Mother ki daughter ko pakar bhi nahi payin gay: ajao saray - Page 14

Babita no longer keeps things in her.. She blurts them out in the most idiotic manner and yet she blurts them out..

Hanuman and Mini on the other hand keep it all in which is the major reason for this chaos

Lastly, Babita might have been way too engrossed in being a mother and daughter in law.. Yet, Ashok would ALWAYS be the bigger culprit in the marriage falling apart.. Babita ne nahi kaha.. But Ashok tou keh sakta tha that he wants Babita to stay with him.. irrespective of how Babita was, Ashok will always be the culprit

Originally posted by: Jiarao

I am waiting 😆. I want him to be back into thanedaar mode and jhaado both mother daughter.

I am worried that he might not do this at all. That he will retreat completely and suffer in silence. I can't see Minnie and him like that.

Originally posted by: porankisrilata

See I understand her trauma.. She have seen hell. At this tender age.. Bit if she has accepted him as her father then she have to show him in action... But that was not at all visible anywhere... Then this CD fiasco which added fuel for the fire...

That why I am saying HS and Minni need to talk...

i actually felt that mini has shown it that she accepts him as a father. she very openly agreed to this in the puja when she came and sat next to him.

this can become an ongoing debate, so agree to disagree?

Originally posted by: inlieu

Well, I am waiting for the day when HS will ask Babita this question. Or perhaps he doesn't need to, he already gets it.

he might ask her the question. or he might now, since he actually understands love.

babita only understands 1 kind of love, the one who was with her for 17 years - her daughter.

if HS asks this question then i will have the same answer. that he also deserves the reassurance. why not.

Hanuman was wrong to expect Babita to think, talk or even listen like a newly wedded wife... Not after everything that transpired.. Ideally, Hanuman should have begun the conversation from where it all ended, by talking about whatever happened.. if he had just said the line k I know a lot has happened but we need to move past it as a family.. lets think about our future, his talk about the sindoor and all would not seem so misplaced

Originally posted by: inlieu

No he wasn't expecting a SR, but he wasn't expecting to be left all alone on the night of their wedding, especially after the what had happened. He had stood by her and given her moral support.

Why didn't Babita place this condition of daughter ke father before the wedding? Also, why is she deciding on behalf of Minnie? What if Minnie doesn't want HS as her father? Babita can't force either of them. First Babita tested his love for her, now she wants to test his love for Minnie. Jeez.

I agree with that line completely!!

Originally posted by: inlieu

But she will have to confront her feelings one day. She needs therapy and hand holding right now. I really hope the opening scene meant that Mickey would go talk to HS about her one day.

Same. Mickey for sure would have said something if Minnie hadn't forbade him from doing so.

I don't care. She needs to go back to the therapist now.

Originally posted by: shruti_luvs_msk

maybe this is another part that is missing. we have never seen mini talk about her papaji. what if she is scared that if she accepts HS as her father openly and out loud he will also be snatched from her? it may be irrational, but for a child who has never gotten a fathers love and when the father came he brought a storm?

i feel she has accepted him as a father, though she has not said it. and i think even HS knows she has accepted him as father, but right now his fears are playing with him

I don't think Minnie has actually sat down to think about what she wants or expects in a father, or if she wants one at all. She has to be the one to decide, and then figure out what place she wants to give HS. Besides, relations take time to build and their meanings and values change over time.

I personally have no issues if she never accepts HS as her father and chooses to have him as an uncle/friend, it's her choice. If it's clear to everyone involved then expectations can be managed. HS can still continue to love her as his own daughter if he wants to, it's his choice.

Babita should not dictate this.

Originally posted by: inlieu

I am wondering how she was when she married Ashok. Similar or very different?

She might have been like this. Not being to prioritize. She was all of 18 then. Not mature and then mother in a year. I guess to much handle.

She might have her share of issues but Ashok does not get a clean chit from me. I will always put more blame on him than anyone else.

But now Here She is. 35, Mother of teenage daughter. Had gone thru life. Had gone thru struggle. Had seen HS love for her. Had seen HS love for her daughter.

For her to act so impulsively. So carelessly about other people’s emotion is insensitive. It’s stupidity how she is acting in the face of crisis. She is running away from it. I would have been understood if this was few months back but even after going thru all of that she did. Even after her and HS having solved some of her issues together, if she discards him the way she did today, then I am disappointed. Here she needs to buckle up. 2 of her important relations are falling apart, she should take charge. Kab tak koi aake use samjata rahega. Is there an end to it? I don’t know. I generally feel let down when people do not learn from multiple experiences.

Originally posted by: inlieu

Babita is totally right to worry about Minnie and her comfort, happiness, wellbeing above all else. That doesn't mean she can't care about HS or herself. It's not mutually exclusive.

i agree. but again i would just like to say that the emotional turmoil is too much, specially for babita, since it seems HS has shut himself off from mini for the time being.

she is balancing/ trying to balance 2 relations, while HS has numbed out 1 relation to an extent.

and babita is still very much the mother. she needs to and will make the transition to being a wife in sometime. there has been a lot of discussion about how the wedding was rushed and here is where it shows. the hesitance and the balance.