Itna sannata kyun hai bhai? - Page 3

I feel that the show has also become a little slow. Idk 😐

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

There's no point. If I bring it up we're gonna fight and then go on silent mode for another few months. And I told him how I didn't appreciate being treated like something he had to cross off on his schedule and not to do it again, and all he had to say in return was "Kk". 😒

Again, it's that continuous lack of effort on so many different levels that's just tiring me out. It really is best to just move on.

Has he always been like this? May be it's part of his nature!

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

Well, last week I met up with a friend after months and I had expected things will go differently. For one thing, I had assumed he would take more time out to meet me than just an hour since we were meeting after so long. But he didn't, and the time we did have went by in buying soup for his dad, dropping it at his home, then buying me food and dropping me home. 😒

And yeahh, we were talking during the ride but it just wasn't the same. It felt rushed and kind of gave me the impression as if I was something that had to crossed off his docket. This hurt me a lot considering how much I loved and respected him. He has done a lot for me in the past and has been a huge emotional support. So if not love, I had assumed he would at least respect me enough to give me a little more than an hour out of his day. And if he couldn't then he could have scheduled it for some other time. It's not like I would have died if I didn't met him. 😒

He just threw my emotions all over the place and I'm finally starting to feel normal. It absolutely sucks but I think I have finally reached that stage where I'm moving on from him. I don't appreciate having to feel like this friendship will survive only if I put the efforts in. If he wants to continue being friends, then he has to put in the efforts too. If he can't be asked to do that, then why should I? If it fails then it won't be because of me. I have spent the last four or so years of my life trying to keep it alive. If he can't appreciate it then that's not my problem. I just need to move on.

Apologies to anyone if it got too personal and made you feel uncomfortable. I think I just needed to put it out there so that I can finally start acting on my thoughts and actually move on from him.

I can totally get you... moving on is the right thing if it's not reciprocating... 4 years is already a long time. Stay strong, love.

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

I feel that the show has also become a little slow. Idk 😐

Agreed... Word👍🏼

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

I feel that the show has also become a little slow. Idk 😐

I also feel the same. 😕

Yes exactly, we are here for ya!

Friendship, like all other relationships, needs some work but when that becomes one-sided or burdensome, then it's time to back off.

If you stop putting in all that effort he either realizes it and does something or he doesn't. You just leave the ball in his court and busy yourself with other things in life.

Sometimes we are reluctant to let go because we are habituated rather than because we really love/need that person in our lives.

All things said, I understand it's not easy, but don't push yourself. Life's too short to waste on agony of this sort.

As HS says, you have the right to be happy and do things as you like, as you wish.🤗

Whatever happens, happens for the best, not even good.😆😉

Sometimes you gotta withdraw back and turn away, I know how it feels!

Stay strong, be happy and most importantly yes, distract yourself.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

Well, last week I met up with a friend after months and I had expected things will go differently. For one thing, I had assumed he would take more time out to meet me than just an hour since we were meeting after so long. But he didn't, and the time we did have went by in buying soup for his dad, dropping it at his home, then buying me food and dropping me home. 😒

And yeahh, we were talking during the ride but it just wasn't the same. It felt rushed and kind of gave me the impression as if I was something that had to crossed off his docket. This hurt me a lot considering how much I loved and respected him. He has done a lot for me in the past and has been a huge emotional support. So if not love, I had assumed he would at least respect me enough to give me a little more than an hour out of his day. And if he couldn't then he could have scheduled it for some other time. It's not like I would have died if I didn't met him. 😒

He just threw my emotions all over the place and I'm finally starting to feel normal. It absolutely sucks but I think I have finally reached that stage where I'm moving on from him. I don't appreciate having to feel like this friendship will survive only if I put the efforts in. If he wants to continue being friends, then he has to put in the efforts too. If he can't be asked to do that, then why should I? If it fails then it won't be because of me. I have spent the last four or so years of my life trying to keep it alive. If he can't appreciate it then that's not my problem. I just need to move on.

Apologies to anyone if it got too personal and made you feel uncomfortable. I think I just needed to put it out there so that I can finally start acting on my thoughts and actually move on from him.

Sometimes we just need to take a step back .. if the other person realizes what they've missed they will surely make an effort to bridge that gap .. if not then we know where to turn the tide (and our efforts).. take it as the lifespan it was meant to be ..

Learnt this the hard way .. but worth the pain/emotions !!

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

I feel that the show has also become a little slow. Idk 😐

T Ru .. it has .. but looks deliberate to me ..

I was watching Ashnoors segment where she says whatever you are watching and feeling is being done deliberately .. lack of energy / enthusiasm .. questioning them whether they truly are interested in marrying .. due to lack of happiness/enthusiasm for marriage from HS-BB ..

I guess let's wait it out for another week to see if this changes ..

Originally posted by: Padmajaan

Has he always been like this? May be it's part of his nature!

Yeahh, he's not much of texter due to the nature of his job.

Originally posted by: annx

I can totally get you... moving on is the right thing if it's not reciprocating... 4 years is already a long time. Stay strong, love.

Thank you. 🤗

I think that is best for me. Right now I just want to focus on my career and my individual growth. There are still so many things I want to figure out about myself and I can't really do that if I'm constantly going to be tied down by him.

Originally posted by: inlieu

Yes exactly, we are here for ya!

Friendship, like all other relationships, needs some work but when that becomes one-sided or burdensome, then it's time to back off.

If you stop putting in all that effort he either realizes it and does something or he doesn't. You just leave the ball in his court and busy yourself with other things in life.

Sometimes we are reluctant to let go because we are habituated rather than because we really love/need that person in our lives.

All things said, I understand it's not easy, but don't push yourself. Life's too short to waste on agony of this sort.

As HS says, you have the right to be happy and do things as you like, as you wish.

Yeahh, that's what I'm gonna do now Jean. I have my students to look after right now and then in three months' time I'm heading off to Spain. Gotta start preparing for that too.

I think that's what I had started doing. I had become too caught up with what he had done for me in the past. It was out of respect for those actions that I still wanted to keep him around but if he doesn't feel the same way then there really is no point.

Exactly! I keep reflecting back on whatever Hanuman Uncle says. The "as you wish, as you like" or the "this time too shall pass" lines - we've heard them so many times before. Idk if it's just me, but they just feel more impactful when he says them.

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

Whatever happens, happens for the best, not even good.

Sometimes you gotta withdraw back and turn away, I know how it feels!

Stay strong, be happy and most importantly yes, distract yourself.

Haha, true!

I am so grateful that I have my work to distract me at the moment. If it weren't for that, I would have been a total nutcase. >.<

Originally posted by: sanam912

Sometimes we just need to take a step back .. if the other person realizes what they've missed they will surely make an effort to bridge that gap .. if not then we know where to turn the tide (and our efforts).. take it as the lifespan it was meant to be ..

Learnt this the hard way .. but worth the pain/emotions !!

This is also true. Like my friend had told me, in a way I have gotten my answer and I have closure. It may not be the one I wanted, but it's still a closure.

Now it's time to look towards newer and better things in life.

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Thank you to everyone who took the time out to listen and lent their advice. It really helped a lot. Am feeling calm and content after a long while. You all truly are the best. 🤗🤗