1st Oct Discussion - Ajao Saray - Page 16

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

But that's world. Unless you don't speak up for yourself, no one will care shit about you let alone in laws. Expecting Ks to think about Babita so much when she herself isn't saying anything is unrealistic.

I agree. But I also don't want to live in a world where basic compassion has to be asked for or acquired. If we keep painting the picture that in-laws almost never treat DIL as daughter, will anything ever change? Shouldn't we fight now for our haq to be accepted equally into our new "home" as the son or their daughter is? Maybe then in our future generations we'll see improvement? I don't know, maybe I'm a bit naive in this manner. I know how my mother has lived, but can't we change that?

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

Ufh, that's just horrible. 😒

I mean, what a way to start a new relationship. 🤔

I would be shaken out of my dreams and would definetly consider abandoning the wedding as an option (easy to only say ik). Or surely retort. Hell that was soooo bad!

It feels so damn ignorant and whuuuttt? Rude even ain't the word!

Originally posted by: tk2015

It's so disheartening that Khuranas being as they are, got shelter from other people, their grandchild, ex-bahu and her husband. Even their daughter didn't complete abandon them.

On the other hand, NB being the loving, caring, an entire treasure trove of wisdom and so much more has to deal with her own son behaving this way. Thank f for HS and the love they both have for each other. ❤️

WHERE IS THE JUSTICE?! What's the damn point of being a good person? Nobody's fate is decided by being good or bad. And this fact is etched in reality. Aisa hi hota hai. Watching NB suffer like this... 😭

You know, this contrast was so obvious today between the Khuranas and her, and it hurt me even more to see her like this.

Sach mein, ye din dekhne ke liye wo zinda thi?

She was totally broken today. She deserves so much better than this.

Originally posted by: tk2015

Ruksana, as far as we've seen is a kind-hearted, sweet lady. I actually felt bad for her. She's stuck between her husband (whom I suppose she can't really put down her foot with) and her MIL or what she truly feels is correct.

I agree, NB and Khurana's have a good relation separate to that of anyone else. But I still wish they had spoken up against Lovely. When Lovely said bakwaas for NB tabh nahi roka, abh bura laga when chotu Imran calls Beeji as Jhanjat daadi.

Glaring difference between Good upbringing and bad upbringing.

NB stopped Irfan right there and then.

Biji and Dadu never stopped lovely. Lovely said haaye Biji roj aapko bibi ka chehra dekhna padta hai subah uthkar.

That was so mean and disrespectful. Yet Biji never reprimanded Lovely.

I am sorry I just can’t accept Biji and Lovely being whitewashed today under the guise of tera bura nahi chahte. Are bura bolte to hai. Har kisi ke bare mein. To torture someone emotionally is a small thing now?

Originally posted by: tk2015

I agree. But I also don't want to live in a world where basic compassion has to be asked for or acquired. If we keep painting the picture that in-laws almost never treat DIL as daughter, will anything ever change? Shouldn't we fight now for our haq to be accepted equally into our new "home" as the son or their daughter is? Maybe then in our future generations we'll see improvement? I don't know, maybe I'm a bit naive in this manner. I know how my mother has lived, but can't we change that?

We definetly can but I doubt we'd be understood, unless we treat them in the same fashion first. Cause agar bahu zara bhi expectation rakhe to haaye ram kitni buri hai! Meanwhile in laws can do whatever they want.

Ugghh. I don't think this aspect can ever be understood by people who are like Khuranas.

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

Exactly same. My mother does share disturbing facts about them. And I can safely say that she also treats them as a in laws and not parents anymore.

But the one thing I can proudly say is that my grandfather has always treated her like his own daughter and has stayed true to his word. Even above my father. That one thing is heartwarming to see. Baaki DIL MIL everyone knows lol.

Oh I get you now. So everyone's worked up with double standards of Khuranas claiming that they treated her like a daughter. Oh no why be shocked? It's always like that! Poori society hi aisi hai.

I'll call you only Gurwati now okay?🤗

My mom doesn't even need to share those facts. I've seen it all happen before my own eyes. Ironically, while my mom and my grandma had a MIL & DIL relationship, they were still always cordial with each other. Not too friendly and not too bad either. They were always at that respectful distance. My grandpa on the other hand was a pure vamp. Pata ni kis baat ko lekar problem thi mom ke saath. 🤔 Baat baat par taane maar na aur bura keh na. 😵

The difference between Babes and my mom is that my mom never took it down silently all the time. Yes, there were some times when she let it go because she didn't want things to escalate, but there were times when she would reach her limit and blast right back at him. She's very staunch when it comes to her self-respect. She won't let anyone mistreat her for any reason. The times when she let things slide was purely for my dad because she didn't want him to stress over it. But it's not like he was blinded by the love for his father. He knew exactly the kind of man he is and the kind of things he'll put my mom through.

If in-laws want to stay as in-laws, then that's fine. But that doesn't give them the license to mistreat their DILs. That's when things get out of hand and they need to be taught a lesson. It's the same thing with the Khuranas. If they wanted to keep Babita as a DIL, fine. But that doesn't mean that they should've silently watched on as Lovely talked shit about Babes. I mean, they come from an era where a DIL's izzat is the same as their own. So is this how they maintain their reputation?

Society aisi hai doesn't mean that's how they should always be. Society needs to change and learn how to be fricking civil and respectful towards one another.

Haha, yes! 🤗

Originally posted by: tk2015

@bold: Even I felt it. She also said that they do everything for their kids. Irfan doesn't look like a bad parent (though he surely isn't keen on teach Imran what's right or wrong by using jhanjat daadi in front of him). Is it possible that she's staying or not speaking up for Imran's sake?

Or maybe we're looking too much into it because PB has spoilt us in this manner. 😆

You're not spoiled. Nothing is ainvayi on this show, every comma and period is deliberate.

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

We definetly can but I doubt we'd be understood, unless we treat them in the same fashion first. Cause agar bahu zara bhi expectation rakhe to haaye ram kitni buri hai! Meanwhile in laws can do whatever they want.

Ugghh. I don't think this aspect can ever be understood by people who are like Khuranas.

Then they wonder why people are opting for nuclear families instead of staying with in-laws. Then also we would feel that they're aged and need someone around. Damned if you do, damned if you don't.

Originally posted by: NimbuMirchi

Sandhya ji is a brilliant actress. She was so amazing in her conversation with irfan.

The realization as to why Irfan was here, broke her.

NB 🤗

I know! She yearned to see her child and grandson for years aur jab aaye bhi toh kaise aaye. Not to see their pyaari Ammi but for their own selfish needs. 😒

Originally posted by: NimbuMirchi

Glaring difference between Good upbringing and bad upbringing.

NB stopped Irfan right there and then.

Biji and Dadu never stopped lovely. Lovely said haaye Biji roj aapko bibi ka chehra dekhna padta hai subah uthkar.

That was so mean and disrespectful. Yet Biji never reprimanded Lovely.

I am sorry I just can’t accept Biji and Lovely being whitewashed today under the guise of tera bura nahi chahte. Are bura bolte to hai. Har kisi ke bare mein. To torture someone emotionally is a small thing now?

Beeji and Lovely can never be whitewashed. But the fact is Beeji ne itna bhi bura nahi kiya toh be rendered homeless on streets. Neither is she worthy of shamshaan taane.

Beeji is a typical parent who has no say over her kids, specially Lovely. I know such people too, lol. But okay, I believe she's not thaaat guilty to thrown away nor should she be given a clean chit.