1st Oct Discussion - Ajao Saray - Page 18

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

The way Naaem Bi collapsed when she said Irfan just wanted an aaya for Imu, not an Ammi. 😭

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Originally posted by: asmaanixx

Then there's also the fact that we're the ones who are leaving the comforts of our family and home. Then, when we move into the new one, we have to deal with the fact that this new place will never be completely ours. There will always be that element where we have to be on our best behavior or we will be taunted about our lack of upbringing and whatnot.

Even now, my mom would sometimes teach me things by adding on that when you get married I don't want to hear that your mother didn't teach you anything. It's like our whole life we're groomed and prepared on how to deal with these in-laws. Tum khudh mar jao, par bas woh khush rahe.

EXACTLY!!!

Damn this was recent, where I got a very very rude reality check by my mother that I'm bound to get married. Cooking aani chahiye, ghar ka kaam aana chahiye. Public mein accha behave karo. Look good. Dress up decently. It is unsaid but its begun. I can feel it.

UGGGHHH. I guess the more I get unnecessarily pushed, the more I stop caring about it.🤣

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

I sympathize with Babita. She had no one to support her, not even her parents. Sometimes I feel that's true. You're on your own in this world. No one will take you under wings when trouble strikes, especially marriage related stuff. Cause going back is never an option unless its unbearable.

Exactly! This is why I'm hell-bent on doing something for myself. Even if I may or may not be as emotionally strong, I at least want to have financial independence. If something happens, I would not have that aspect to worry about. There is no guarantee on who you can fall back on, because sometimes even the most well-meaning people have their own set of issues and can be rendered helpless.

Originally posted by: inlieu

He doesn't give Ruksana freedom of thought and speech, maybe? She was talking about how she had to compromise on her ambitions and teach school children instead of higher education I guess, while Irfan is busy being a lecturer at a prestigious university.

Very much possible. HS type people exist only in fantasies perhaps 😒

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

I would be shaken out of my dreams and would definetly consider abandoning the wedding as an option (easy to only say ik). Or surely retort. Hell that was soooo bad!

It feels so damn ignorant and whuuuttt? Rude even ain't the word!

I know! It's like shaadi hue ke din bhi ni hua aur already yeh suna para. My mind would have instantly started to conjure up all the horrible things that I might be put through. Am I going to have a happy and peaceful life or would I have to be constantly reminded of who I am and where I stand in the house?

Ufh, I can't even explain it! I'm still frozen after hearing that.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

Babita never thinks things through with a calm and rational manner. She gets wayyy too caught up in her emotions and then starts blurting out whatever comes to her mind.

Even today, when HS came in, he was asking about why Minnie was disturbed but Babita apni baat ki lekar bhet gayi. Granted, it was bothering her a lot, but she just blurted that she was bad and selfish and was seeking validation from him that she was right in her thinking. For a moment, I had thought HS would roll his eyes thinking they had been over this. 😆 But it's good that he pointed out that Minnie wasn't right to call her selfish.

Minnie's anger is getting out of hand. She needs to get a hold of that before she gets into some serious trouble.

HS is not going to tolerate this behavior and I wonder if there will be another countdown with her or if he talks to her about not misbehaving with Babita.

She will get into trouble and I fear that one day when HS will try to discipline her, she will ask him who he was to be so strict with her, he wasn't her father!

Originally posted by: tk2015

It's so disheartening that Khuranas being as they are, got shelter from other people, their grandchild, ex-bahu and her husband. Even their daughter didn't complete abandon them.

On the other hand, NB being the loving, caring, an entire treasure trove of wisdom and so much more has to deal with her own son behaving this way. Thank f for HS and the love they both have for each other. ❤️

WHERE IS THE JUSTICE?! What's the damn point of being a good person? Nobody's fate is decided by being good or bad. And this fact is etched in reality. Aisa hi hota hai. Watching NB suffer like this... 😭

That is what I said yesterday.

What is the motivation to do good in life when you see the contrast in good and bad people suffer in life.

What you said about people like NB. I have seen such nice oldies get worst kind of babus and betas.

I don’t know why but Karma works in weird ways.

Originally posted by: tk2015

Exactly! This is why I'm hell-bent on doing something for myself. Even if I may or may not be as emotionally strong, I at least want to have financial independence. If something happens, I would not have that aspect to worry about. There is no guarantee on who you can fall back on, because sometimes even the most well-meaning people have their own set of issues and can be rendered helpless.

Same. Subconsciously, my planning has begun. Someone here had said about your own house, I'm already on that. I want my own house. My OWN.

I wanna be financially independent.

SAME feelings, dittoooo. I truly wanna do something for myself.

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

I was thrown back to Jean's post at this moment, that NB will go through so much hurt. Felt so so bad! Even bad on thinking how hurt HS will be to find her like that. I really want HS to have a talk with her SOON.

I was expecting it before the episode aired but it still hurt so much to see that. She has been nothing but wonderful to everyone, trying her best to help those around her, being a solid source of moral support and wisdom at all times. She has a great contribution in how mother-daughter's lives have turned out.

I want HS to see her in that state and to find out exactly what happened. That is the most anticipated scene for me. I want to see what he does as a beta. It's time to take a stand for her for all the times she stood by him like a rock, and of course because he adores her so much.

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

You said it.l

And its really tough. Gawwwd I can't even share what I've seen in the name of this shit. And I always have this fear of me meeting the same bloody fate.

Dil se dua hi ki tumhare saath bhala hi hoga. 🤗