Bade Papa - The backbone of the Maheshwari family

Very rarely I make posts like these, but today just couldn't stop myself from writing this. Actually wanted to write this on weekends, but was too lazy to write, but thank god today I got one more point to add to my post.

I thought of making a seperate post for this wonderful human being who is actually goals in every sense, husband goals, father goals, human being goals. I remember once Mishti asked him playfully"aapko sab kaise pata chal jaata hai " and bade Papa said "meri teesri aankh hai" that was said in a fun way but it actually signifies the thinking and understanding capacity of this man, he always analysis the situation from all angles, just because he loves mishti or kuhu or rajshri or any other member of the family, that dosent mean he will favour that person, he looks at things with a 3D lense not a 2D one, not at all a biased lense which has a backdrop of some assumptions and presumptions , always asking the right questions , having the patience to hear the answers and taking his own time to make the decisions. There are some scenes which never really were the highlights of the episode, but for me they were better than the actual highlights of the episode.

Going down the memory lane with Bade Papa:

"Lekin ek Ghar Ko maa Laxmi aur maa Saraswati , dono ki zarurat hoti hai"

There was a little jugalbandi between Varsha and badi maa regarding regarding who is better, symbolising kuhu and Mishti in the conversation, but it was bade Papa who interrupted and said we need both in the family thereby meaning we can't sacrifice one for the other. Just like universe needs Laxmi( wealth) and Saraswati ( knowledge) to move forward , in the same way, If we need kuhu, we need Mishti as well and vice versa, the family is incomplete without the two, and so the universe.

"Maa baap Apne bacchho ko pinjra nahi, pankh dete hai"

Another significant symbolism here, this was the time when mishti demanded courtship , but rajshri wasn't agreeing, she feared naman those days and felt RVs will not agree to the courtship condition , bade Papa then asks Mishti if she really wants to give up, even after mish says yes she is ready to give up her courtship condition, bade Papa makes her understand how right she is and shouldn't fear, also advices rajshri to support her daughter, he didn't agree to rajshri's demands just because she was his wife, and was under stress.

"Kabhi kabhi humeim samajh nahi aata konsi baat sahi hai, konsi baat galat hai Lekin jab kabhi aisa Lage, tab na logon ki sunni chahie na duniya ki, sirf apne dil ki sunni chahie, kyunki Dil hamesha sach kehta hai"

This was when mishti broke the gordhana and the same night kuhu in a confused state asks bade Papa, why is everyone against Mishti if she is right?, The above lines were answer to kuhu's question, notice carefully here, he says "sirf apne dil ki" he dosent say apne maa baap ki apne parivaar ki or anything, sirf "apne dil" ki , teaching them that your answer is within you, if your mind has raised a question, search the answer within your heart, it will answer you back, spend some "alone" time with yourself to find it. However good or bad you are, your conscience self always speaks the truth..Because dil ki voice is soul ki voice, soul will always give you the right answer. No wonder mishti and kuhu always follow their heart, kuhu kuch zyada hi literally leti hai, vo baat alag hai !

"Mishti un anath bachho ke liye gayi hai, hamare jhagde un baccho se zyada zaruri toh nahi ho sakte na"

This was when mishti wanted to go to champaner along with Abir but badima refused saying us ladke se ab koi rishta nahi rakhna, bade papa again takes the right stand, work is above everything, more than that we should keep our personal biases aside when it comes to helping the needy, it's nice to have emotions but very necessary to also know when to control your emotions, it's not at all an easy task to forget your differences and do something for people you don't even know. True sign of a good human being here.

"Jahan par log aapse yeh umeed rakhe ki aap hamesha sar jhuka ke rakhenge, vaha se sar uthakar laut Jaana hi behtar hota hai"

Never compromise on your self respect, self respect is definitely above your love, this he said to mishti when people were blaming her for the party date mismatch , no wonder bade papa never wanted kuhu to enter that kabootarkhaana, he can easily sense the kind of people out there, and that's why he was skeptical about kuhu going there, he even asked right questions to kuhu and Kunal both, but sadly had to give in for family's and kuhu's happiness , and no wonder, bade Papa though believed mishti but was still upset with her for the haldi fiasco, not because she was rude with her family but because she, to some extent, compromised on her self respect in the process.....again when there was a chance , he asked the right questions to Abir and mishti as well, this time much more satisfied with the answers. More than love, he wants that people respect his daughters for what they are, and his daughters respect themselves too. He even described Meenu as "vo mausam jo Roz badalte hain, uspe bharosa nahi kiya jaata" ..lol.

"Jab hum ghar ki chokhat ke bahar jaaye, toh hamare mann ek hone chahie"

This is the most significant thing for a family to be together, whatever the differences are, should stay internally within the family and shouldn't go outside, because there are people out there like meenakshi rajvansh who are waiting for that one chance to play the game, during this entire shaadi fiasco, she tried her best to break the maheshwaris firstly by using kuhu ,when she learns from Kunal that kuhu hates Mishti, her planning started in full speed. When she sensed Mishti feels indebted to mahs, she used her against mahs, and she would have been successful too agar neend mein bhi hoshiyar beta jaagta nahi....that's why when representing the family in the outside world, behaving as a strong unit is very important.

We have always seen bade Papa stand for the right, giving befitting answers to Meenu, and treating everyone with love and respect ,whether it's for kuhu or Mishti, he was never in the foreground but always in the background supporting everyone in the family, just like how our backbone supports our body, Maheshwaris without bade Papa would have been a scattered family, a family Jahan koi "asli saval karta nahi , Jahan koi asli jawab deta nahi, Jahan koi asli baat karta nahi" ...just like the RV parivaar.

The biggest takeaways from bade Papa are to concentrate on being a good human being rather than being a good father, mother, daughter etc, always analyse the situation from all perspectives, not just from the perspective of the person you love, and always try asking right questions, because asking only right questions will help you to find right answers and I really appreciate such characters like BP, very rarely you find them on ITV.

Abir calls Mishti badi ma ki parchayi, though Abir has his own set of flaws, but he is so much like bade papa, and definitely has a lot of potential to be bade papa's parchayi !!

So if you have managed to read this, thank you so much for your time, I would definitely like to read your thoughts on this.

🤗

❤️

i just have one question

how bade papa agreed for mishbir rishta within one days

if i remember he was not ready for kuku even in wedding

he would have happily backed off if kuhu gave one ishara

as even in kuku he was not ready due to meenu and here it is meenu and kunal both who hate mishti then also he agreed so easily and that too without a doubt

he is still i feel somewhere not ok with kuku but given due to kuhu and family

but for mishti even mishti or bm even not pressuirised much still he agreed

he doesnt know kunal is bad guy still

he has given free pass to mishbir despite knowing how much kunal and meenu is against mishti

somewhat he is doing partiality with the fact that he knows kuhu is nadan but mishti is soch sajh ke faisla lene wali

so he think if mishti chose abir she has thoought on it but kuhu just is nadan

Uru ben mast likha che.

Mane samaj na aavo ke likhu. 😉

Mishti, Abir secondary hai. I want to be like bade papa... Agle janam lena padega par jitni improvement kar sakta utna Acha....

It's awesome dear❤️ a big 🤗 to you for this wonderful post...

This kind of a Sane person only holds the families together... The members of the family indirectly cling onto them for clarity even if they don't know it themselves...

Like you said with a few changes done, Abir has all the potential in falling in BP's footsteps...

Hey Uru

Will read it soon and comment

It's quite big post 😆

Originally posted by: adni143

i just have one question

how bade papa agreed for mishbir rishta within one days

if i remember he was not ready for kuku even in wedding

he would have happily backed off if kuhu gave one ishara

as even in kuku he was not ready due to meenu and here it is meenu and kunal both who hate mishti then also he agreed so easily and that too without a doubt

he is still i feel somewhere not ok with kuku but given due to kuhu and family

but for mishti even mishti or bm even not pressuirised much still he agreed

he doesnt know kunal is bad guy still

he has given free pass to mishbir despite knowing how much kunal and meenu is against mishti

somewhat he is doing partiality with the fact that he knows kuhu is nadan but mishti is soch sajh ke faisla lene wali

so he think if mishti chose abir she has thoought on it but kuhu just is nadan

Adni,

dear do you feel there is some difference between Mishti and kuhu as characters ?

Do you feel there is some difference in Abir and Kunal as characters?

If yes, then bade Papa's reaction on both the couples would be also different na

Having said that, bade Papa was not at all happy with kuhu getting married to Kunal, because he never felt kuhu has that smartness to handle that kabootarkhaana nor he was fond of Kunal, he asked kuhu if she was ready, he asked Kunal if he was ready, he asked his family about it too, since there was no objection from any side, he had to agree , what else he could have done tell me..? Also I didn't understand which Ishara kuhu gave, what exactly you are talking about ? If you can please make ne understand.

It was not at all a free pass, if you remember the famous "Mishti se dur rahiye" to Abir during the gordhana track, when mishti and Abir were wrong, bade Papa didn't shy away from pointing out their mistakes too, he asked questions to Abir also, but his answers were convincing, when bade Papa was assured that Abir respects Mishti mite than he loves her, and definitely understands Mishti mire than she does herself, then he agreed

Where was the partiality here ?

Originally posted by: Onyourface

Adni,

dear do you feel there is some difference between Mishti and kuhu as characters ?

Do you feel there is some difference in Abir and Kunal as characters?

If yes, then bade Papa's reaction on both the couples would be also different na

Having said that, bade Papa was not at all happy with kuhu getting married to Kunal, because he never felt kuhu has that smartness to handle that kabootarkhaana nor he was fond of Kunal, he asked kuhu if she was ready, he asked Kunal if he was ready, he asked his family about it too, since there was no objection from any side, he had to agree , what else he could have done tell me..? Also I didn't understand which Ishara kuhu gave, what exactly you are talking about ? If you can please make ne understand.

It was not at all a free pass, if you remember the famous "Mishti se dur rahiye" to Abir during the gordhana track, when mishti and Abir were wrong, bade Papa didn't shy away from pointing out their mistakes too, he asked questions to Abir also, but his answers were convincing, when bade Papa was assured that Abir respects Mishti mite than he loves her, and definitely understands Mishti mire than she does herself, then he agreed

Where was the partiality here ?

i was not saying about kuhu gave any ishara

i said if kuhu gave any ishara bp would have happily backed off with kuku marriage he wasthat unsure about the

i am just saying it partiality that doesnt mean i am saying he is doing partiality between mishti and kuhu

i was just saying that the partiality of agreeing and not agreeing for mishbir and kuku respectively because of he knows mishti and kuhu and believe in mishti but not in kuhu decision

anyway i was really shocked with the suj bhooj he agreed for mishbir just in few hours because i was thinking that he would not agree due to kuhu and kunal

anyway i loved it and bp once again prooved why he is loved the most

i was just shocked he took decision and that too with confidence with total green signal

as in kuku he said that we know how meenu is and he was skeptical for sending kuhu to meenu house not he was skeptical about kunal

but he agreed here despite knowing what meenu and kunal can do with mishti he took it very lightly

Originally posted by: Onyourface

Very rarely I make posts like these, but today just couldn't stop myself from writing this. Actually wanted to write this on weekends, but was too lazy to write, but thank god today I got one more point to add to my post.

I thought of making a seperate post for this wonderful human being who is actually goals in every sense, husband goals, father goals, human being goals. I remember once Mishti asked him playfully"aapko sab kaise pata chal jaata hai " and bade Papa said "meri teesri aankh hai" that was said in a fun way but it actually signifies the thinking and understanding capacity of this man, he always analysis the situation from all angles, just because he loves mishti or kuhu or rajshri or any other member of the family, that dosent mean he will favour that person, he looks at things with a 3D lense not a 2D one, not at all a biased lense which has a backdrop of some assumptions and presumptions , always asking the right questions , having the patience to hear the answers and taking his own time to make the decisions. There are some scenes which never really were the highlights of the episode, but for me they were better than the actual highlights of the episode.

Going down the memory lane with Bade Papa:

"Lekin ek Ghar Ko maa Laxmi aur maa Saraswati , dono ki zarurat hoti hai"

There was a little jugalbandi between Varsha and badi maa regarding regarding who is better, symbolising kuhu and Mishti in the conversation, but it was bade Papa who interrupted and said we need both in the family thereby meaning we can't sacrifice one for the other. Just like universe needs Laxmi( wealth) and Saraswati ( knowledge) to move forward , in the same way, If we need kuhu, we need Mishti as well and vice versa, the family is incomplete without the two, and so the universe.

"Maa baap Apne bacchho ko pinjra nahi, pankh dete hai"

Another significant symbolism here, this was the time when mishti demanded courtship , but rajshri wasn't agreeing, she feared naman those days and felt RVs will not agree to the courtship condition , bade Papa then asks Mishti if she really wants to give up, even after mish says yes she is ready to give up her courtship condition, bade Papa makes her understand how right she is and shouldn't fear, also advices rajshri to support her daughter, he didn't agree to rajshri's demands just because she was his wife, and was under stress.

"Kabhi kabhi humeim samajh nahi aata konsi baat sahi hai, konsi baat galat hai Lekin jab kabhi aisa Lage, tab na logon ki sunni chahie na duniya ki, sirf apne dil ki sunni chahie, kyunki Dil hamesha sach kehta hai"

This was when mishti broke the gordhana and the same night kuhu in a confused state asks bade Papa, why is everyone against Mishti if she is right?, The above lines were answer to kuhu's question, notice carefully here, he says "sirf apne dil ki" he dosent say apne maa baap ki apne parivaar ki or anything, sirf "apne dil" ki , teaching them that your answer is within you, if your mind has raised a question, search the answer within your heart, it will answer you back, spend some "alone" time with yourself to find it. However good or bad you are, your conscience self always speaks the truth..Because dil ki voice is soul ki voice, soul will always give you the right answer. No wonder mishti and kuhu always follow their heart, kuhu kuch zyada hi literally leti hai, vo baat alag hai !

"Mishti un anath bachho ke liye gayi hai, hamare jhagde un baccho se zyada zaruri toh nahi ho sakte na"

This was when mishti wanted to go to champaner along with Abir but badima refused saying us ladke se ab koi rishta nahi rakhna, bade papa again takes the right stand, work is above everything, more than that we should keep our personal biases aside when it comes to helping the needy, it's nice to have emotions but very necessary to also know when to control your emotions, it's not at all an easy task to forget your differences and do something for people you don't even know. True sign of a good human being here.

"Jahan par log aapse yeh umeed rakhe ki aap hamesha sar jhuka ke rakhenge, vaha se sar uthakar laut Jaana hi behtar hota hai"

Never compromise on your self respect, self respect is definitely above your love, this he said to mishti when people were blaming her for the party date mismatch , no wonder bade papa never wanted kuhu to enter that kabootarkhaana, he can easily sense the kind of people out there, and that's why he was skeptical about kuhu going there, he even asked right questions to kuhu and Kunal both, but sadly had to give in for family's and kuhu's happiness , and no wonder, bade Papa though believed mishti but was still upset with her for the haldi fiasco, not because she was rude with her family but because she, to some extent, compromised on her self respect in the process.....again when there was a chance , he asked the right questions to Abir and mishti as well, this time much more satisfied with the answers. More than love, he wants that people respect his daughters for what they are, and his daughters respect themselves too. He even described Meenu as "vo mausam jo Roz badalte hain, uspe bharosa nahi kiya jaata" ..lol.

"Jab hum ghar ki chokhat ke bahar jaaye, toh hamare mann ek hone chahie"

This is the most significant thing for a family to be together, whatever the differences are, should stay internally within the family and shouldn't go outside, because there are people out there like meenakshi rajvansh who are waiting for that one chance to play the game, during this entire shaadi fiasco, she tried her best to break the maheshwaris firstly by using kuhu ,when she learns from Kunal that kuhu hates Mishti, her planning started in full speed. When she sensed Mishti feels indebted to mahs, she used her against mahs, and she would have been successful too agar neend mein bhi hoshiyar beta jaagta nahi....that's why when representing the family in the outside world, behaving as a strong unit is very important.

We have always seen bade Papa stand for the right, giving befitting answers to Meenu, and treating everyone with love and respect ,whether it's for kuhu or Mishti, he was never in the foreground but always in the background supporting everyone in the family, just like how our backbone supports our body, Maheshwaris without bade Papa would have been a scattered family, a family Jahan koi "asli saval karta nahi , Jahan koi asli jawab deta nahi, Jahan koi asli baat karta nahi" ...just like the RV parivaar.

The biggest takeaways from bade Papa are to concentrate on being a good human being rather than being a good father, mother, daughter etc, always analyse the situation from all perspectives, not just from the perspective of the person you love, and always try asking right questions, because asking only right questions will help you to find right answers and I really appreciate such characters like BP, very rarely you find them on ITV.

Abir calls Mishti badi ma ki parchayi, though Abir has his own set of flaws, but he is so much like bade papa, and definitely has a lot of potential to be bade papa's parchayi !!

So if you have managed to read this, thank you so much for your time, I would definitely like to read your thoughts on this.

🤗

❤️

Uruuuu🤗 Beautifully written.

All the points highlighted are awesome ones, purple ones are my favorite.

@ bold - loved the way you mentioned Abir as BP's parchaayi.

BP tries to understand and analyses any situation as to what is right and what is wrong. There lies the difference. When your heart says it's not right then it's not right.

Hi uru...i will edit this after reading this post entirely.....so here is my reserve🙈...little busy now...will come back soon🤪

Wow. Wonderful post. Bade papa is definitely an example of how a father should be