Second marriages - Page 2

Originally posted by: Lizzydarcy

It because they have an agenda to try and normalise it. The more you see it on TV the more you’re desensitised to it.

I hate it, I know some couples who go through this and I’m telling you, unless they are very Islamic and give both the wives equal justice in time, money, intimacy and gifts, it doesn’t work. The men want to have their cake and eat it, and more than not, it’s the women who are the ones who suffer if not physically, most definitely emotionally.

I wish they would stop showing dramas like this it gives men an excuse to tease their wives about taking another wife, that most women find very demeaning.

Yes it can be honourable in some circumstances but why not do the honourable thing and find her a single man instead?

And don’t get me started on dramas with secret second marriages, this is even worse than openly doing it.

It’s not allowed in our religion so if a man marries a second wife secretly and then his life completely falls apart, he deserves it and I consider himself properly compensated!😡

... okay (takes deep breath) rant over!😆

Your and my views coincide the most . I don't mind if there are a few shows like this but when every other show is peddling the same narrative you have to wonder.

And it is a shame because Pakistan has produced iconic dramas which are famous worldwide and then for them to reduce themselves to this kind of narrow thinking👎🏼

Originally posted by: dahibhalle

Your and my views coincide the most . I don't mind if there are a few shows like this but when every other show is peddling the same narrative you have to wonder.

And it is a shame because Pakistan has produced iconic dramas which are famous worldwide and then for them to reduce themselves to this kind of narrow thinking👎🏼

I know, my folks used to say the older Pakistani dramas were the best. You would want to rewatch them as they had a good story, great character development and a proper moral ending.

Don’t know which current dramas are having the plural marriage scenario as I don’t watch them, but I suppose they’re showing these awful disturbing storylines only because they get the views/ high ratings.

Most women who watch, put themselves in the shoes of the (first) wife that’s probably been wronged and going through injustice and heartbreak, hoping that there’s a better outcome for her, only to find at the end that there’s no satisfying or realistic conclusion. Men who watch might unwillingly think to justify the husband as they put themselves in the guys role. After all what we watch does affect how we think, no matter how much you deny it.

And at the end, no one really wants to rewatch these dramas again. Short term benefit for the channel I guess...😕

Originally posted by: dahibhalle

Ah! what came first the chicken or the egg ?😆

Does art imitate real life or influence it?

i only started watching pak dramas in 2011, and second marriage has been happening in Pakistan since before I can even remember. I think it used to be more common before though as now people are more educated and aware, women are more independent and take a stand for themselves.

Dramas can influence real life in some cases but they can also educate people and create awareness

Even if they show the concept of second marriage in dramas, they shouldnt glorify it and let the man get away with everything. They can show it in a proper way too.

Originally posted by: Unique.Sheep

i only started watching pak dramas in 2011, and second marriage has been happening in Pakistan since before I can even remember. I think it used to be more common before though as now people are more educated and aware, women are more independent and take a stand for themselves.

Dramas can influence real life in some cases but they can also educate people and create awareness

Even if they show the concept of second marriage in dramas, they shouldnt glorify it and let the man get away with everything. They can show it in a proper way too.

Yes if they want to show second marriage dramas they could show it done in an Islamic proper way, so that the man is showed taking responsibility for both the wives equally.

The worst thing is in some dramas they tend to make one of the wives the bad one because she has confidence and is stronger and the other one a submissive type who is supposed to be the good one. These dramas seem to show the man somewhat going towards the submissive one as though that’s the way a proper wife should be! 🤢

And it’s horrible when there is jealousy shown by the first wife in a negative way. No matter what, she is the one who chose to marry a single man, so I don’t like to see her being shown as the evil one if she doesn’t accept him going with another woman. The second wife however knows what she’s getting into because the guys already married.

To be honest I don’t like these type of dramas because I’ve seen an increase in second marriages that did not seem to be common in my parents time. You are right they should not glorify it on TV.

Originally posted by: Lizzydarcy

Yes if they want to show second marriage dramas they could show it done in an Islamic proper way, so that the man is showed taking responsibility for both the wives equally.

The worst thing is in some dramas they tend to make one of the wives the bad one because she has confidence and is stronger and the other one a submissive type who is supposed to be the good one. These dramas seem to show the man somewhat going towards the submissive one as though that’s the way a proper wife should be! 🤢

And it’s horrible when there is jealousy shown by the first wife in a negative way. No matter what, she is the one who chose to marry a single man, so I don’t like to see her being shown as the evil one if she doesn’t accept him going with another woman. The second wife however knows what she’s getting into because the guys already married.

To be honest I don’t like these type of dramas because I’ve seen an increase in second marriages that did not seem to be common in my parents time. You are right they should not glorify it on TV.

even though its acceptable in Islam i really dont think especially in todays generation it is possible to love and treat both women equally. Obviously his heart would always be attracted to one more than the other.

Its also completely normal for a wife to feel jealousy and hatred for the other woman especially when the other wife is getting more affection from te husband...therefore second marriage shouldnt be promoted at all unless the wife herself is ok with it

I always feel more sympathy for the first wife rather than the second one because i feel its more easier for the second wife to adjust as shes prepared and already knows that her husband has another wife and still marrying him willingly...whereas the first wife isnt used to sharing her husband but still has to compromise.

In dramas they mostly show the first wife as the evil one but in reality in most cases ive seen the second one as even worse😆