Magar mujhay khonay ka dar nahi hai: ajao saray - Page 17

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

Yes, brutally and as a matter of fact, yes.

But it ain't that bad IMO. Not that I've any experience of sorts lol but definetly, you gotta compromise on some aspects. Not a fairytale or anything. It's hard and tough.

And also it depends from family to family. What if you land a lucky place for yourself? Sabka experience alag hota hai.

I really hope ki mujhe ek achi family mil jaaye. Acha pati aur achi family jaha dher saara pyaar aur samaan mile. Honestly, isse zyaada aur kuch ni chahiye.

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

Mini's speech today gave a big hint towards this. Enough of gearing up and prep, now take a deep breath and just FLY!!!

YESSS!!!

Tu udh jaa Babita!!!

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

I would actually LOVE to see this! If we consider the first 200 episodes as Phase One, where Minnie gives Babes wings; then these upcoming episodes can be Babes finally using those wings and flying.

Let her take control of things for once and firmly step into all the roles that life has given her: a woman, a wife, and a mother.

Babes have to be independent woman and mini has already given her wings now babes have to take the leap and fly.

She has to come out of her shell and understand her changing equations with minnie and HS. Earlier minnie bridged the gap between babes and HS.

Now she has to bridge the gap between HS and minnie. Because their equation is changing to a mentor and a disciple to father and daughter.

Let’s see whats in the box for us in the upcomings.

Originally posted by: tk2015

I get these same exact thoughts. For one companion, you have to deal with so much. Even if the partner is worth it, is this treatment at all fair?

What's the point of marriage if we're only going to lose most of our comforts, leave our house, and be treated as an outsider in what should be our new home?

I honestly don't know. Having to take on all that baggage just for one person? On some level I want to say no, but then what is the guarantee that you will ever find a completely loving family? No matter where you go, there will always be that one person who will despise you, try to take advantage of you, or just make your life a living hell. All you can do is make the best of your situation but even then it's sad. It's almost like there are certain conditions have been set. Do just one wrong thing and you'll be cussed out, your parents' upbringing questioned, and claim the entire marriage to be a whole mistake.

In a lot of ways, I don't see marriage as being a viable option especially when it comes to joint families. There are just too many moving parts involved and there's no telling how they'll react. I want to give my in-laws a lot of love and respect but if they can't be asked to do the same, then what's the point?

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

I really hope ki mujhe ek achi family mil jaaye. Acha pati aur achi family jaha dher saara pyaar aur samaan mile. Honestly, isse zyaada aur kuch ni chahiye.

Exactly yahi milna seems the most difficult thing for me😆. Sometimes I feel it's too much to even expect this practically.

And I'm hopeful cause somewhere I've already seen the worst possible relationships in my life. How bad can it further get?

Originally posted by: tk2015

I get these same exact thoughts. For one companion, you have to deal with so much. Even if the partner is worth it, is this treatment at all fair?

What's the point of marriage if we're only going to lose most of our comforts, leave our house, and be treated as an outsider in what should be our new home?

Social obligation? Relief to parents?

Just kidding 😆

Jokes apart, I've just made peace with the fact that such things will exist. And want it or not, you have to marry alright. Maybe focusing in the good things rather than the not so good will help. I'm actually hoping to get a family better than mine here.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

This actually makes me sad and not want to get married at all. Which is a really upsetting idea on its own because I want someone who will understand me and my best friend for life in the true sense of that word. But to constantly live with the idea that you will always be an outsider for someone no matter what you do for them... I don't know if I can live with that.

Not to undermine your feelings Gur but that sounds very Ekta style bahu.

The tragedy is that this is the harsh reality of the society be it Indian or any other .. because it stems from ones insecurities.. my Dadi looked at my mom as the bade Ghar ki beti who cannot fit into a lower middle class home (although she supported my dad in helping with bringing his family from a small village to a bigger city and settling then) or my MIL who feels she is an outsider and must be kept at arm's length .. even if she treats me with love and was a DIL once upon a time..

I will never recommend not getting married due to these fears .. finding the right partner and a supportive one at that leaves no scope of feeling lonely .. that I can guarantee you 200%

Originally posted by: rivaanvira

Not to undermine your feelings Gur but that sounds very Ekta style bahu.

The tragedy is that this is the harsh reality of the society be it Indian or any other .. because it stems from ones insecurities.. my Dadi looked at my mom as the bade Ghar ki beti who cannot fit into a lower middle class home (although she supported my dad in helping with bringing his family from a small village to a bigger city and settling then) or my MIL who feels she is an outsider and must be kept at arm's length .. even if she treats me with love and was a DIL once upon a time..

I will never recommend not getting married due to these fears .. finding the right partner and a supportive one at that leaves no scope of feeling lonely .. that I can guarantee you 200%

Exactly. This is what I've seen and this is what I feel too. It all balances out somewhere. And hoping for everything to be good isn't fair cause life ain't that fair.

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

Exactly yahi milna seems the most difficult thing for me😆. Sometimes I feel it's too much to even expect this practically.

And I'm hopeful cause somewhere I've already seen the worst possible relationships in my life. How bad can it further get?

Which is surprising cuz itna bhi kaunsi bhaari cheez maang li?? 😕

Oh, it can always get worse. Agar examples dekhne hai, Crime Patrol ka koi bhi episode dekh le. Sab pata chal jaye ga. 😆

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

YESSS!!!

Tu udh jaa Babita!!!

Your post reminds me of a beautiful song I have heard long back.

This song exactly goes with babita’s story.

I believe I can fly..

I believe I can touch the sky..

I think about it every night and day..

Spread my wings and fly away..

I believe I can soar..

I see me running through that open door..

I believe I can fly..

🦋