22 Aug - Episode Highlights

Hum logo ko samajh sako toh samjho dilbar jaani

Jitna bhi tum samjoge utni hogi humse pareshani

Kabhi coffee kabhi doll kabhi magazine pe kheecha taani

Galti chahe kisi ki bhi ho , bas baat hai mishti ko sambhalni

Kyunki yeh hai ek collective vaani

Kuhu Ki chalti rahe mann maani

Kyunki yeh hai collective vaani

Mishti ko hai banna beti sayani

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This is the sum up of the entire feeling I got through the episode 😆 chalo anyways lets get to fine things I liked...I had to watch the episode twice to understand what's going on 😆

1. I actually had to watch the episode twice to see what made sense to me , lets start with abir BM convo

I loved the way abir approached badi maa , first made her comfortable and then subtly started asking about the kuhu mishti mess past ...after the doll story 2 things were highlighted in the convo

"Mishti ne kuchh nahi kahan ?" - this was a statement passed in shock

Ever since abir met mishti, he has seen that inspite of facing struggles , mishti has still managed to voice out her opinions and find her ways...from courtship to chasma to refusing the marriage proposal with nannu to taking a stand against kuhu, for the most part from coffee incident to resort incident to magazine cover incident ..from what he has seen , he has seen mishti standing tall on her opinions and not giving up on them , that's why his instant reaction to mishti these days is make her calm down but what came as a shocker to him was mishti not taking a stand for herself for the doll and he also figures out that its because she feels the whole "ehsaan" thing when she is in mahs house, but ever since she is in a unit with abir she feels more secured with her opinions and stand...will abir take this emotion forward and realise that somewhere he is not as supportive to mishti as she expects him to be , for mishti to be confident, she needs constant validation from people she trusts ...will abir realise that ?

Toh kisi ne kuhu se kuchh nahi kahan ? - another statement passed in shock

Things in RVs and mahs premises are handled differently in RV house, everyone gets called out when things are stretched beyond a point, no one is unnecessarily asked to me mature and no one is allowed to throw tantrums for a long time , whether its abir kunal mishti or kuhu ....they are are made to understand and tolerated but not beyond a point , they are asked to behave! While in mahs house, people actually put up band aids and they have been doing this all their lives, no concrete communication, no talks , in fact there is no urge to get into the real issues too , take one daughters tantrums aa authority and another daughters struggles as maturity ...push them into their limits without trying to address their real emotions !! So another statement that gives a clear idea that kuhu gets pampered and mishti takes the gun of maturity ...another realisation for abir

He also gets a fair idea on how the sister act and create a happy relationship image , probably that's why in the precap he could figure out that sisters are still faking a patch up , now he won't just say that sisters are truly happy but his mind will also work on the direction that girls can fake their emotions and what glitters is not gold ...well executed scene !!

2. If there is anyone to blame the most for the situation, then it has to be BP and BM ...

Failure #1: not doing things to make mishti feel less obligated but kept throwing "gudiya raani" and "guroor bacha ke rakho " expectations...I was under the impression that BM dosent know about the "ehsaan" thing cuz that's something mishti admitted on the day she was supposed to get married to nishant, but I guess after hearing today's convo , I can sense BM always knew about it, still she never shut varsha and jas from bad mouthing mishti , but asked mishti to be mature and put up with it ? Wow that's some news for me , nothing has changed cuz BM now also wants to put band aid on it , she wants mishti to forget everything and talk to Big ben ..exactly for what idk 😆 shouldn't she be advising her to talk to abir? Shouldn't she be advising abir to talk with mishti?

BP is no less, he confidently told meenu that Abinal won't be back cuz it's their choice but the moment he got threatened , instead of going to abinal and telling them that see your mom is going out of control , he goes to mishti with the aapne hamara guroor tod diya 😆 does that even make sense ? It's the repeat of what happened in nishant track - BP gets threatened - BP has no guts to call out wrong or inform abir - BP puts the reverse pressure on mishti - mishti feels obligated and does what she is expected to !

Sorry to say but BM and BP have done nothing to bring mishti come out of ehsaan mode! Abir is still a newbie, still trying to figure out the rights and the wrongs, lekin in dono ko sab pata hai...phir bhi putting band aids? Wow !

Failure # 2 it's nice to say varsha ko kuhu ki galti nahi nazar aati in the doll house incident , well kaise nazar ayegi dear agar aap varsha ko bataoge hi nahi ke doll house kuhu ne toda tha 😆 For varsha, it's like mishti's doll house was broken and kuhu was the girl who came to the rescue ! So they feel that since kuhu mended the doll house, we shouldn't be saying anything to her, well shouldn't you be talking with her , telling her to control her anger , telling her its okay to make mistakes but don't repeat them , wasn't a closure required? its okay not to share the truth , chalo fair enough ...but I m sure at later stages there were many incidents when kuhu blames mishti or is nasty to her...did BM ever try to make kuhu understand? Why everything that kuhu says or does gets brushed off as her tantrums and authority over the family.... why does no one communicate with her , understand what's really wrong with her , understand her point and make her understand in return.... do they feel that now kuhu has gone to a level that its impossible to make her understand and expect anything sane from her ... ? So kuhu ke hisse ki maturity bhi mishti se hi expect kar lo , right BP ? Kuhu se kya kehna , let her be in the world of kuhuness !

Vaise isn't it a common sense to teach kids the art of sharing toys ,sab kuchh share karna nahi sikha sakte but doll house toh share kar hi sakte hai😆 Har ek toy ka judwa toy nahi laa sakte vaise bhi ...mahs ke logics mujhe samajh hi nahi aate....😆

2. Let's jump to kunal varsha jas convo , brownie points to kunal for shutting up jas 😆 Varsha of course never tried to get into the real matter and see beyond her greed for kuhu's happiness ...there was not a single moment where she asked kuhu what went wrong , she assumed things on her own , and like she knows how to set her priorities, she advises kunal to do the same too ,.prioritise his relationship with kuhu and meenu over mishku fights ... kunal gave a good counter attack that mishku fights affect the whole family which affects his interpersonal relationships too so it can't be ignored on larger terms ..

.now both the boys have been told different versions of the same story ...will that lead to brothers misunderstanding and sense of judgement or will they talk and try to figure out as a team .. bhai log , behno vo milane ke chakkar mein tumhara jhagda na ho jaaye 😆 Cant imagine meenu then 😆 She will be like bahus toh nalayak hai hi , jab se mere bete mahs ke yahan se aaye hai vo bhi nalayak bann Gaye 😆

.the doll incident will blow out in open in the next episode , so we will see what happens

3. If Meenakshi was the one behind the whole cover goof up , then she is probably more upset because of the fact that her plan has backfired 😆😆 She would have never expected abinal to move out as an end result 😆 she saw dreams of throwing the sisters out na .... BM is right when she says that big Ben is losing the grip over the family and that is the root cause of her anger ...so when abir gave her a cold reply and specifically asked her to stay out of the mess she sensed she just lost the grip, she used her next big card - threaten BP ...if she is really interested in ghar ki sukh shanti , she would have given a chance to abir when he says that we went away from the house to give a moment of realisation to girls , they would feel their absence and that absence will make them realise that no matter what , abinal are not going to fall apart so its better that the girls sort out their issues...but yeah she could see her grip is getting lost...last option - throw out mishku and pressurise them to bring abinal cuz she can't lose her grip on her sons at any cost ....

4. Abir wants to get the root of the problem , good but that can also be done without being ghar jamaai, you can still give silent treatment to mishti if that's what your intention was to make her feel your absence ....sorry to say, but he was over confident about managing BB , ab BB bhaav nahi degi abir 😆 Vo apne asli avatar mein aa gayi, BB is not like BM jiske saath thoda hasi mazak kar lo toh baat maan jayegi 😆 She has got some real brains you see

5. Well in the end , loneliness hopelessness , guilt, tears, stomach ache , shattering baby hopes and BM ki gudiya rani aur BP ke guroor ko intact karne ke expectations se bhari hamari mishti roti reh gayi, saara blame apne pe pe liya and as usual situation sambhalne nikal padi even if she shouldn't be doing it but she will because

Yeh hai collective vaani

Kuhu karti rahe mann maani

Yeh hai collective vaani

Mishri tu hi banna beti sayani

Ab kya mishku road pe wwe fighting karne vali hai 🤣

I would not expect much but inta toh expect kar hi sakti hun that makers will seriously thing on adding new flavour to mishku relationship...cuz on larger parts in boring to see the story going in same direction again and again....the episode still leaves you with "what's gonna happen next feeling" but the real narrative seems to be stuck

Kya Uru, phir se kal poora din sone ka plan hai kya 😆. I wanted to write something, but mood hi nahi tha. Anyway, posts here have covered most of what I've been thinking since I saw the episode.

I want to see if it comes out in the next episode that Kuhu actually broke the doll house. If Kuhu's insecurities stem back to the time Mishti came into Mahs house, then incidents from that time do need to be dredged up again and resolved. But I agree with you, most small toys I would buy two of for my kids but big ones they most definitely have to share! Then I remember from NishMish wedding time that BP had bought Mish the doll house to make her feel welcome, so that might have been why. If that's the case, they really failed if they didn't prepare Kuhu for that and have her participate in the gift giving so she didn't feel left out, and then they could have asked Mishti to share with Kuhu. Especially in this, I wish they would recognize that the mistake was theirs - trying to find another similar one/not mentioning seeing Kuhu break it - none of it actually mattered, and they could have at least recognized that now if not then.

If both are equally to blame for the fight, I wish both would be asked to take responsibility and resolve it equally as well. Is anyone really willing to hear both the girls' grievances at all? How can anyone help resolve something when they don't even want to hear it?

Sharing and being responsible comes on its own; also the Sense of right and wrong also comes

Neither I am supporting Kuhu not am I supporting Mishti! Just yesterday incident in our house!

It's an unwritten rule in our house that when kids play some games they are supposed to clean up completely after finishing playing. Thus applies to my kids' friends too. My husband is slightly lenient on this. He sometimes, to be good in their side, he many a times favour my kids' friends too make them feel comfortable. That is wrong. I meant a times get pissed off with this attitude. Later me and my kids have to clean up spending a long time. So, I made a point to my kids that whatever it is, you people have to clean up the things with your friends. From then, every time the matter comes to me, I had to become referee. Yesterday, my elder kid had gone to get class. So my younger kid was playing with her friend. Later, when my elder daughter arrived, they started playing something else. When the time of cleanup came, they wanted my elder daughter to help cleaning the earlier mess because they helped her clean up the latter mess! What a logic! I remembered kuhu only! Even if Mishti's name happen to appear in the mess even with out her physical presence, she is equally at fault. I said, those persons who played that game need to clean! The other person, it is his or her wish to help if she or he wants to clean up or not!

Another problem is that, when my kids are being right and just in following rules, they are made to feel that they are insensitive to their friends' feelings and show very little consideration to those who have come home to visit us! Seriously! That seriously out my elder daughter down! She is nowadays like why do they come to our house! Then she gets scolding from her father that she is not adjusting to anyone. Yeh toh Aisa ho Gaya ki, it's problem being right and wrong being not right!

Kids are like that Uru, they make use of the rules which are convenient to them, and bend them according to their convenience. Those who have the sense of right and wrong, always face such situations! That's the world! Then how can Mishti escape from this?

I agree with badi ma and Bade papa being at fault. Similar fault is Varsha, if kids can make mistakes, that seriously include her kid also, right? Such unfair and unjust behaviour was what made Mishti suffer all these years of bullying! But there is always a limit!

I stop here. I always prefer seeing right and wrong than the person who is doing it!

On th contrary, I don't know why, I liked the last three episodes!

I have to tell again that completely agree with ya 🤗

You've pointed out the key factors very amazingly as usual😃🤗👏

No one has really understood the root cause of the tiff between Mishti and kuhu who are no way sisters from my point of view

They were forced into a relationship by elders due to circumstances......and we cannot force anyone or any person to have forced relationship.......

Upar se they loved and married real brothers from other mothers😆 who love eachother too deeply

I'm actually eager to see how the makers will take this 😆......I know at the end it'll be complete tie tie phiss😆

Originally posted by: Cool_wonder

I have to tell again that completely agree with ya 🤗

You've pointed out the key factors very amazingly as usual😃🤗👏

No one has really understood the root cause of the tiff between Mishti and kuhu who are no way sisters from my point of view

They were forced into a relationship by elders due to circumstances......and we cannot force anyone or any person to have forced relationship.......

Upar se they loved and married real brothers from other mothers😆 who love eachother too deeply

I'm actually eager to see how the makers will take this 😆......I know at the end it'll be complete tie tie phiss😆

@bold:expectations

@underlined:reality

life have never been so easy for Mishti.She is always getting taunts that she belongs to a broken family .If father and mother don't want to stay together then how Kids are to be blame from her childhood the day Badi maa and Bade Papa brought her to that house she have been given Muhboli tag by Jasmeet Chachi nobody ever told her to not to address her my that name🤡

The moment she entry Maheshwori house BP n BM was worried that she must feel this house as hers so they try their best to make her feel so..BM have loss her daughter and wants a daughter ❤️

Mishti through out her journey have done a lot of struggle in Maheshwori house ..

BM BP both I can understand their perspective also ..they did everything possible but it's not only about mother and father figure it's about family who never gives accepted feeling to Mishti..and BM BP too have to give up infront of their granddaughter

Rhea have brought life to Mishti I can so connect to her she is making me fall in love with Mishti much deeper with each passing days ❤️

Mishti is tolerating too much in life Bashers,bullies,haters and everything that revolve around Mishti ki wajahse..I don't know how she is living in such a loaded sadness life..buts hats up to this girl for putting so much strength in herself and making her able to stand for herself..take a bow girl🙏🙌

Amazing post ❤️

I m not hoping much from Abir but I Hope BM BP will not make Mishti feel vunerable 🙄

Its actually everyone's fault.

Bp & Bm that they left kuhu alone.Didnt try to explain her when the first time kuhu broke the doll house.Jass keeps calling mishti muhboli but nobody stops her. When the parents have a second child the first one feels threatened. Its parents responsibility to bridge the gap.

Mishti for keeping and brushing everything undsr the carpet . But takes no time to sunao kuhu when she looses temper.

Kuhu for actually being so unwelcoming. She doesn't realise she has family which mishti doesn't. Keep repeating the same stuff again & again

Both M & K should have actually consulted elders about their relationship. But they chose to pretend that they are happy.Thats also a big fault.

Meenu as a character is probably all wrong but she has always taught abir & kunal to love each other. Mere bhai ke liye kuch bhi karunga .

Originally posted by: angelfire78

Kya Uru, phir se kal poora din sone ka plan hai kya 😆. I wanted to write something, but mood hi nahi tha. Anyway, posts here have covered most of what I've been thinking since I saw the episode.

I want to see if it comes out in the next episode that Kuhu actually broke the doll house. If Kuhu's insecurities stem back to the time Mishti came into Mahs house, then incidents from that time do need to be dredged up again and resolved. But I agree with you, most small toys I would buy two of for my kids but big ones they most definitely have to share! Then I remember from NishMish wedding time that BP had bought Mish the doll house to make her feel welcome, so that might have been why. If that's the case, they really failed if they didn't prepare Kuhu for that and have her participate in the gift giving so she didn't feel left out, and then they could have asked Mishti to share with Kuhu. Especially in this, I wish they would recognize that the mistake was theirs - trying to find another similar one/not mentioning seeing Kuhu break it - none of it actually mattered, and they could have at least recognized that now if not then.

If both are equally to blame for the fight, I wish both would be asked to take responsibility and resolve it equally as well. Is anyone really willing to hear both the girls' grievances at all? How can anyone help resolve something when they don't even want to hear it?

Haan daya aaj kal schedule ulta pulta chal raha hai mera 😆😆 Chalo this is also fun , the forum is silent toh main chupke se aati hun aur kaam kar ke chali jaati hun , angry Chorni types 😆

Hmm lets see how the doll thing comes up , can't wait to see Round #3 Cat fights 😆 You know when my mom use to see me and my sister fighting , she says let me give you girls dandiya...it will help you both in the fight 🤣 we are loving sisters haan but kabhi kabhi out of control ho jaata hai 😆

Agreed at least now mahs can recognize and address the real issues , but the thing is daya , who is gonna tell them that BP , BM and varsha you have done some mistakes too ?

True , let them take equal responsibility !

Exactly 😆 No one is ready to listen to the girls...sab apni apni expectations daalte jaa rahe hai 😆 What a mess 😆

Originally posted by: abhilashasharma

Sharing and being responsible comes on its own; also the Sense of right and wrong also comes

Neither I am supporting Kuhu not am I supporting Mishti! Just yesterday incident in our house!

It's an unwritten rule in our house that when kids play some games they are supposed to clean up completely after finishing playing. Thus applies to my kids' friends too. My husband is slightly lenient on this. He sometimes, to be good in their side, he many a times favour my kids' friends too make them feel comfortable. That is wrong. I meant a times get pissed off with this attitude. Later me and my kids have to clean up spending a long time. So, I made a point to my kids that whatever it is, you people have to clean up the things with your friends. From then, every time the matter comes to me, I had to become referee. Yesterday, my elder kid had gone to get class. So my younger kid was playing with her friend. Later, when my elder daughter arrived, they started playing something else. When the time of cleanup came, they wanted my elder daughter to help cleaning the earlier mess because they helped her clean up the latter mess! What a logic! I remembered kuhu only! Even if Mishti's name happen to appear in the mess even with out her physical presence, she is equally at fault. I said, those persons who played that game need to clean! The other person, it is his or her wish to help if she or he wants to clean up or not!

Another problem is that, when my kids are being right and just in following rules, they are made to feel that they are insensitive to their friends' feelings and show very little consideration to those who have come home to visit us! Seriously! That seriously out my elder daughter down! She is nowadays like why do they come to our house! Then she gets scolding from her father that she is not adjusting to anyone. Yeh toh Aisa ho Gaya ki, it's problem being right and wrong being not right!

Kids are like that Uru, they make use of the rules which are convenient to them, and bend them according to their convenience. Those who have the sense of right and wrong, always face such situations! That's the world! Then how can Mishti escape from this?

I agree with badi ma and Bade papa being at fault. Similar fault is Varsha, if kids can make mistakes, that seriously include her kid also, right? Such unfair and unjust behaviour was what made Mishti suffer all these years of bullying! But there is always a limit!

I stop here. I always prefer seeing right and wrong than the person who is doing it!

On th contrary, I don't know why, I liked the last three episodes!

Abby your post refreshed my childhood memories 😛😆 in my place there was a simple and sweet rule , jiska room hai vo clean karega 😆😆 but I get the whole point and intent of your post , one who follows the path of righteousness and has strong sense of right and wrong often gets misunderstood by others and their urge to follow the right way also doesn't allow them to be flexible much ....its like a blessing and curse both , cuz the world isn't on the same page as us ....over the time I believe its important to analyse the "cause and effect" of being right and wrong too ..especially in long term ...

Exactly, if both the girls are held responsible for the fight , ask both of them to solve it , not just one

Oh good then chalo ...I find the episodes interesting but the surrogacy ki latak ti talwar is not letting me enjoy 😆

Originally posted by: Onyourface

Haan daya aaj kal schedule ulta pulta chal raha hai mera 😆😆 Chalo this is also fun , the forum is silent toh main chupke se aati hun aur kaam kar ke chali jaati hun , angry Chorni types 😆

Hmm lets see how the doll thing comes up , can't wait to see Round #3 Cat fights 😆 You know when my mom use to see me and my sister fighting , she says let me give you girls dandiya...it will help you both in the fight 🤣 we are loving sisters haan but kabhi kabhi out of control ho jaata hai 😆

Agreed at least now mahs can recognize and address the real issues , but the thing is daya , who is gonna tell them that BP , BM and varsha you have done some mistakes too ?

True , let them take equal responsibility !

Exactly 😆 No one is ready to listen to the girls...sab apni apni expectations daalte jaa rahe hai 😆 What a mess 😆

Yeah usually around 1-5 pm my time the forum is pretty quiet. I guess it's only those of us in a different time zone.

Your mom is hilarious! I have boys, so most of the fights get physical very quickly and have to be refereed 😊.

I have no idea why everyone wants to stop these girls' fights, especially when both are participating equally. I mean, everyone is standing around listening if only one of them is shouting, so what's the problem if both of them are shouting? I wonder what will happen if they just let it all out. Maybe they will cool down by themselves also and finally really get to a better place? I know I said it wasn't something I would do as an adult and in my sasuraal right after I saw the episode, but after I saw the way the "adults" dealt with the situation, I've changed my mind.

No one will tell BM/BP/Varsha (any other adult in the house at that time) that they made mistakes. I was hoping they'd realize that in retrospect, but maybe that's too much to expect. But there's a difference between making mistakes as parents and being bad parents. Thanks for making that distinction.