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Originally posted by: zehreeli.kheer

As I said, boundaries are different for different people.. for me, the boundary broke with the gallery scene while for you it's intact till they don't do do something..

A lot of gallery scenes have happened even before preet came into picture. i mean is meeting a guy for 5 minutes to talk have to have a time line of which crosses the line. wernt mini mickey together at other times in the night too while arranging meeting. Did they meet to have romantic talk does mini even have romantic feelings for mickey. No just eat chocolate and talk about babes HS. A friend wanting to give her friend a chocolate and talk to her because she was upset i dont see it as crossing the line.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

Which boundary scene?

Gallery scene.. when Mini climbed down the balcony to meet Micky in the middle of night.. that was a breach of trust in my eyes

Parents do bring the house down when kids do not respond, especially teenage ones who have left the house in a jiffy after a fight irrespective of the gender.. that is quite nornal

Originally posted by: tantal

The point of difference is that HS was NOT restless about Minnie's whereabouts. He just casually shrugged his shoulders and said she is old enough and will come back when she wants. It was only when Babita asked him what kind of father he was that he got indignant and decided to take the bull by the horns. I would have been okay with HS scolding Minnie if it was shown that he was sick with worry and he was taking out his pent up feelings on Minne. But here it was all about him showing his character as a dad to babita.. Minnie was secondary. Concern and care can be the underpinning of an outburst like HS's one but when it was shown that he was doing it to show who is the boss to Babita, it was unpalatable

He knows that Minni is with Mickey and preet Babita said it to him ...ane he said that she is upset and she will be back once she is OK... Was that not trust he gave on her....

But do you really think any father will tolerate that irresponsible behavior....

Originally posted by: zehreeli.kheer

Gallery scene.. when Mini climbed down the balcony to meet Micky in the middle of night.. that was a breach of trust in my eyes

Yes it was the same for me... She could have said no to him.. But she did go to meet him and lied to HS... If you think you were right then why did you lie...

Lol.

Did I just read now that they think that look Mini gave Babita for not telling the whole story to HS.

Hang on a minute, is Mini a professional at doing that and this has been shown many times from the beginning that she hides and lies to Babita and when caught promises not to do it but still does it all the time and worse cases are the Collage Admissions and the true Story of Romeo Mickey's background and midnight climbing down to meet him etc.

So suddenly the Mini is finding out that her Babes has started to question her and is getting a voice and is not going to get pushed around by her. That suddenly she has gone in my Babes has ruined my life and spoil her Babes image in front of her friends is sad.

Mini has been indulged all her life, that now the way she speaks to her Mother is disrespectful and very rude and thinks that she us right all the time.

Here I want the Khuranas to tell her how to behave in public and boys etc ad people will talk about Mini.

Originally posted by: naq5

A lot of gallery scenes have happened even before preet came into picture. i mean is meeting a guy for 5 minutes to talk have to have a time line of which crosses the line. wernt mini mickey together at other times in the night too while arranging meeting. Did they meet to have romantic talk does mini even have romantic feelings for mickey. No just eat chocolate and talk about babes HS. A friend wanting to give her friend a chocolate and talk to her because she was upset i dont see it as crossing the line.

If it was so innocent and accepting in Mini's eyes, why did she hide about it from Hanuman?

As I said, having romantic feelings or not makes no difference to me.. when kids down their balcony to attend a party, it's not for romance.. it's to have fun.. but that too is a breach of trust

This is the era of phones.. if Micky wanted to talk to her, he could have called and then met her during the morning through the front door too

Originally posted by: tantal

How can a grown man. who is lauded for his sensitivity and wisdom, use a 17 yr old kid to prove a point to his wife? First babita and now HS is bashing, humiliating and demeaning Minnie in front of others (friends, grandparents) all in the course of one day. Is a 17 yr old not supposed to have any self-respect or dignity. They couldn't.. the two grown azz parents.. taken her to a secluded spot to speak their harsh comments?

HS is the last one to do that. First Babita cheapened Minnie by comparing her to Meeta, then Minnie cheapened Babita by accusing her of not having any “control”. HS was actually the most sensitive- he didn’t cheapen anybody and a threat by a parent is never serious. Parents have been threatening kids since beginning of time sometimes for them not finishing their food, homework etc. I didn’t even find that to be such a big deal compared to what Babita and Minnie said to each other.

Most of the teenagers have heard the threat of being kicked out of the house when they answer back to their parents.

Originally posted by: porankisrilata

He knows that Minni is with Mickey and preet Babita said it to him ...ane he said that she is upset and she will be back once she is OK... Was that not trust he gave on her....

But do you really think any father will tolerate that irresponsible behavior....

I definitely a GOOD father will not prod a sore point in his child's psyche to prove a point. He knows Ashok is a festering wound in her soul.. he has seen it multiple times how deeply affected she was by Ashok's behavior and role in her life. To so callously say that Ashok had thrown you out of his house and I was generous enough to offer you a roof over your head? Terrible. Will he ever dare to say that to Babita that your old husband abandoned you and I was kind enough to marry you?

we have been talking a lot about boundaries lately.. this was one boundary HS should not have crossed.

Originally posted by: naq5

yes but arent boundaries to be decided by the persons themselves. for eg i may not like hugging with my guy friends or for that matter even the girl friends but my other friends would be okay so do i say they are crossing boundaries.

Boundaries mini- mickey will decide how touchy they can get with each other.

it is the thought which matters and should not cross boundaries

Your parents do get a say in what they are comfortable with.. Micky Mini can decide and Babita can stop.. that's how parents and kids relationship work.. parents are supposed to stop their kids if they think their kids are crossing boundary..

Let's just say, Mini is quite vulnerable at the moment.. she is already conflicted about her feelings for Micky.. how long can it take for thoughts to change in such a situation?