Not father but we Love eachother

So my darling Mini and Dashing HS

According to you both HS is not Mini’s father but babita’s hubby. Ok I buy that . But I still have a question regarding both of you.

1. Why Mini why did you always (even when you did not know about HS feelings) always obey HS whenever he did a countdown.

2. Why HS why did you actually do all that mehenat for Mini in hospital? You knew M never wanted Hanita as a couple back then. MB were possibly going to leave the Haveli.

3.Why Mini Why would you share all your problems with HS and not your babes or your bestie or soulmate?

4. Why did you feel so bad seeing Mini in her depressed state. Sorry HS it did not look like love for a little girl to me .

5 What the hell was the hospital talk between you 2? Babita toh Nahi thi udhar. And HS as much as I remember; to fulfill your promise you did behave rudely with Babita. Haina!!

6. Why did you go to the counsellor HS?

7.why did you stand against your babes during Imarti time Mini?

Are you serious about the fact that it’s only respectful love and parent-kid relationship Hannie?

What?? Where's this coming from?

Please don't give them any more ideas. The story line is messed up as it is.

Originally posted by: inlieu

What?? Where's this coming from?

Please don't give them any more ideas. The story line is messed up as it is.

No these were the questions running in my mind since they disclosed that HS called her daughter only to impress Babes

Originally posted by: Hannie_Fan

No these were the questions running in my mind since they disclosed that HS called her daughter only to impress Babes

Ewww, no. He called her his daughter on the day of the pooja to assure her, and he said the same thing to everyone upstairs as well, in front of Minnie, that his confession to Babita should have been understood in the form of him claiming to be Minnie's father. But over time, the lines got blurred because HS was already doing things as a father without realizing it. The consent form scene was one of the biggest indicators of this.

There's a lot of other stuff going on but definitely not this. They are supposed to be exploring the challenges that step children and parents face when slowly trying to adjust to each other and accept one another. Sometimes the relationship ends up being that of a parent-child, sometimes it is more of friendship than parent-child, and in other cases it's just a formal/official relationship, nothing more. It's especially difficult when the children are older as opposed to being infants/toddlers where stepparents get to raise the child and watch them grow.

Here HS and Minnie did not think about or expect that there was going to be any issues after the wedding but they were blindsided. HS knew it would take time to really become a father, but Minnie and Babita expected it to happen sooner, hence their disappointment.

One more thing: HS never had his parents' love while growing up so when he sees what happened to Minnie he understands her pain and wants to give her what he never got as a child. Everyone focused on Babita's second chance but no one thought about Minnie missing out on so much in her life. If nothing else, Lala's and NB's words should have made it clear that he loves her as his daughter but shares much more than a traditional parent-child bond because his childhood trauma connects him to Minnie and vice-versa.

Originally posted by: inlieu

...but no one thought about Minnie missing out on so much in her life.

But HS did! It's why he wanted her to be welcomed into the Haveli as his daughter. He wanted to give her everything he never had. But if Minnie doesn't want it then can he really be blamed for it?

Originally posted by: inlieu

Ewww, no. He called her his daughter on the day of the pooja to assure her, and he said the same thing to everyone upstairs as well, in front of Minnie, that his confession to Babita should have been understood in the form of him claiming to be Minnie's father. But over time, the lines got blurred because HS was already doing things as a father without realizing it. The consent form scene was one of the biggest indicators of this.

There's a lot of other stuff going on but definitely not this. They are supposed to be exploring the challenges that step children and parents face when slowly trying to adjust to each other and accept one another. Sometimes the relationship ends up being that of a parent-child, sometimes it is more of friendship than parent-child, and in other cases it's just a formal/official relationship, nothing more. It's especially difficult when the children are older as opposed to being infants/toddlers where stepparents get to raise the child and watch them grow.

Here HS and Minnie did not think about or expect that there was going to be any issues after the wedding but they were blindsided. HS knew it would take time to really become a father, but Minnie and Babita expected it to happen sooner, hence their disappointment.

One more thing: HS never had his parents' love while growing up so when he sees what happened to Minnie he understands her pain and wants to give her what he never got as a child. Everyone focused on Babita's second chance but no one thought about Minnie missing out on so much in her life. If nothing else, Lala's and NB's words should have made it clear that he loves her as his daughter but shares much more than a traditional parent-child bond because his childhood trauma connects him to Minnie and vice-versa.

See u are definitely right but for me that Pooja scene was very special for a reason. The way they made it into a way of pleasing Babita broke my heart(and I am not overreacting) I became very emotional and am still very emotional. Hence I want them to be beti father and not friends or something else . That’s why these were questioned I listed as to why did they need to destroy the essence of such a beautiful scene

Originally posted by: inlieu

Ewww, no. He called her his daughter on the day of the pooja to assure her, and he said the same thing to everyone upstairs as well, in front of Minnie, that his confession to Babita should have been understood in the form of him claiming to be Minnie's father.

Exactly. He didn’t “pretend” to be her father all the time to impress Babes.

What Hanuman told Babita is true. He called himself Mini’s Father on POOJA Day to assure Babita. In the room upstairs when Mini asks him to propose, he said.. are bol diya na tera Father. Ibb ke baki reh gaya propose karne mein.

So him declaring himself as Mini’s father was his way to propose.

Everybody is running with his words and not implying it in situation. Blaming him and calling him lattoo on Babita or whatever.

He loves Mini as daughter. May be more than that. But He and Mini never had that conversation. It’s the Gap, HS and Mini has to bridge. And since CD fiasco, they both are running away from it. Their insecurities have cropped up.

But Hanuman did not do everything for Mini that he did to impress Babita. He never said it!

Originally posted by: Hannie_Fan

See u are definitely right but for me that Pooja scene was very special for a reason. The way they made it into a way of pleasing Babita broke my heart(and I am not overreacting) I became very emotional and am still very emotional. Hence I want them to be beti father and not friends or something else . That’s why these were questioned I listed as to why did they need to destroy the essence of such a beautiful scene

But on the Same Pooja day itself, when Bachha Party and NB were upstairs, everyone kept asking him to propose, he told them.. are kar to diya propose ibb ke baki hai.

So declaring himself Mini’s father was his way to propose to Babita and Mini.

He said the same thing recently. Doesn’t take away anything from his love for Mini.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

But HS did! It's why he wanted her to be welcomed into the Haveli as his daughter. He wanted to give her everything he never had. But if Minnie doesn't want it then can he really be blamed for it?

ok but after minis breakdown in front of her friends its not that she dint want it. She too wanted it. HS just assumed that she dint want it during CD fiasco. And if you see if mini has not gotten over CD fiasco even HS has not got over it. During that he thought mini dosent want him as father and even after his MU is resoled he still thinks the same and even mini thinks the same. so thinking wise both are at fault here. And HS being the one to doubt mini its more on him than mini here

I don’t know why everyone is hung up on Minnie calling HS father. As long as there is mutual respect and love the tag doesn’t matter. I want their relationship to go back to the way it was title or not. I think the whole Baap tag- Sautela VS Real or original like Khatri says is the root of the problem. Everyone including Minnie expects HS to behave differently now he is “father” but then HS always treated Minnie nicely but he was never invested in her feelings 24/7- he had his good time with Lala and flirted with Babita. Now he is expected to read her mind, fix stuff which is just awkward- would be for anyone. If I had a tiff with someone and ppl around me forced me to make up by a certain date and time I would hate it. Let them take their time- No cliche “father” tags. An 18 year old doesn’t need a father, she needs a mentor and a friend.