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Originally posted by: asmaanixx

It absolutely sucks that they had to do something like this during the marriage track of all things. I don't mind them bringing up his fatherly insecurities but the manner in which they brought it up was not right.

Tbh, even the reconciliation didn't have a huge impact on me. First of all, only HS apologized and attempted to show Minnie just what place she holds in his life. What about Minnie? I understand that she was too overwhelmed and thus was able to express all her pent up emotions, only through her tears, but surely she could have said something? We've had these two have very serious emotional conversations in the past, and in those, they both had something very meaningful to contribute. It once again seemed one sided to me. They better revisit this and make both mother-daughter express to HS just how much he means to them on individual equations. I.e., what does HS mean to Minnie and what HS means to Babita as two separate units. He needs that reassurance that the love they for him is capable of standing on its own without the other party. In other words, Babita's love for him isn't contingent upon how much he loves Minnie and Minnie's love for him isn't dependent on how much he loves Babita.

Honestly, I have no clue. I was watching some old episodes again and initially, HS saw A LOT of Imarti in Babita. Even though he says otherwise, I wonder if his ache for Imarti has still somehow bled into his feelings for Babita. I really hope it's not just because of her beauty because that would defeat the purpose of the talk he gave on the soul vs. the body. Whatever his reasons may be for loving her, Babita hasn't shown indication post marriage that she loves him. Taking out his clothes, and making his favorite don't qualify as love for me. She has taken zero interest in his feelings or state of mind ever since the wedding took place. The CD incident was traumatizing for everyone and yet no one has once asked how HS felt in regards to what took place. I know you said that there are relationships where only one person gives, gives and gives, but I really don't want Hanita's relationship to be like that. It's utterly unfair to HS as a person. He has done nothing but give to the mother-daughter duo. Would it kill them to pay a little attention to him once in a while?

No one would have gone through with the marriage if it had been anyone else. It's what Lala was saying, unka toh heart fail hi ho jaata. One conflict is expected in a marriage but so many? That too on the wedding night itself? Please no. Second marriages are supposed to be symbolic of second chances, and of someone taking control of their life. But here, the CVs did the complete opposite where the bride and groom were both miserable and had their past haunt them in an ugly manner. Like Babita had said, she had wanted just one night where she didn't want to think about the Khuranas, Ashok or anything related to her past. And what happened instead? They all came before her in a seemingly mocking manner.

I agree with you. Once the marriage occurred, whatever equation Hanita had, has been warped in a really twisted manner. They honestly felt more like a couple before the wedding took place. They were comfortable around each other, bickered, joked and teased one another, came to each other with their woes and got needed advice. In some respects, they even loved each other more than they do now.

It's a real shame that this had to happen to the show. Oh well. I guess this serves me right for having expectations from them.

I think they deliberately gave Minnie no dialogues or us no insights on whether or not she has indeed forgiven him. I really hope this just gets tacked on to a list of things that bothers her and then all of it comes unraveling if/when she has a breakdown. I don't expect they will forget about this completely. When the throwback will happen is up to the CVs.

Originally posted by: Jiarao

He will continue to give until one day he becomes empty. I still don't understand why he had to ' take test of love' . Will Babitha take it at some point?

I actually hope so. Not because there should be a 'test' for proving you're in love, but because Babes has a long way to go to deserve HS.

And when she passes that test, I want HS to hand over those chudiyan he had gotten. Then she'll truly be worthy of him and his love.

Originally posted by: tk2015

I actually hope so. Not because there should be a 'test' for proving you're in love, but because Babes has a long way to go to deserve HS.

And when she passes that test, I want HS to hand over those chudiyan he had gotten. Then she'll truly be worthy of him and his love.

Babita ne toh HS ko apna liya but I still feel that the other way round remains pending.

Choodiyaan, sindoor dabbi abhi bohot uphaar baaki hain. I somehow feel that he's still shaken by the fact that Babita might not select him over her ego. That is holding him back. He told that even to NB, a lot of time he's not himself just in the fear that Babita shouldn't get affected in any way.

That thing is pending- and her choice might prove to be a befitting test of her love.

Originally posted by: Jiarao

He will continue to give until one day he becomes empty. I still don't understand why he had to ' take test of love' . Will Babitha take it at some point?

In some ways I understand it because the women don't want another repeat of the past. Granted HS is a completely different man than Ashok, but there are still a lot of scars left by him that need to be filled in. If HS isn't capable of helping them overcome their issues, then there's no point in letting their relationships evolve. They were much better off as just friends.

It hearkens back to when she was crying to Naeem Bi that she doesn't feel worthy of his love. In many ways, she isn't because she's not mentally or emotionally strong as him. In order for this relationship to truly be one of equals, she needs to step up.

Originally posted by: inlieu

I think they deliberately gave Minnie no dialogues or us no insights on whether or not she has indeed forgiven him. I really hope this just gets tacked on to a list of things that bothers her and then all of it comes unraveling if/when she has a breakdown. I don't expect they will forget about this completely. When the throwback will happen is up to the CVs.

In some ways, I don't think she has. Yes, she might feel like she has her own place in the home, but that irrevocable trust that the two used to share is now no longer there. They have to work their way back up again.

Just saw the IV of Ashnoor Paridhi during the precap scene.

Looks like even Paridhi is flustered by Babita's single track mind of log kya kahenge. On that front, there's been no growth in that aspect and one day I truly wish that she rises above it without any prodding her to do that. And hopefully then she will also step up to match HS' love.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

In some ways, I don't think she has. Yes, she might feel like she has her own place in the home, but that irrevocable trust that the two used to share is now no longer there. They have to work their way back up again.

That scene was in no way the solution to all problems. It was just an initiative from HS' side, most importantly only a apology and a rather important, fundamental one.

Yes, such incidents do happen, and you're bound to remember it again and again and its like a knot in your life, something that reminds you constantly about the bad that had happened. But then that's life. I don't think any relationship is perfect from start to end and complete, unblemished. Breach of trusts do happen and to say that it won't ever be like before is also, somewhere wrong. You gotta move ahead in forward spirals and such things only strengthen the bonds. What I want is HS should give more insight into his own insecurities that Mini might put to rest hopefully.

I needed more emphasis when he said that he didn't know if he'll ever be her father. It just got washed away in everything he said, hell, we don't even know if Mini noticed that!

I think this topic has been purposefully left to be addressed later.

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

Babita ne toh HS ko apna liya but I still feel that the other way round remains pending.

Choodiyaan, sindoor dabbi abhi bohot uphaar baaki hain. I somehow feel that he's still shaken by the fact that Babita might not select him over her ego. That is holding him back. He told that even to NB, a lot of time he's not himself just in the fear that Babita shouldn't get affected in any way.

That thing is pending- and her choice might prove to be a befitting test of her love.

He also has the thought that she didn't trust him during the court case on his mind. All this will come out soon. The Amrit manthan will result in spewing of venom whether we like it or not.

Hopefully, the CVs won't ruin this. They have the capability to show this track tremendously well.

Hanita will emerge stronger after a proper fight. Not the ones we've seen till now but a flight with haq, justified anger and without anyone holding back on either end.

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

That scene was in no way the solution to all problems. It was just an initiative from HS' side, most importantly only a apology and a rather important, fundamental one.

Yes, such incidents do happen, and your bound to remember it again and again and its like a knot in your life, something that reminds you constantly about the bad that had happened. But then that's life. I don't think any relationship is perfect from start to end and complete. Breach of trusts do happen and to say that it won't ever be like before is also, somewhere wrong. You gotta move ahead in forward spirals and such things only strengthen the bonds. What I want is HS should give more insight into his own insecurities that Mini might put to rest

I completely understand that but the fact remains that HS & Minnie's relationship isn't the same and it's never going to go back to the same equation they used to have. They have to evolve from this mess and address the insecurities they have, otherwise it'll keep coming back to bite them in ugly ways.

I agree that the apology was just the first step, but I really do hope their issues are revisited again, and I hope it's sooner rather than later tbh.

Originally posted by: tk2015

He also has the thought that she didn't trust him during the court case on his mind. All this will come out soon. The Amrit manthan will result in spewing of venom whether we like it or not.

Hopefully, the CVs won't ruin this. They have the capability to show this track tremendously well.

Hanita will emerge stronger after a proper fight. Not the ones we've seen till now but a flight with haq, justified anger and without anyone holding back on either end.

OMG I was about to say this! Seriously.

A very healthy fight and open accusations are needed for them to move ahead. Like they had during the drinking fiasco. One hell of a scene with no one ready to step down.

This might happen when Babita goes to HS for sympathy and he might take Mini's side, which might kick Babita off into fight mode.