Heroes don't cry - Page 6

Originally posted by: AreYaar

I actually don’t think Mini wants any more apologies from him. The fact that she mentioned in this epi that he never used to apologize so formally to her for everything gives me the sense that an apology from him only continues to make her feel distant.

What she actually wants from him is his natural love and affection....nothing forced or formal.

This bringing up of Ashok and saying hurtful things to each other in anger is a larger issue that needs to be addressed too, I agree.

But first, they needed this clarification between themselves about being allowed to be themselves. He needed that assurance that he will be loved by Mini for himself....not for the label of a father as per her mom’s expectations.

He also needed the assurance that it’s OK to be flawed, to be imperfect. Mini doesn’t love him only if he’s perfect. She loves him for who he is - flaws included.

Seeing Babita’s recent emotionally abusive behavior towards HS, who can even blame him for not confiding in her 🤷‍♀️....I’m glad he atleast has Mini to talk to again. With Mini, despite all the awkwardness between them, he still is able to express his vulnerability to her. With Babita, all he gets is blame and anger if he shares his vulnerability on this topic.

WORD.. I also felt that she didn't need any apologies but I think he should make it up to her at some point. Perhaps not through an apology but by showing her how important she is in this family and in this home.

And no, Babita is not ready to hear all this but she will have to one day. She can't be kept out of this for long.

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Yes, these things do need to be addressed and I think now that they are communicating again, they will be addressed eventually. There’s a lot from that episode that HS doesn’t know including what Babita said to Mini in the lead up to the slap. As everything gradually comes out, these issues will be worked through.

All of them are bringing up Ashok during various conversations....Babita brought up Ashok yesterday to tell HS that he needs to fill the vacuum of Ashok in Mini’s life ....HS brought up Ashok in that argument to defend Babita as having done more for Mini than Ashok....and Mini brought up Ashok yesterday as a reminder that she can’t change the fact that’s he’s technically her father.

These feel like hints of a build up to me....Ashok still looms large over these relationships....they all still have some level of baggage about him that needs to be worked through.

I do think that Mini didn’t really think she is unwelcome in the house unless she toes their line, she understood that HS was saying things under pressure from Babita and went overboard....but yes, he still needs to realize he can’t just say things like these without them leaving a scar.

Hopefully he tries to be his natural self now after this encouragement and won’t resort to such outbursts again.

Haan, humein to HS au naturel hi pasand hai.

Originally posted by: naq5

Yes mini has been a constant support without him realizing it. He has opened up to her about his past and pain more than he has with babita. For the past few days after marriage he has been basking in babita s love and attraction (whatever you would call it) that he was actually feeling that was enough.

Maybe today he realised that mini and him have come a far way from when they shared a great understanding and bond. The fact that he did not bother to get anything for her b day is a proof to that. Mini s happiness hasnt really been his priority after marriage, babita s happiness has been more important. He now still wants to be minis hero but I think even he now understands that he is now a flawed hero for her.

I wish he has said sorry for getting ashok into it when he was scolding her the day before. Mini was more hurt by him saying that this is his and babes house not hers than him not getting any gift. And given the distance that has crept up between them mini is going to keep feeling this is not her house unless hs talks about it to her.

Just as HS needs to realize that he can still be her hero while being flawed, she also needs to realize that despite his flaws, he is indeed her hero. Ab yo hoga ke na, yo to waqt hi batayega.

Originally posted by: AreYaar

You already answered this question some days back. Babita happened. Lol

HS-Mini called each other father-daughter but they were still growing into the bond. It wasn’t fully solid.

On the wedding day, some insecurities of HS were triggered as well and the rest snowballed with everyone else’s reaction.

HS was unable to balance between Babita and Mini after the wedding cuz he got caught up in hormones as a newlywed.

He technically hasn’t really been a father before. He has some ideas about it, he feels the emotions, but previously he was a father to Mini without the official label. Once he married Babita, he started feeling the pressure of a label. That is what changed.

So to me, it all still adds up. The awkwardness is understandable because of the misunderstandings that cropped up. It helped clear up some presumptions they had. Rest they will work through.

Also because this is a parent-child relationship that needs work because even though we love the idea of dil ka rishta, it needs efforts. It cannot be taken for granted that things will fall into place like they do when there is a biological parent-child relationship.

I also feel that HS himself has been through a lot ever since they both came into his life. He was living alone all this time and so much has happened in the past few months that it took a toll on him. Not to mention all his past memories and traumas being triggered in such a way. I don't think he gave himself the chance to have some space and to sort through his emotions. He just shut them down for now.

Originally posted by: tk2015

Didn't HS once say something along the lines of, don't hold your close ones so tight that they start suffocating? Babes loves HS-Minnie and she is scared of losing either one. So she's holding on to them so tight, one day HS when she wants to be immersed in his love, next day Minnie when she is scared of losing her to adulthood/ her new marriage.

But that's all she's doing. Grabbing on tight without stepping back and viewing the scenario as a whole to realise what she can do to fix things. Plus, for all this talk about them now being a family, she sure isn't actively doing anything to bridge the gap or do family stuff together.

@bold, that's exactly what we're seeing. I love the throwback to such themes!

Originally posted by: inlieu

Haan, humein to HS au naturel hi pasand hai.

😲🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Originally posted by: AreYaar

😲🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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Originally posted by: inlieu

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I’m laughing over your au naturale line.

Au naturale = naked 😆

Originally posted by: inlieu

WORD.. I also felt that she didn't need any apologies but I think he should make it up to her at some point. Perhaps not through an apology but by showing her how important she is in this family and in this home.

And no, Babita is not ready to hear all this but she will have to one day. She can't be kept out of this for long.

I feel he will make it up to her. I sensed a lightening of his burden in his body language after this. As the confidence rebuilds, he will make it up to her in his own way :)

Re: Babita....no she’s not ready....she punishes them if they try to give her some honesty 🙄 so I’m not sure why they get blamed for this.

She’s a total mess to deal with 🤷‍♀️

Originally posted by: inlieu

Just as HS needs to realize that he can still be her hero while being flawed, she also needs to realize that despite his flaws, he is indeed her hero. Ab yo hoga ke na, yo to waqt hi batayega.

I think she’s already accepted that to some extent...she can see his flaws more clearly now and has accepted him with them. That is what her “aap mere imperfect Hanuman uncle” line was for, it felt like.

But yes, there is still hurt to be worked through.....so hopefully she can fully reconcile herself to that. That a hero comes in many forms - flaws included.