...

I have anxiety attacks, difficulty breathing, panic attacks almost every few months ...change scares the crap out of me but without change, I stagnate which in turn makes be feel “stuck” in one spot and sad...again triggering anxiety ...I’m in a loop atm that I can’t get out of

I don’t even want to get into a relationship with someone because I don’t want them to put up with my mess ...my own family seems to be sick of my constant meltdowns so I don’t have high hopes on some outsider putting up with all of it

I want to experience love, peace, calm but sometimes I feel I might not be destined for it

This sounds silly and awful but seeing happy couples on social media or otherwise makes me miserable because I feel I can never have that

I want to have kids but who wants a mess of a mother who can’t control her own emotions

I slog my ass of at work and perform well but I also burnout...I slog my way through burnout because my job is literally the only thing I have that isn’t falling apart (yet) and the tiny bit of self respect I have comes from the fact that I earn money

I’ve been trying cognitive behavioural therapy...Which helped but not as much as would like ..maybe it takes time

I just hate how everything in my life right now takes such a long time ....feels like a never ending road of struggle

*end of sad rant

Wow giving you a virtual hug 🤗

My best therapy Is literally Bollywood music. Maybe try that

Yes life can feel like never ending struggle. There’s small happiness in little moments tho

I had suffered from depression for more than 10 years. It was accompanied by crippling anxiety and constant panic. After diagnostics and therapy I felt much lighter and normal.

Originally posted by: colossial2015

I had suffered from depression for more than 10 years. It was accompanied by crippling anxiety and constant panic. After diagnostics and therapy I felt much lighter and normal.

Oh wow that’s awesome. 👍🏼 Thanks for sharing

Originally posted by: pathaka

I have anxiety and it has been controlling every single aspect of my life

My relationship with parents, friends , siblings , studies, work life ...

I have anxiety attacks, difficulty breathing, panic attacks almost every few months ...change scares the crap out of me but without change, I stagnate which in turn makes be feel “stuck” in one spot and sad...again triggering anxiety ...I’m in a loop atm that I can’t get out of

I don’t even want to get into a relationship with someone because I don’t want them to put up with my mess ...my own family seems to be sick of my constant meltdowns so I don’t have high hopes on some outsider putting up with all of it

I want to experience love, peace, calm but sometimes I feel I might not be destined for it

This sounds silly and awful but seeing happy couples on social media or otherwise makes me miserable because I feel I can never have that

I want to have kids but who wants a mess of a mother who can’t control her own emotions

I slog my ass of at work and perform well but I also burnout...I slog my way through burnout because my job is literally the only thing I have that isn’t falling apart (yet) and the tiny bit of self respect I have comes from the fact that I earn money

I’ve been trying cognitive behavioural therapy...Which helped but not as much as would like ..maybe it takes time

I just hate how everything in my life right now takes such a long time ....feels like a never ending road of struggle

*end of sad rant

Hi Pathaka!

I feel you!! I have been suffering from anxiety, severe overthinking of worst scenarios and constant meltdowns about my lack of social skills and the lack of control I have, how my efforts at work won't be credited at all which in turn extremely demotivates me to put any effort towards my work and other career fields.

I have suffered a lot since my college and university days due to my introvert nature and many times when I was the sole doer of many projects, tasks, I was neglected and overlooked many times. So, I am still stuck at that state where my existence and work just is not appreciated. I am amicable, polite and friendly but awkward and shy. So, despite my best efforts at forming friendships and other relationships, I did not receive the same care, love, consideration and was left behind many times. This, in turn, made me seen as a loner in my life. Its just that I don't want to compromise on my ethics, values while dealing with others and prefer not to mingle with those crowds.

I just have terrible anxiety about things which won't happen in reality. I makeup many cases where I will lose everything, left behind by others, disrespected and taken advantage by others, bad things will happen to me etc. I have suffered from some of those things before but now even when I am in a better place, those past actions by other people still haunt me. I have tried to console myself that I am different now and can handle things and those things will not happen now and it's all in my mind only, but for godsake I can't move from that state and thought process. Its a never ending loop.

I feel terrible when my relatives bring up marriage to tease me now that I am past 25, but I don't feel grown enough to share my life with another being. I love being in my own zone and its very very essential that the other individual also has the same thought process, values, interests, and open mind like mine. I can't image doing social functions in general and being in another family is a far cry. The thought alone fuels my anxiety.

Sorry for my long rant. I had to get it out my chest. But, I am happy that your are doing your therapy and wish you all the calmness, growth, prosperity and most importantly peace and satisfaction in your personal and work life. You are not alone Pathaka and marriage and kids are the end of it all.

I have seen many unhappy marriages and at the end our personal growth and state of mind matters the most. I feel we will surely attain that desired peace, care and our goals at one stage and it begins with self care. So, its okay to just take our time and do things at a normal pace and instead focus on ourselves from time to time. Sometimes, on our day offs we come across with unexpected things which could add to our wellbeing. I wish I could take therapy as well but currently there are just not such clinics and credible professionals in my surroundings at all. But I intend to look for therapy in different place in future. But, don't compare yourself with other individuals for your self worth. We are built differently and intended for good things in different ways. Wishing you your good things to occur soon!

Originally posted by: Maroonporsche

I’m on melatonin

Been on it since 2016

But clearly it's not helping you much, right? Try something else. Talk to the doctor. Talk to your family about this.

and please share your stress na.. what stress you are having.. why the insomnia?

Originally posted by: Raffaello

I haven’t been diagnosed with anything,but I feel down most of the time.Lockdown was terrible for me because it made me lose touch with the reality.A schedule is the only thing which keeps me sane and that is lost.I do feel hopeful and hopeless at the same time. It makes me teary eyed in public places,cry continuously and snap at people.I find the smallest of things overwhelming and can’t keep up a convo or concentrate at all.My only escapism is sleep and internet.I do oversleep a lot without any timetable.All this has made me self sabotage a lot.Idk when I’ll stop feeling this😞

I’m done with life tbh because I could never achieve much and am scared to start over again, just have a truckload of regrets.Have been such a disappointment.Sometimes I do feel like ending it all but then don’t want to cause more problems so just holding on

Hello there Raffello!

Please hold in there❤️. I also had made up my mind that my life would not be better, the never-ending cycle of problems would never cease to exist and most importantly I was not doing any thing for my future at all. I too self sabotaged many opportunities and stayed in my home without going out and meeting any people except my family for a whole year two years back. I also did not see any worth in putting any sort of effort for my future life and wellbeing. But things surely change and all it needs is a little by little effort and change in your environment.

If you can move from your current place for a month to somewhere with any of your family member, do that. We can gain new perspective and experience about our life when we come across with people of a foreign environment. Always remember that we can again gain little by little the knowledge and experience that we missed out on. There is no such thing that we cannot work on things which we should had completed way back. It was a struggle for me to complete my studies and I slacked off many many times and could not give a crap about. But things can always change and it needs a change in your current environment. We come across many unknown things which will a step by step ease us in our lives and career. We can regain our lost chances and can put efforts once again and the work which seems gigantic and a lost cause can be solved from our later ones. New opportunities will arrive and we will be able to make up our previous nonchalantness and no efforts. It's okay to have been a lost cause in our professional life. We can make new efforts in later stage of our lives too with a different state of mind.

P.S. You can listen to a song called State of Grace by TS which many a times has motivated me to do something in my life. You can also start out by scheduling to do a thing which you like daily but in a different manner by using some new twist. Yes we lost time by doing nothing in the past but WE CAN GAIN SOMETHING AGAIN WITH A DIFFERENT STATE OF MIND AND MAKE LITTLE BY LITTLE EFFORTS FOR OUR BETTERMENT AGAIN AND AGAIN!! you can go for a walk daily in the morning to form a schedule for your exercise or start with any other physical thing of your interest to establish a schedule.

Originally posted by: heartbleed

But clearly it's not helping you much, right? Try something else. Talk to the doctor. Talk to your family about this.

and please share your stress na.. what stress you are having.. why the insomnia?

I don’t know. I’m having a kid soon. An that’s wild. But like I got insurance and doctors An I live in a joint family so I’m gonna have plenty of help. I try to sleep by 9/10 pm an sometimes I sleep thru the night and sometimes randomly get up at like 430 am and can’t get back to sleep.