Originally posted by: AreYaar
It sure seems like it, doesn't it? 😕.....or as you said, they are just going to keep it at him referring to himself as a father in general terms as a title for the world but on a one on one level, he is still her Hanuman Uncle....he doesn't really behave with the full haq of a father and neither does she show any overture or interest in that.
Yes, even I get the sense that there is some intent here from the writers....none of this is accidental....but the intent itself is muddled in execution IMO....I saw strong hints in the last two epis that they want to show that these characters don't really know or have faith in each other....I said the same in my Tic Tac Toe wala thread also......but then the point remains.....where will that intent go? Will the writers even have the guts to address the fact that this marriage was rushed into or will they gloss it over as usual?
Unless those fundamental cracks in these equations are addressed, at this pace toh they should all fall apart.....but will they show that? Will they just make these relationships a burden then? Ki ek shaadi toh toot chuki hai, dusri ko kaise bhi nibhaao without really communicating with each other....and the facade continues for life. Sometimes I get strong hints that the writers know they are showing a facade and the bubble will be shown to burst one day.....other times, I'm not so sure there is any larger purpose here.....that they are quite fine with keeping these equations shallow only hereon.
As for HS and his mistake.....arey aisa bhi kya kar diya? Mother-daughter are doing way worse to each other right now.....lol.....in my eyes, sincerely realizing and apologizing for a mistake goes a long way....and frankly the real issue is communication, not forgiveness.....HS-Mini need to communicate and bond continuously again rather than only check in once in a while to play tic tac toe. I don't think it's that Mini hasn't forgiven him.....it seems more to do with her stepping back to let him prioritize her mother....a presumption has been made that she needs to step back to make space for husband-wife to bond.....the father-daughter bond is the elephant in the room that no one is talking about and is just conveniently presuming has fallen into place.
The writers have deliberately stopped showing both HS and Mini thinking about this.....they seem to have settled into this current dynamic of jitna bhi hai hum dono ka, theek hai. Instead of developing the bonds simultaneously, they've skewed it towards HB. Balance ka problem hai on all levels.....lol
I feel ya.
To be honest, hearing Hanuman Uncle from her and even from Mickey, in the way it was said, was just hurting me the other day. Especially when you think back to where these two went with the Imarti track. He referred to his fear and lack of confidence and we thought these issues of haq would be
Or is this all going back to what HS was saying about a man and woman's relationship being complicated? Fine but I just don't think either Minnie or HS are the kinds to maintain a hollow/superficial relationship. She can't stop considering him her hero overnight can she? The way she hugged him after re-entering the house couldn't have been for nothing.
Frankly, I'd love to see if they have the guts to show HS and Minnie continue to build their bond even if Babita and Minnie grow apart. They've always had their own equation independent of Babita, up until their reconciliation even, and the tic tac toe scene, but I want to see if the writers really can push the envelope here and do right by the characters and the journey they've had so far.
I also think Minnie's insecurities will come out in ways that she doesn't realize and I do hope HS will get a whiff of it. As for him prioritizing Babita, I don't think there's anything wrong with it as long as he maintains a balance. Minnie was the one who kept pushing him and extracting promises from him to be good to her mother and look after her, so I hope she will understand. She doesn't expect him to be her father so he has no promises to fulfill for her in that regard. Sure, his paternal instincts will always be there. As you said the father-daughter bond is the elephant in the room that no one is talking about but methinks we are going to see it challenged in many different ways. Whether these challenges are shown to be sensible or not, that remains to be seen. I agree that his mistake was big but not so big that he deserves to lose his daughter or all the happiness that he had seen promises of.
As you said, balance ka problem hai. I don't mind if they show the bubble bursting, because they have deliberate lulled all 3 into a false sense of security but the real conversations need to start happening on all fronts. I don't care how long they take to address the underlying issues, but kahin se to shuruat karein!
Edited by inlieu - 6 years ago