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Originally posted by: fitoori_kudi

I feel he first need to know if the girl is really interested in him or not

If she is even a bit interested then I think the should tell her how he feels 😊

Now this is the toughest part for a guy to understand her feelings. Plus the dilemma is that he doesn't wanna loose her as a friend because that is what he have right now.

Originally posted by: Maroonporsche

1st love and unrequited love is something but it devalues over time

Does that? obviously you have experience of first love and then having someone in life whol u love a lot.

But I think that u can't change your feelings for someone u love.

One of my friends liked me for a long time but never told me. When he did tell in the final year of college I was super pissed. I felt that he ruined our friendship and made it awkward. I stopped talking to him for many years. He constantly tried to get in touch. And then we just lost touch.

Now he's happily married and I'm married to my work. I think he always knew that I would never be interested in a relationship with not only him but with anyone. But still he took a chance. In hindsight, I feel I should have been a little more understanding and empathetic towards him.

He pops up in my head once a while and I think of the friendship we had. Maybe we will meet each other somewhere some day. But we are not the same people anymore. It could end up being super awkward and we might not have anything to say to each other. But it would be great if we just laugh and start teasing each other again. Just like old times.

Originally posted by: TMKOC_MY

Does that? obviously you have experience of first love and then having someone in life whol u love a lot.

But I think that u can't change your feelings for someone u love.

I won’t presume to know anyone else situation

But I loved or liked someone for years. Or I thought I did. Even after they got married I held out hope 🤦‍♂️

But I finally pulled back and looked at the “love” with a little bit of a mature perspective. An I’m like is this really what my life is. 😂

This was a point where both my siblings were married , lots of cousins we’re married/engaged/Baatpaaki

I was like what’ll happen to me 😆

So I kind of just went soul searching. In Lahore of all Places 🤗An sure The story is Stuff of legends now. I had shotgun wedding in short notice. But I Finally saw a light at the tunnel. An the manner in which I did. I changed the culture 🏆

Originally posted by: Maroonporsche

1st love and unrequited love is something but it devalues over time

True especially if your life is good ,but if it is not good we keep on thinking that what if the situation was different.

Unrequited love with friend is not good though , in the process we will lose a friend as well.

Originally posted by: TMKOC_MY

But I think that u can't change your feelings for someone u love.

Partially true IMO.

You cant just get rid of your feelings one fine day but you can move on. Life goes on. Priority changes and you just drift away.

If your paths cross sometime later , it can all come back rushing but by that time , you will have mostly reached a point where it doesn't really matter anymore , you just chuckle reminiscing the past , exchange polite pleasantries and move on ... At least thats been the case with me .. Might be subjective ..

It happened when I was in 9th standard.

It was heartbreaking because all that time I was being delusional. I thought we had mutual feelings for each other. I was planning to confess soon.

But then I got to know that he had been crushing on somebody else since so long. It was unbelievable at first but then I gradually accepted it. It was painful, what I thought as mutual feelings probably, turned out to be unrequited affection.

Originally posted by: AllThatCritique

I don't have an unrequited love story as such cause love is quite a heavy feeling I tend to reserve only for very few in my life. But I do have a crush story

I was in class 8 then and during every break my friends and I used sit on benches available around the field and I would set my eyes on this gorgeous senior playing some great football with his friends. Tall, buff, pretty with incredible hair and dimpled smile. Class 10. It was swoon at first sight!

There's this thing we did though. His friends were jackasses who would kick the ball towards my bench and then we would make unnecessary eye contact while he retrieved it

This went on for the next two years till he graduated school. My friends and other seniors wanted to introduce us for so long but I was like nah. I had no inclination of meeting him or talking to him outside our sacred football break space. Not because I was shy or anything. But I just didn't want the illusion to break. First boyfriend happened soon after so I forgot about him.

Cut to college fest second year, and there I was dancing to one of my favourite indie Bong bands and who do I see across the concert ground Still pretty, still gorgeous as ever. Even taller than I remembered. And that smile! It was a trip cruising past all our drunk friends to finally meet in the middle. The first hi's were just giggles

We stuck to each other like glue the rest of the night much to the annoyance of our friends and talked so much about school! He was here with his friends on tickets arranged last minute. Fate! Nothing happened though cause I think both of us wanted it to be an untainted space. He knew I had refused to initiate even a talk during high school and told me he was kinda heartbroken over it All said in smiles and giggles. He was so darn cute!

Eventually I had to leave and he gave me his number. But again, I never called. The illusion is still exists and he's still the dreamiest mf my eyes have ever seen

What. Call kyu nai kiya. He must have been more heartbroken this time around.

All these years, didn u feel like talking to him !!

It all started with a football.

I was playing with my 12 year old bois and i accidentally hit a girl of my class with a football and she marched angrily towards me and hit me back with the same football.

And she suddenly was in my spotlight .I accidentally always ended up staring at her. I used to tease her about her kajal ( I actually think she looked so pretty with her kajal on) but well i was a prick. She was a topper in the class and i used to rank 3rd in the class. Another thing for me to annoy her . I used to tell her , u scored in languages otherwise u wouldn't top. I was proud of my math marks. She used to glare at me with those big beautiful eyes. Once, i was ranked first and she was in tears.🤣 I felt bad for her yet happy. My egoistic mixed emotions are so satisfying to me.

I changed my school but never forgot about her. The ego clashes , i had with her is so pleasant that they still bring smile on my face. I didn't send her any friend request on fb . I know how she looks right now but she will still be the topper girl in a frock to me.

I never dated any women of my clg as they didn't interest me. I almost always loved intelligent women and find them attractive , the reason i always crushed on my female teachers and lecturers.😆

I am quite good looking man with a little feminine touch and my bois say women dig my deep eyes with thick eyelashes. I enjoy all the attention from the female folks. I bloddy love it.

These lines from a song reminds me of my bad girl:

She is sweet but a psycho

A little bit psycho

She's poison but tasty

Yeah people say "Run don't walk away".

Originally posted by: AllThatCritique

I don't have an unrequited love story as such cause love is quite a heavy feeling I tend to reserve only for very few in my life. But I do have a crush story

I was in class 8 then and during every break my friends and I used sit on benches available around the field and I would set my eyes on this gorgeous senior playing some great football with his friends. Tall, buff, pretty with incredible hair and dimpled smile. Class 10. It was swoon at first sight!

There's this thing we did though. His friends were jackasses who would kick the ball towards my bench and then we would make unnecessary eye contact while he retrieved it

This went on for the next two years till he graduated school. My friends and other seniors wanted to introduce us for so long but I was like nah. I had no inclination of meeting him or talking to him outside our sacred football break space. Not because I was shy or anything. But I just didn't want the illusion to break. First boyfriend happened soon after so I forgot about him.

Cut to college fest second year, and there I was dancing to one of my favourite indie Bong bands and who do I see across the concert ground Still pretty, still gorgeous as ever. Even taller than I remembered. And that smile! It was a trip cruising past all our drunk friends to finally meet in the middle. The first hi's were just giggles

We stuck to each other like glue the rest of the night much to the annoyance of our friends and talked so much about school! He was here with his friends on tickets arranged last minute. Fate! Nothing happened though cause I think both of us wanted it to be an untainted space. He knew I had refused to initiate even a talk during high school and told me he was kinda heartbroken over it All said in smiles and giggles. He was so darn cute!

Eventually I had to leave and he gave me his number. But again, I never called. The illusion is still exists and he's still the dreamiest mf my eyes have ever seen

@AllThatCritique

You are breaking my heart.😭

Your school crush sounds like a dreamboat. ☺️

The infatuation was mutual! You could have gone on a date with him atleast 😒... If I were in your place I couldn't have resisted the opportunity 😆

I have some friends who are like this- they dont pursue their crushes because they have this image in their head and dont want it to break. And then I have another set of friends who do pursue the relationship and then are heartbroken because reality is different from their fantasy world🤓...