1st Oct Discussion - Ajao Saray - Page 24

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

Yes Gur. I'm tearing up here. Shuddering thinking about it. That day I was confident today I stand really scared.😵

I'm shocked, exasperated and numbed.

Don't be scared girls. You make your own lives. Finish your studies, earn your bread. Then you will have the footing on which to make the right decisions about marriage and other things.

Marriage is a lifetime commitment, assuming the other person also sees it this way. If he's a jerk just walk out and don't let him treat you like crap. If he's not supporting you or shielding you from the in-laws that's his problem and he needs to straighten it up. It's also better to clear your stance before you get married and if you notice weird things before the wedding that should ring alarm bells, better to call it off than force everyone to go through it for the sake of log kya kahenge.

Have you watched the short film, Juice? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R-Sk7fQGIjE

If not, check it out and come back and tell me what you think.

Originally posted by: inlieu

Been there done that. I am not kidding when I say God was my savior. No human being helped me.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

Hmm, but didn't she say that she started teaching so that she can be closer to Immu? And I don't know how schools are divided in India, but I'm assuming older kids and KG students are taught in separate ones?

Maybe I misunderstood, but it sounded like she made some compromises in her career but consoled herself by the fact that at least she could be closer to her kid. Isn't that what a lot of women end up doing?

Originally posted by: tk2015

I agree completely. I feel people do relate respect with financial status. I don't agree with this, but I feel this happens. So I don't want to be manipulated into anything just because I am not independent financially. I don't want to have any kind of fear that someone can do something wrong with me and get away with it just because I don't have a monetary safety net.

Understand completely. I had learnt this in a really shocking way where in a fight, my dad had told me that if I wanted to live in the house then I either had to find a job or do the chores. To hear that coming from my own dad broke me and really messed with me for a long time. If I'm not safe in my own home, then where am I safe?

Prior to this, I knew I had to become financially independent but this fight just jolted something in me. It was as if I had to do this, even if it is for my own protection.

Originally posted by: inlieu

Yes, and Babita also needs to stand up for herself where Minnie is concerned, because Minnie will not always be right and she doesn't always have to agree with or follow what Minnie says. She has to learn to make her own decisions, and I hope that day comes soon.

But the minute Babita takes her decisions, Mini throws tantrums.

Today all Mini needed to say was — Babes you do whatever you want to. You are not wrong.

I wan to keep my relations with Dadu Biji. Let me.

That’s it. Instead Mini ended blaming Babita for the torture she went thru and whitewashed her blood related family.

Mini also needs to make up her mind and let Babita be. Mini flip flops a lot.

Originally posted by: tk2015

I keep telling my family that if you ask me to learn cooking for myself because it's a life skill, I'd gladly do it. I do like doing it when I want to learn. When you point out that it'll be a required skill after I get married, it irks me so much that I just stop doing it altogether. Thankfully, we all are learning to strike a balance with this. [Much like your OS]

That's the spirit.

Originally posted by: inlieu

Word, agree with everything you said. Basic courtesy is not too much to ask, is it?

For some people it is. 🤔

It's almost as if we're not asking for respect but for all the treasures in the world.

Originally posted by: divyadaya13

i have a cordial relationship with my MIL. as soon as i got engaged she put forward a list of unreasonable donts through my would be husband. I was a working independent girl and this really pissed me. I just asked one question to my fiancee was it his wish or his moms. He replied i am ok with the way you are. My hubby was a very nice kind person who really loved and respected me (he passed away at an young age) so for his sake i just gave in for a few months till i got married. My jethani who is some what like babita used to meekly follow the rules put forward by my MIL. After one month of my marriage i slowly started saying no to many rules along with the reason and took my stand. And also told my husband i am not ekta kapoor bahu nor i want mahaan bahu certificate. Give me respect i will give double of that. My MiL stays with me but she also knows that i am not the one who can be manipulated. Even my sister in law to some extent has learned a lesson however hard ahe tries she can never live upto other peoples standard.

You said that?

I am super impressed! Wow!

But it's so true, if you give people an opening they will abuse it over and over again. Some doors are meant to remain shut.

Originally posted by: silvermoonlight

So many peeps angry with Minnie

So I just had a random thot

What if CV did all this to prove Minnie wrong ??

Let’s say Sr Ks move in and we now see them interfering in Babes life too much again

Then Minnie has to be the one to tell her grandparents to leave

Wouldn’t that be an interesting twist !

Khuranas call HS bad step father.

And then I want to see the reactions regarding to Khuranas. And helping them out of humanity sake. Old age and all those reasoning. 😃

Also, in any case, Mini will side with her Dadu Biji. I can see that.

I did not like the way Mini spoke to Babita today. In her quest to be Mini the Great, she has white washed the Khuranas as Angels, even Lovely who is a nasty piece of work. Yes they never loved her like they shou3have but used her to be a servant.

Did not like the way she bought in Babita's parents to justify the Khuranas. In those days once the Girl was Married that was it, they interfered. Today she made all of Babita family bad to justify the Khuranas was really sad.

Today she bought up HS name with what will people say about Ashok attachment etc is not good and further went on to say that she wants to be a goid Wife to HS, is not giving good vibes about the 2nd Marriage.

Today she did not even bother to speak properly to HS, which is not good. Boy she sure has anger issues not good.

NB figured out why her son came and wanted to sell and have her as a unpaid nanny. Sad.

But hope that he does not sell it.