Slowly and steady: ajao saray - Page 54

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

Minnie has the right to want a father who will keep Babes happy, but sometimes I feel like she puts all the burden on him. Why doesn't she make Babes keep similar promises? After all, it's also Babita's responsibility to keep her husband happy.

My sister pointed out how HS and Mini are collectively cushioning life for her and treating her as a fragile baby just because she has had a very bad experience in life. They're pampering her. So for now she's feeling all free but is forgetting the give and take rule of life. There is only a certain limit till which you can be at the receiving end. Sooner or later, she's gonna lose the most if this continues.

For how long can HS only give and give? One day, he will have nothing to give and that will saturate everything. And that's a dead end.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

Oh wow, I didn't know this!

Hanuman Ji's tail setting Lanka on fire has given me a whole new perspective now!

In terms of the show, I now wouldn't mind if HS had decided to never wed again. After all, Imarti had now become a part of him. With that kind of love by his side, why would he ever feel the need to fall in love again?

He also thought that he had fallen in love once and that would be it, until NB convinced him otherwise. I think Lala's and her encouragement helped propel things or he may not have acknowledged his emotions.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

I've always wanted a baby track. It will add a whole lot of new dynamics and conflicts to the show. But given how things are right now, I want Hanita to be a single unit, who not only reciprocate each other's love but are on the same wavelength with one another. Otherwise, forget having a baby, I don't even want them to be near each other.

I won't want to see HS having to force himself to be in physical proximity or initiating intimacy just because he doesn't want to hurt her if he maintains a distance. That would be so demeaning to his love and downright soul-ripping.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

Minnie has the right to want a father who will keep Babes happy, but sometimes I feel like she puts all the burden on him. Why doesn't she make Babes keep similar promises? After all, it's also Babita's responsibility to keep her husband happy.

Because she also feels entitled on behalf of her mother to demand happiness. I don't remember her thinking or talking about HS' happiness and what he wants out of this marriage.

Originally posted by: inlieu

I've been there, done that. Went into a marriage feeling uncomfortable the whole time but doing it for the happiness of my parents. I had that feeling of dread the entire time, ever since the date had been fixed.

Brides cry during the bidaai because they get emotional about leaving their parents, but I couldn't help shed tears because of the darkness I saw in front of me as if I was knowingly jumping into a bottomless pit. Seeing HS like this made me remember all those emotions, and I completely understand where he is at this moment.

OMG. That requires a lot of courage. Unimaginably lots.

Dunno if I'm eligible to say this but you and HS are very brave and forgiving.

This was the only thing I didn't want for him and ironically that is exactly what's happening. A lot of people have been there for Babita but there was no one for HS. And the very people I thought, who will give HS that deserved love are causing pain, as Gur said.

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

My sister pointed out how HS and Mini are collectively cushioning life for her and treating her as a fragile baby just because she has had a very bad experience in life. They're pampering her. So for now she's feeling all free but is forgetting the give and take rule of life. There is only a certain limit till which you can be at the receiving end. Sooner or later, she's gonna lose the most if this continues.

For how long can HS only give and give? One day, he will have nothing to give and that will saturate everything. And that's a dead end.

Toxic is the word.

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

He does. A different kind of love. A very long portion of life cannot pass through contentedly with the memories of past - that too a rather incomplete one. Imarti did shape him up as a person and resides in him. But he needs companionship waala love. Someone who can be his best friend, can share his dirty secrets and look after his vulnerable side. Hence, he was apprehensive if Babita had the capacity to manage his wild personality. But she did show her emotional capability by interpreting Imarti's letter. And that perhaps prompted him to take the action towards her.

But now it all seems so futile, ufff. Poor man's all stuck up in uncertainty.

He is going to have to use all his quota of patience in the coming days.

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

He does. A different kind of love. A very long portion of life cannot pass through contentedly with the memories of past - that too a rather incomplete one. Imarti did shape him up as a person and resides in him. But he needs companionship waala love. Someone who can be his best friend, can share his dirty secrets and look after his vulnerable side. Hence, he was apprehensive if Babita had the capacity to manage his wild personality. But she did show her emotional capability by interpreting Imarti's letter. And that perhaps prompted him to take the action towards her.

But now it all seems so futile, ufff. Poor man's all stuck up in uncertainty.

I still maintain my stance that they should have waited. I feel like these decisions were made too quickly and not with a clear head. Their mutual companionship may be what they need at the moment, but will their personalities allow them to spend rest of their lives together as a familial unit? Co-parents, yes. Mutual lovers? Maybe not.

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

OMG. That requires a lot of courage. Unimaginably lots.

Dunno if I'm eligible to say this but you and HS are very brave and forgiving.

This was the only thing I didn't want for him and ironically that is exactly what's happening. A lot of people have been there for Babita but there was no one for HS. And the very people I thought, who will give HS that deserved love are causing pain, as Gur said.

But my feeling of dread was an overwhelming gut feeling, and it turned out to be right soon after. I couldn't take it after a point so rather than let myself continue to in that toxic environment I decided to leave. I was fortunate not to have to worry about kids but HS doesn't have that luxury.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

I still maintain my stance that they should have waited. I feel like these decisions were made too quickly and not with a clear head. Their mutual companionship may be what they need at the moment, but will their personalities allow them to spend rest of their lives together as a familial unit? Co-parents, yes. Mutual lovers? Maybe not.

You know how I feel about this already. For once in my life, I want some last-minute thing to stop their wedding.