1st Oct Discussion - Ajao Saray - Page 13

Originally posted by: inlieu

I hope so too dear. Shaadi huey 1 hafta bhi nahin hua aur ye log siyappe par siyappe dikha rahe hein.

I am beginning wonder if there's anything deeper behind why Babita cares so much about what people will say, something that may have been embedded in her psyche from a young age. The face that the words of someone like Khatri, who she knows is a vile man, can get to her is unsettling.

I guess so. Remember when she was planting those seeds on the balcony right after the divorce? Then she talked a bit about her mother and she did not come across as someone who would support an own stance of her children in front of society. So it is in a way natural how she played along in the khuranas family

Originally posted by: tk2015

I know it will be a serious scene, but just imagine someone trying to badmouth his Veer Balika infront of HS-Lala. He will have to show so much restraint to not hurt that person just to prove a point to his chori. Especially if that someone is Khatri, he will stand infront of his daughter like a human shield (if he finds out she's in trouble, that is).

Though I feel after today he will keep an eye on her and her emotions (more so than usual). First she hears his and Irfan's talk, then bashes Khatri and upar se he finds out about her calling her mother selfish. Kuch toh chal raha hai uski chori ke mann mein jo HS ko pata lagana hoga.

I really hope so. I just have this bad feeling she will either fail in her exams to get into some major trouble and HS will have to bail her out (pun not intended).

He did stand in front of her like a shield today, and I got so many feels, because the last time it happened was also in this mohalla, right? She was "fatherless" and fighting all her battles alone because no one was there to help her, but today her father was there and he stepped in just in time. How far they've come!

It looks like they are going to focus on her anger issues, and I hope they show the psychological aspect of all this in a sensitive manner.

I am not in favor of violence but I can't tell you how much sukoon I felt when Minnie hit Khatri and then HS grabbed him by the collar and threatened to teach him a lesson.

@bold, he already did that today but maybe she was too angry to notice. I think they will do something more explicit about how he leads by example. These are the little things that will add up to him really being there for her as a father should. He looked so surprised when he walked into the room wondering what had happened to Minnie.

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

I don't know how is it with y'all but I've seen this DIL barrier since a long time with my mother. And not that she's unhappy or something. You learn to live with it and eventually find happiness somewhere else. It's not that dramatically sad or something, just natural and a matter of fact for me.

Accepting it is the easiest. But after wasting so much of your time just to get accepted by someone, and if you're still not accepted completely- then anyone would feel hurt and used. I know this is how it goes, but it shouldn't.

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

I don't know how is it with y'all but I've seen this DIL barrier since a long time with my mother. And not that she's unhappy or something. You learn to live with it and eventually find happiness somewhere else. It's not that dramatically sad or something, just natural and a matter of fact for me.

Mother daughter barrier might very well be there.. But not all parents let their daughter get away for spewing venom against one and all.. That actually makes them bad parent.. Not all in-laws let their daughter or son treat their daughter-in-law like crap and pay no heed to their feelings. I am sure that my in-laws love their daughter more than me.. But that does not mean they don't respect my feelings. they make sure that if I am coming home after a hard day at work, I don't have to work for my sister in law who has come to stay here for a few days.. Thats basic human decency which the Khuranas lack..

No.. you do no and you should not learn to live with it if your in-laws are belittling your feelings at the expense of their daughter

Originally posted by: inlieu

Uff, I know right. Seriously Gur, if you remember me saying this yesterday, I knew this was going to happen and I knew I would feel bad for her. What he said was no surprise but it just made my blood boil. I wanted to do to him what Minnie did to Khatri. How DARE he????????????

Also, the way NB didn't mince words but said out loud exactly what Irfan was thinking made the whole thing even more sad to watch. The aaya comment made me wince but it was spot on. The whole flesh and blood thing was so much more prominent today where Minnie was fighting for her grandparents on one hand, and on the other Irfan was treating his mother like this.

And yes, NB is HS' mother, for all the reasons you have mentioned. He is her first (and only real) son. I am now convinced that a huge part of HS' good character comes from NB's influence and dare I say upbringing. I was hoping for a peaceful negotiation but after what Irfan did today, I want HS to have a go at him. Let the whole cliched scene play out:

HS: Irfan, Naeem Bi ke saath yo sab karne nahin karna chahiye tha. (though I'd prefer him to say Thaari himmat kaise hui Naeem Bi ke saath yo sab karne ki?)

IB: Hanuman bhai yeh humaare ghar ka mamla hai, baahar waalon ko beech mein bolne ki koi zaroorat nahin hai.

NB: Naaspeete, besharam, teri himmat kaise hui mere Hanuman se aisi baat karne ki?! Aaj tu ne khud saabit kar diya ke apna kaun hai aur paraya kaun.

I can't imagine how many elderly people get treated this way by their kids. 😡

Sorry for the rant. I am super pissed right now.

Don't apologize; rant away!

It was really disheartening to see Naeem Bi lay out exactly what he wanted to do. We know that Naeem Bi is extremely and sees through everything. But this is her own child who's plotting against her. Her own khoon who wants to take her back as a nanny, not as a mother or grandmother. And then the audacity Irfan had to threaten Naeem Bi! First he used Imraan as a tool to get her to obey him and then when that failed, he straight up told her that I have a claim to this home too and that he'll take it from her forcibly... ufh! Aisa beta Naeem Bi ka kaise ho sakta hai??

HS is through and through Naeem Bi's beta. All the good qualities, courage to remain optimistic, all the wisdom and maturity - he got it all from her.

It's so disheartening that Khuranas being as they are, got shelter from other people, their grandchild, ex-bahu and her husband. Even their daughter didn't complete abandon them.

On the other hand, NB being the loving, caring, an entire treasure trove of wisdom and so much more has to deal with her own son behaving this way. Thank f for HS and the love they both have for each other. ❤️

WHERE IS THE JUSTICE?! What's the damn point of being a good person? Nobody's fate is decided by being good or bad. And this fact is etched in reality. Aisa hi hota hai. Watching NB suffer like this... 😭

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

For me too!

To say that in-laws aise hi hote and that DILs need to learn how to deal with all this unnecessary crap is ridiculous. Who would even want to get married when this is the kind of family that will be awaiting them?

I think there's a reason why Ruksana kept mentioning she looks up to Babita a lot and how she has so much she has to learn from her. Ruksana may not have the courage or bravery to stand up to Irfan when he gets out of line. It seems to me like he has a bit of a temper as well. Dunno where I'm going with this, but I definitely think there's something there.

It's possible that Irfan is not a considerate husband, who knows?

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

I don't know how is it with y'all but I've seen this DIL barrier since a long time with my mother. And not that she's unhappy or something. You learn to live with it and eventually find happiness somewhere else. It's not that dramatically sad or something, just natural and a matter of fact for me.

It's the same with me.

My grandparents always treated my mom as a DIL, not a daughter. But in her case, she also treated them like in-laws, not parents. However, the things she has done for them go above and beyond what a child would do for their own parent. It's really complicated and I don't want to go into all the details and make people uncomfortable. But I guess the point is to make the status known very clear, whether it's through words or actions. If you're going to call me your daughter, then treat me like one. Don't become hypocritical about it.

Aisi kounsi cheez hogi jo Minni he hathiya li hogi... 🤔

Originally posted by: inlieu

It's possible that Irfan is not a considerate husband, who knows?

Considerate in what way?