Slowly and steady: ajao saray - Page 55

Originally posted by: inlieu

He is going to have to use all his quota of patience in the coming days.

I'm wondering till how long will it last. And why should it last that long? Also I can't really put myself in his shoes and do this for Mini. Cause if once the wedding happens and this remains unresolved, all three are in for hell of a life.

But okay, he's maybe temporarily going with the flow himself not knowing where it's leading too. The jo hoga dekha jaayega attitude.

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

I'm wondering till how long will it last. And why should it last that long? Also I can't really put myself in his shoes and do this for Mini. Cause if once the wedding happens and this remains unresolved, all three are in for hell of a life.

But okay, he's maybe temporarily going with the flow himself not knowing where it's leading too. The jo hoga dekha jaayega attitude.

I don't know.... He's not much of a jo hoga dekha jaayega person when it comes to such serious things but I think he will voice his concerns to Minnie at some point, or she herself will realize that he is being wronged.

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

Because why shouldn't he. Yes, he loved Imarti a lot, but she is no more. He cannot forever go on like that. She isn't here but he is... living and breathing every day. Everyone in life needs a companion, so why shouldn't he get a second chance in life to love someone, to receive love and to be happy. Both Babita and HS deserve this.

I haven't commented on this a lot, but it has bothered me that people here think that Babita doesn't deserve HS. I think she absolutely does. She deserves to be loved by this great guy. I know we all are frustrated at Babita right now, but Babita does have a nurturing quality. I think she will come back to her old self..

I'm not saying that Babes doesn't deserve HS. Weeks ago, when Babes was crying to Naeem Bi about how she felt unworthy of HS' love, my heart broke for her. They both deserve a second chance at love, marriage and life long happiness. My only qualm at the moment is the timing. They very well could be right for each other, but it doesn't have to be right now.

I am glad that he didn't give her the other two gifts or it would have gone to her head.

When he does finally give her the flower it should be with his whole heart and the simplicity of it should make it beautiful for her.

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

My sister pointed out how HS and Mini are collectively cushioning life for her and treating her as a fragile baby just because she has had a very bad experience in life. They're pampering her. So for now she's feeling all free but is forgetting the give and take rule of life. There is only a certain limit till which you can be at the receiving end. Sooner or later, she's gonna lose the most if this continues.

For how long can HS only give and give? One day, he will have nothing to give and that will saturate everything. And that's a dead end.

This is absolutely true. It irks me whenever Minnie describes Babes as a bachi. Like, no. She's a 35 year old woman, let her be one. And if she doesn't know how, then let her learn.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

I'm not saying that Babes doesn't deserve HS. Weeks ago, when Babes was crying to Naeem Bi about how she felt unworthy of HS' love, my heart broke for her. They both deserve a second chance at love, marriage and life long happiness. My only qualm at the moment is the timing. They very well could be right for each other, but it doesn't have to be right now.

Yeah, I always wanted them to date before getting married, but I guess thats too progressive for an ITV show lol 😆.

They could have confessed their feelings to each other and just dated for sometime.. and then all these issues could have come up. HS would know this "ugly" side of Babita, and Babita would get to know HS more and understand him more... that way both could have resolved their issues and insecurities and then the wedding could have happened.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

I still maintain my stance that they should have waited. I feel like these decisions were made too quickly and not with a clear head. Their mutual companionship may be what they need at the moment, but will their personalities allow them to spend rest of their lives together as a familial unit? Co-parents, yes. Mutual lovers? Maybe not.

The thing was quick cause HS had accepted her wholly in that moment not knowing that there were other facets too of hers, which he hadn't seen. It's like he believed her knew her inside out, was just waiting for her to take the first step. When she did, he grabbed it with both hands.

He himself mentioned this to Lala, that he underestimated her personality and took her to be too simple. Now this is opening up to him after he proposed. Hence this mess.

I don't think it was rushed. Had Babes not shown this side of hers, HS and the audience both would happily enjoying the wedding prep.

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

Yeah, I always wanted them to date before getting married, but I guess thats too progressive for an ITV show lol 😆.

They could have confessed their feelings to each other and just date.. and then all these issues could have come up. HS would know this "ugly" side of Babita, and Babita would get to know HS more and understand him more... that way both could have resolved their issues and insecurities and then the wedding could have happened.

On the other hand, imagine if they'd had an arranged marriage with very little or no pre-marital courtship. They would only get to know this side of each other after the wedding and would have to adjust.

I guess in that scenario what you don't know can't hurt before the wedding because you aren't going nuts thinking about it. Here, HS is knowingly going in that direction.

Originally posted by: inlieu

I won't want to see HS having to force himself to be in physical proximity or initiating intimacy just because he doesn't want to hurt her if he maintains a distance. That would be so demeaning to his love and downright soul-ripping.

Oh gosh, something like this would excruciating to watch.

As a viewer and even for the characters. I want Hanita's intimate moments to be filled with nothing but unfiltered and unconditional love for each other. I don't want either of them to hold back.

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

The thing was quick cause HS had accepted her wholly in that moment not knowing that there were other facets too of hers, which he hadn't seen. It's like he believed her knew her inside out, was just waiting for her to take the first step. When she did, he grabbed it with both hands.

He himself mentioned this to Lala, that he underestimated her personality and took her to be too simple. Now this is opening up to him after he proposed. Hence this mess.

I don't think it was rushed. Had Babes not shown this side of hers, HS and the audience both would happily enjoying the wedding prep.

That's not how I read it at all. He had always known exactly what she was like but he was just trying to explain it to Lala. What he hadn't expected was that after being the one to make the first move, that she would be so oblivious to her surroundings and the effect of her words and actions.

When she told him you know exactly what I want, he knew and she knew that he knew what she was asking for. He knows her very well.