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Originally posted by: MsChanadlerBong

Guys please keep personal incident out of the thread. We can talk generally but let's not get too specific with examples.

Originally posted by: Gaurirane366

sorry my bad.. It was just to tell that children should be open up about any issue with their parents..

It's alright.

And I agree, children should tell their parents about such issues. But it again depends on the parents too. If the parents are too strict, children would prefer to take matters into their hands than inform their parents. This is a two way street. Both children and parents should feel safe enough to share everything with each other.

Originally posted by: MsChanadlerBong

More than the teenagers I feel the adults are responsible including parents, schools and society. Teenagers should be awared about sex ed and that should be taught in school. Normally teachers and schools avoid giving the required knowledge to the students even if it is demand of the course. Some teenagers are unaware of the results of their action. Even if they do get intimate, they don't know what steps to take further. I don't understand how they forget the whole concept of protection. This is cause of ignorance. They ignore because they are not properly aware about it.

Coming to society and parents sometimes the norms and rules are so strict that hanging out with peer becomes a sign of rebellion. Even if a girl and boy become friends everyone starts speculating the worse. When parents make it a big issue for boys and girls to be friends or such then it becomes much more a big deal to them. And on top of that as you mentioned the whole blame is given to girls which is completely wrong. This also give the guys a free way kinda of pass. They don't care about the consequences because they know, they don't have to face any.

Now days school and parents should educate them..parents or teacher both think talking about such things are taboo... ..

Because of this they share their problem with friends.. ...

1) Teenage pregnancy in India. Society and parents take on it. Are teenagers responsible for it?

why only in india its happening all around the world,society and parents will give their own pov but its in the teenagers hands actually what perspective they look at it,parents and society educates them but do they abide it,do they even listen to what their parents say not only in pregnancy issue but even other issues such as mixing with bad company boozing drugs do they even listen?once the deed is done they realise and regret that they should have listen to their parents in worst case they take a wrong a decision of life and poor parents bear the brunt of loosing their kids in a young age once the kids doesn't understand how would their parents feel they give you a life and kids take away their smile and soul

regards to teens pregnancy if we look at pranati's situation,reyansh is giving all the signals that he is not serious abt their relationship but she truly fall in love with him and thought that her love for him will change him and they do will get married in future deep down her heart she has accepted him as her husband she plainly ignores all those signals at that age its pretty normal for girls to think that attraction and infatuation is true love this is where pranati's mistake she trust reyansh and this where girls make mistake they trust guys emotionally and submit themselves to them they could not see the difference that its not true love but lust from guys,the problem is girls thinks emotionally they invest their everything in that one relationship they hold closer to their heart and soul without thinking practically i blame the girls here they need to be practical and emotional balanced and never miss any signals given by the guys to attract them they need to observe more than what is being shown to them but the age they are in its difficult to really make them understand by parents by society or themselves

2) How is the show handling the issue?

Its still early stages but gosh i am a fan of pranati's after 8 years avatar and attitude i wish she was that strong 8 years back this would not have happened to her as for the show more than what happened b/w them in their teens its focusing on bringing them together and reyansh understanding his responsibilities as a husband and father,the sensitive subject is not touched EK is smart though in india its a taboo subject thus she rushed it in a way that its a blink and miss only highlight the important points but maybe she might show it later what pranati went through when she was pregnant in her 18 years old but than looking at a whole situation and how such subjects conceive in india it will not be touched much at least we know what is in the past abt Prayansh through important points furthermore the past is rushed for a purpose

3) Reyansh reaction on the pregnancy. Justified or not?

he was a insensitive jerk putting all the blame on pranati gosh how was pranati so calm when he was talking nonsense she should have slapped him right there coming to the question reyansh could have handle the situation better but he is immature himself and run away from situations how can we expect him to handle the situation he was being true to his cassanova nature so can't blame him of not taking responsibility of pranati and his unborn daughter he was not ready for it so can't blame his pov

my heart pours out to pranati her trust on him got crushed badly and she felt betrayed and cheated furthermore she is bearing the brunt of pregnancy that jerk has nothing to loose but she loose everything that day,in love being emotional she made a mistake but she was mature enough to take the decision that she will give birth to the baby and raise the kid as a single mother throwing the jerk father of her daughter out of their lives that was a mature decision made by her at the age of 18 years she knew the mistake is of hers and reyansh why the baby bear the brunt she took a mature decision of not aborting the baby its a life growing in her,i give applause for her to make such mature decision it was not easy for her my respect increase for her,keeping the baby was her decision so can't blame her pov

its all perspective how one takes it,pranati wants to take responsibility of the baby while reyansh does not want to take responsibility,there is no right and wrong

4) Some teenager parents give their children away for adoption. Is it justified?

No...i disapprove of it if my parents are worried abt their daughter future the baby they want to give away is mine i will not allow to even if they break ties with me

at the same its perspective of a person some parents they support their daughter and be with them as rock solid support these are parents who loves their kids selflessly and they understand their daughter pain and some are more in love with their status name and what society say thus they send the baby for adoption we can't stop them

If they decide to send at least research abt the adoption centre its a matter of a kid's future at the same talk to your own daughter and advice her regards to pro and cons keeping the baby with her not just give away like that w/o anybody knowledge and lie to your daughter like shobhna did to pranati what pranati's mom did was an criminal offence and she should be jail for it

Sam and Mages, very thought-provoking posts.

The issue is such that it deals directly with the lives of inexperienced girls, their temptations for that particular experience and those aftermath repercussions.

Even for the mature and most prepared mother, raising a healthy and happy child is one of life’s major challenges. Having the ability to check off commonly accepted parenting prerequisites — a quality education, a good job, mental and emotional stability, a safe home — can make the challenge easier to tackle and overcome for the normal parents, but without this cushioning, the teenage girl will struggle first to reveal to parents, then their struggle for acceptance, then the consequences and impact of that on many lives. In this entire episode, the boy will always stay on the safe side, no big challenges or changes in his life, it will be considered as just an incident or rather another incident in his life!!??

Unfortunately, adolescents who become parents often have a shortage of key life skills and other resources that are vital to the parenting process. Despite all this, Pranati stood there for her kid, and as Mages rightly said, she has taken a mature decision. Ready to face the world with her head held high, though she suffered in the process, I consider her as an achiever.

Feelings of embarrassment and shame associated with early pregnancy serve as a glaring reminder of the need to direct more attention and resources to sex education for teens. A very good point raised by Sam on this issue.