Munafiq - Fatima Effendi, Bilal Q , Adeel Ch, Maryam N - Page 116

Originally posted by: _NINA_

Wow you have many adventurious stories. Zindagi humein bhot kuch sikha dy ti hai. Jo hum kabhi sochty bhi nhi wo humarey saath ho jata hai aur humey usko face karna hota hai and it totally depend upon us k hum ussey strongly face karein yan uss situation sy darr jayein. And i am glad that you faced it strong.

Btw give love to your naughty daughter

absolutely correct.. life sabkuch sikha deti hai.. akele sabkuch handle karne se ab me itni mature ho gayi hu k sometimes I feel me 60 year ki hu lol

mujhe un girls ko dekh kar hasi aati hai jo light chale jane se darr jati hai ya apne hubby k out of city Jane se pehle wo khud apni mom k ghar chali jati hai..mere mom dad MashaAllah bahot caring hai.. wo apni daughter in law ki bahot care karte hai.. bhabhi ne kabhi washroom bhi jana ho to mom dad babies ko apne paas rakh lete hai..MashaAllah I happy for my bhabhi..me hamesha apne dad se bolti hu me robote hu kya 🤣

Originally posted by: sanabmw

absolutely correct.. life sabkuch sikha deti hai.. akele sabkuch handle karne se ab me itni mature ho gayi hu k sometimes I feel me 60 year ki hu lol

mujhe un girls ko dekh kar hasi aati hai jo light chale jane se darr jati hai ya apne hubby k out of city Jane se pehle wo khud apni mom k ghar chali jati hai..mere mom dad MashaAllah bahot caring hai.. wo apni daughter in law ki bahot care karte hai.. bhabhi ne kabhi washroom bhi jana ho to mom dad babies ko apne paas rakh lete hai..MashaAllah I happy for my bhabhi..me hamesha apne dad se bolti hu me robote hu kya 🤣

I guess chaye larki ho yan larka sab ko itna strong hona chaiye k har situation ka samna kar sakhy agy Allah ki Zaat bhot bari hai wo zaroor apny bandy ki madad karta hai.

Ma shaa Allah your bhabi is lucky. Allah unko khush rakhy. Aur Allah S.W.T apko bhot sari khushiyan dy aur apki beti ki kismat achi karey. App aur apky husband apny bachon ki khushiyan dekhyein.

Actually most of the desi girls are like robots but its our duty as well. Allah bus iska ijar dy apko. Khush rahein hamesha.

Originally posted by: awida

I think your situation is much tougher than mine. Allah help you. Coz at least I am living in my old home, in the city in which I lived most of my life, so I am surrounded by my nieghbors and friends. I am working in the Uni in which I studied .. being there for 30 yrs makes it like another home to me. So reading about your lonliness made me feel sad, but at the same time proud of you, coz you dealed with all those difficulties. You are a strong woman. And I love you.❤️

Your daughter's nautiness reminded me of my son Awadh when he was about 3 yrs old, and he closed a room, in which he was left alone. The key was inside, and alhamdulillah, after few trials he managed to open it.😃

I can relate to your story too. May Allah help you , and give you patience to deal with the difficulties of your life. You know I don't understand Urdu/Hindi well..but I understood every word you wrote.😊

@bold meri daughter ne ye wala stunt bhi kiya hua hai lol

wo bhi 3 yers ki thi and hum mere BIL k ghar gaye hue the and waha wo lock ho gayi thi... thank to Allah that time my hubby was there.. he is so much panic that time.. and I m like relax 🤣hubby k bro ne kaha unke paas keys nahi hai room ki and my husband said me door tod Duga lol

mene aise hi randomly keys try ki and door unlock ho gaya🤪

yes awida mere liye marriage k kuch years bahot tuff the.. us time period se mene bahot kuch sikha and khoya bhi.jo meri aaj personality hai wo ekdum change hai. aisa time bhi tha life me jab me pura pura din chup Bethi rahti thi. baat karne k liye koi paas nahi hota tha. mere pas internet even cell bhi nahi tha. sometimes me sochte thi k agar meri death ho gayi to kisi ko pata bhi nahi chalega🤣zor zor se rone ka Mann karta tha... but Allah sabar karne walo k saath hota hai.. aaj MashaAllah mere paas sabkuch hai..ek cell kya mere paas 3 cell hai 🤣whenever I wAnt I chat with my parents. koi Q karne wala nahi hai... beshaq Allah sabar karne walo k saath hai.

Originally posted by: SuperstarSEHAR

AMEEN SUMAAMEEN.i will pray for you ky aap apny parents sy jaldi mil sako AMEEN.stay safe and healthy.may ALLAH accept your prayers AMEEN

Ameen. awww thats so sweet of u sehar.. Thank u so much my little sis. 🤗aunty thik hai ab?

Originally posted by: sanabmw

@bold meri daughter ne ye wala stunt bhi kiya hua hai lol

wo bhi 3 yers ki thi and hum mere BIL k ghar gaye hue the and waha wo lock ho gayi thi... thank to Allah that time my hubby was there.. he is so much panic that time.. and I m like relax 🤣hubby k bro ne kaha unke paas keys nahi hai room ki and my husband said me door tod Duga lol

mene aise hi randomly keys try ki and door unlock ho gaya🤪

yes awida mere liye marriage k kuch years bahot tuff the.. us time period se mene bahot kuch sikha and khoya bhi.jo meri aaj personality hai wo ekdum change hai. aisa time bhi tha life me jab me pura pura din chup Bethi rahti thi. baat karne k liye koi paas nahi hota tha. mere pas internet even cell bhi nahi tha. sometimes me sochte thi k agar meri death ho gayi to kisi ko pata bhi nahi chalega🤣zor zor se rone ka Mann karta tha... but Allah sabar karne walo k saath hota hai.. aaj MashaAllah mere paas sabkuch hai..ek cell kya mere paas 3 cell hai 🤣whenever I wAnt I chat with my parents. koi Q karne wala nahi hai... beshaq Allah sabar karne walo k saath hai.

Beshaak Allah sabr ka phaal zaroor deta hai.

Originally posted by: sami011

@awida..a moving story and absolute salute to your bravery..even to plunge into relationship with faith and dedication requires lot of courage.I find your story very moving my dear..hope you have all you wish for in your life...

@ sana I could picture that it would be by getting married in different country,I am not sure if you knew your husband before hand but for me it was hard as I had no clue he existed until i got engaged to him though my massi and his bua .

But I can relate to loneliness of initial years of life ,i was lonely despite my husband being there because when you have zero emotional connection with your new family ,you just yearn for people you love and left back home...it is very difficult to explain that love is not something which comes naturally in a arranged marriage. commitment and loyalty yes but not love,my western friends never understand it,they are like how come it's respect and commitment but no love the way they have.I don't know how to explain but this is what I find in most arranged marriages at least in my community. Isi liye I find the drams like munafiq in its initial episodes more relatable ,that whatever happens at least women do try their level best to make the relationship work....

Ohh Sami I totally agreed with u .

No me apne hubby ko Bilkul nahi janti thi ..even mene kabhi baat bhi nahi ki..we both are totally different people..like dislikes sab alag tha even still hai lol

I m very serious and boring type person I mean bahot jaldi easy nahi hoti kisi k saath ..jo log pasand hai bas unke saath friendly otherwise I m too introvert.and my hubby was totally opposite.

still humare paas humari daughter ki alawa koi aur baat karne ko nahi hoti.phone calls duration still 40 sec hoti hai 🤣yes he is my husband He is very caring and supportive no doubt..mere dad se jayada meri care karte hai yes I mean it..I always said to my bestie k mostly husbands wives me wives jayada love karti hai apne apne husbands ko but in my case my hubby love me more .na hi me itni caring hu aur na hi itni jayada Loving unke comparison me.

Arrange marriages me love nahi hota Aadat hoti hai ..Hume aadat ho jati hai apne partner ki and than wahi aadat love me develop ho jata hai time k saath but ek saath rahne ki wajah se Hume wo attachment and attraction feel nahi ho sakti jo love marrige me hoti hai.b/c hum already saath reh rahe hote hai🤣

But arrange marriage me partners ki bonding love marrige couples se mostly jayada hoti hai.b/c arrange couple ek dusre ko jante hai shadi k baad than pyaar hota hai so koi aadat acchi na bhi lage partners ko adjust karna hi padta hai.lol and love marriage me jab saath rahne lagte hai than adjust karne me arguments hote hai b/c insaan ka real nature saath rahne se pata lagta hai.

But yes jo hum apne bestie ko easily Bol sakte hai wo apne apne partners ko openly nahi bata paate.ye sirf wives k saath nahi husbands k saath bhi problem hai lol !!!b/c friendship nahi hoti.ye male female dono side se problem chalti hai .hum ye Soch kar nahi bolte sometimes k humara partner kahi judgemental na ho jaye.

Originally posted by: heavenlybliss

wow so all of you have moved to a diff country/city after shadi except me i guess lol...i feel very lucky k my hubby is understanding and co operative k mujhe ghar ka kaam nahi aata kabvhi kiya hi nahi 😂 hes always ready to help and even cooks sometimes

MashaAllah that’s great hina..I m so happy for u

Alhumdulilaah mene apne hubby ko apne according kar diya hai🤣akele reh reh kar now I rule on him 😎now he is serious man and I m jolly and bahot Bolne Wali 😆pehle jab wo apne tours par jate the me week pehle rone lag jati thi and now wo last three yers se yahi Lahore me the and me jab bhi unse fight karti thi bolti thi k Jao tum yaha se me tang aa gayi hu 🤣🤣kitne saal ho Gaye jate kyu nahi lol

Abhi feb me mene khud unko Malaysia Bheja tha 🤣sach me.mene bola jao plzz mera shampoo finish ho raha hai mujhe local pasand nahi hai 🤣he is like 😡tum kitni change ho gayi ho..I remembered jab wo jaa rahe the me aur meri daughter dance kar rahe the k wo jaa rahe hai lol.and is cruelness ki saza mujhe ye mili Allah ki taraf se k hubby waha lockdown me stuck ho Gaye and meri and meri daughter k birthday par wo nahi aa sake..bura kaam kiya so sazaa bhi mil gayi Hume lol

Originally posted by: heavenlybliss

Yes but what I meant was that its good to hear other peoples experience3s, seeing the difficulties they went through makes us more grateful for what we have.

I am serious. He does get used to staying alone and having the whole house and bed to himself, jo marzi kare 😂 of course its different when you lose someone to death or divorce, because then you know that person will never come back. Otherwise you take what you have for granted until you lose it, this is especially the case for men.

Hina mere hubby last three yers se tours par nahi jate so ab wo bahot jayada Attach ho Gaye hai hum se and bahot jayada emotional bhi..jab last month wo flights close hone ki wajah se Malaysia me fass Gaye the unhone meri mom ko and mujhe dono ko call ki and maafi maangi k wo hamesha tuff time me mujhse dur hote hai and aaj again wo saath nahi hai and he start crying and mene unki dusre cell se video bana lee 🤣ye soch kar k ab kabhi fight hui to unko teased karugi..I know I m too bad lol

Originally posted by: sami011

aww he is sweet man,you are indeed very lucky ,mine would do house workt if I am working 6 days a week and very busy ,he never did it in shuru ke din ...but i became expert lol in cooking now i can open my own shop haha😆

Moving to different country happened to me yes...my inlaws were in canada and I lived in india but i had my nani side family here and my husband was their family friends ka relative,still it was lonely time.It is indeed hard to move so far away..

i feel punjabi men in my country are much more conservative than other indian men...all my study life my father demanded i cover my head with dupatta which i mostly did on my way to univ lol🤣 and then later on he even allowed my sister to wear western clothes...but people think india is this modern country i find sometimes Pakistanis are less conservative than us ,

Agreed sami

after marriage Mere dad k ghar se jayada modern mujhe mere hubby k ghar wale lage the.even yaha pak k husband jayada helpful hai and babies ko bhi aaram se handle kar lete hai..specially in marriage functions 😆sab wives apne apne bacche apne hubby ko dekar aaram se enjoy kar rahi hoti hai. But yes pak boys wife k male friend ko nahi accept kar sakte.and it’s natural thing b/c Islamic wise ye wrong bhi hai.

Originally posted by: SuperstarSEHAR

yeah!even mein bhi after marriage next year doha mein hoon gi apny family members and in laws ky sath❤️

Inshaallah sehar.Allah paak tumhri aane Wali zindagi bahot khubsurat aur khushi Wali rakhe ameen