SidNaaz :Discussion Thread 9:My Problem is I like u - Page 64

Originally posted by: hira221

She stayed at her grandparents house when she was young and they weren’t very nice to her. She mentioned it in an USUD. Could be one reason for her issues.

Yes could be. Also, as Uma was talking about her controversy with Himanshi. There could be more reasons which we may not know.

Originally posted by: intruderfast

My last words for some time. Precap pe mat jaao. Apni akal lagaao and poora episode dekh lo pehle .

For todays episode, sid needs clarity.

Sana needs to be honest . And sid needs to make more efforts

True we should wait for the episode before making any final judgments.

Sana has been crazy after Paras for such a long time that Sid finds it very hard to believe that she can actually love him.

Sana’s actions will give him clarity. Her words can’t

Where is the Skype headbang icon when you need it.

Originally posted by: Ritzie

All that is Sana's internal defense mechanism.

We talk about immunity for physical disease, right?

Has somebody seen taare zameen par? It wasn't exactly a mental health problem bur a lot of logic provided by Aamir will work here too.

Makes sense but it’s difficult for a typical person to differentiate between usual drama and defence mechanism drama. Even people closest to her not always able to tell.

Not to offend anyone , it’s purely my views . I love SidNaaz and often criticize Sana because of her same behaviour. People may think i am a hater but I think I get Sana well.

She does have issues with Mahira because of Paras . If she doesn’t like paras anymore then why does she has issues with Mahira ? And this is not regular liking disliking which she has for other HMs and keeps on changing . She is jealous of Mahira because of Paras and that’s why Sid is also affected .

then Sana shows it . Shout kar kar ke she is not jealous means she is jealous . Sid tried to make her understand many times but she doesn’t get it because her sui abhi bhi Paras pe atki hui hai .

you can’t force people to say that you are not jealous. It’s not mental health issue . Mental health issues are way more serious . It’s attention issue . Desperate attempt to make people say or accept what you want them to say to satisfy your own ego. she couldn’t accept that Paras has rejected her for Mahira and that’s why she hates her and always defends Paras saying he is not bad and this and that but behaving like this because of Mahira . Always blames Mahira . In her mind , mahira is the villain and Paras is a the hero who is under Mahira’s influence and it’s again to satisfy her ego . Then because of her this behaviour people will feel she is jealous , how is it their fault if they feel so and filled her jug ?

In initial weeks , Sid and Fifi tried to make her understand that this attention wala attitude doesn’t work in real life when she was telling them that her friends or relationships don’t stay with her and leave her . they asked her that she needs to change her attitude as no one can give this much attention to anyone and then they leave her .

Originally posted by: Ashhima3

sorry that punjabi one I don’t agree. It’s because she had a liking initially makes her feel that way! When she has never mentioned about her liking to Paras has never been punjabi why do we say that? She has said even today that she respects him, has soft corner! He is in love with a wrong girl!?

i have heard sana say it somewhere.. even her reason for liking bagga was of that punjabi thing.. u must remember how she was with bagga irrespwctive of how bagga treated or jsed ber..

Originally posted by: hira221

Makes sense but it’s difficult for a typical person to differentiate between usual drama and defence mechanism drama. Even people closest to her not always able to tell.

There is no differentiation. If somebody behaves like that there has to be reason behind it. The extremes signs that Sana showed tell the whole story to people who know it.

You are right about even people who are closest can't tell and this is the reason i have full sympathy with other HMs including Sid.

Only person who can know it is Aarti only if she herself is consulting

I’m also going to add a few more points here after reading a few things being repeated again and again.

1. A confession isn’t going to do shit.
2. If you actually believe what Sid said to Sana about Paras is what he genuinely believes to be true then please think again. This was a huge hint for Sana to take, in the kindest politest way possible. And yahan Sid ne apna ullu bhi kaafi ache se seedha kiya hai.
3. What Sana feels for Paras is exactly what she claims to feel. A soft corner. She sees herself in him, a mischievous guy who has some khurafaat or the other on his mind. And Sid knows that, no matter what he says for reasons known best to him and people who can see through it. Not love but a soft corner.
4. What Rashmi said may seem like a game and could be but it was in fact a reality check Sana needed. Sid se clarity bahar bhi mil sakti hai but she should be prepared for everything.

Also, the reason Sana says Paras Mahira ke chakkar mein phas gaya hai is soley from the game POV. I feel she expected better from Paras. Maybe to see him with her in top 5 and now she doesn’t and feels Mahi is to be blamed for that. She wanted him to do well like she wanted Bagga to do well.

Frankly speaking Sana ke nakkre is difficult for any guy to cope up...

I really wonder Sid must have really tone down himself to suite her style

Baki i can be super wrong to judge her from the footage which are highly editted

My understanding of Sama’s psyche:

These are the words she always uses- badnaami, character, attention, jealousy.

I think this has to do with the trauma she faced during Sana-Himanshi issue before bb.

After Himanshi fight, they say- Punjab supported Himanshi over Sana. It caused Sana’s BADNAMI, CHARACTER of each other discussed by both of them, ppl must also have said less famous Sana is JELPOUS of more famous Himanshi. And popularity of Sana and work she was getting must also be affected so less ATTENTION. And all this happened in her own Punjab.

Sana is highly sensitive girl wearing emotions on her sleeves. This issue must have affected her deeply.

This is the reason Sana gets triggered easily with Character or Jealousy thing. Jealousy tag She don’t like we already know. But remember Rashmi bluffing abt knowing her past and Sana taking it as commenting on character. Even earlier fight with Bagga and Dey was abt character.
She also needs constant attention. And likes to live in the moment to avoid thinking abt such issues.

Self harm because she considers herself guilty for the pain it must have caused to her and her parents.

I would call this PTSD Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

I am not qualified Psychologist. But deeply interested to read on psychology. So this is my understanding of Sana with limited knowledge i have.