Do women secretly love Kabir Singh and Christian Grey - Page 6

Originally posted by: reddy123456

This !! Along with the fact that many women love Alpha bad boys.

Ya it’s training. It’s a belief they can fix the bad boy because women are expected to fix them. Beta bigra gaya...shaadi karado! Girls also think maybe they would be that special girl who will tame the bad boy lol! It’s a thrill! Some are genuinely interested in this thrill, some are just romanticizing.

More than good looks, I think well groomed, clean appearance & good smell are attractive to most women. Most women put a lot of effort in grooming to look nice. They expect the same I guess. Would a man date a girl who seems like a slob? But yes I agree looks do matter when it comes to dating.

No. Women must love these guys but I don’t think it’s secret

Originally posted by: DragonBoy49

No. Women must love these guys but I don’t think it’s secret

You know all secrets 😆

Originally posted by: SatoshiNakamoto

You know all secrets 😆

I mean I don’t think anyone would hide if they liked these type of men

Jab pyaar kiya toh Darna kya 😎

Originally posted by: Kara_R

Ladies, let's be honest. The line is as thin as the guys's looks... Hot rich guy or ugly troll. Flattered acceptance or repulsed rejection is based on this...

So true, replace chocolate boy Shahid with nawaz and this would have been a different movie.

Originally posted by: regnow

Correct. I've seen so many girls call men creeps just for asking them out or admitting they are attracted to them. They are disgusted if an ugly guy thinks he has a chance with them. If it's a hot guy, then it's flattering.

The same behavior gets a different response based on how good looking, rich or powerful the man is.

They say Girls like Bad boys and friendzone the Good guys for a reason. Women do like Bad guys.

I don't understand this hulaboo about girls preferring goodlooking boys. Don't boys judge girls based on looks a lot too? They objectify a lot too. It is natural to get attracted to a more goodlooking person, leads back to the primal evolutionary behavior of selecting the best mate for coming generation to be the best of the lot. Also no with looks guys will get problematic behavior excused only by some girls n till a few months. Also there's extent to that behavior, no girl will like if a dashing guy just comes n slaps her.

Women do have this I can fix him mentality at times though, I mean some even wrote Ted Bundy love letters. On top of that media constantly potrays bad guys changing bfor a girl,which ek to never happens irl, Noone changes for anyone, two, why's there no bad girl good guy popular trope ? Women see all this stuff n start romanticizing it, the idea that a broken person will change just for me. Ends in a disaster irl.

Are men secretly pigs who love to abuse women? Why assume that women who outrage over these characters are also the ones who love them? Women can't have different mentality and thought process? Are they all robots? And even if it they like these characters, they are still fictional. No women like such behaviour from men in real life. Not even the doormats.

I like women who r dominant❤️

A lot of relevant and interesting issues discussed here.

There is a big difference between fantasy and reality. Both men and women have a lot of sexual fantasies that are just that - fantasy. There is no desire to have it be real in any way.

Fifty Shades of Grey attempted to tap into a fantasy for a subset of women. It got dubbed as mommy porn because of the number of married women with kids who were into it. But it got a lot of criticism for its dangerous and inaccurate portrayal of BDSM. BDSM is consensual and has plenty of rules to ensure the safety and pleasure of the people involved. FSOG completely ignored consent and safety.

It was clearly written by some vanilla woman trying to be edgy but had no clue what she was doing. Most women I know who got into the series would never even consider light bondage in real life. That is why women do not secretly desire Christian Grey. He is a fantasy that fascinates them - that is all.

My incredulity with the series is that it got famous. I don't get why women even pay to get their Mills and Boon type romance novels. That's what fanfiction is for. But then many of these women don't follow any ships or kinks etc. A sultry novel is the most excitement some of them have.

Kabir Singh is a whole different story. Christian Grey appeals to a fantasy, Kabir Singh appeals to conditioning. Many cultures promote alpha men as desirable. They portray alpha men as the only ones who can truly protect and care for women. Women are also conditioned to believe that feminity can tame or soften bad boys. That if a man softens for them it is a sign that they are successful as women.

But these are archaic notions that are rapidly changing. Women are human after all and have their own dreams, aspirations, personalities. Ultimately, they desire compatible partners who let them be themselves. There will always be the one-off woman who is genuinely into alpha men. But on the whole, most women find alpha men like Kabir Singh frightening and repulsive.

Now as some people have pointed out rich and/or good looking men do get more leeway. Men do the same rich and/or good looking women do get away with cruel behavior. But on the whole, very few humans are completely blinded by looks/wealth. There is a threshold. A good looking man may get away with being a bit persistent picking up a woman - but a Kabir Singh tends to be universally problematic (with few exceptions)