Originally posted by: Reshmi.parekh78
Agree. Ashok has definitely not been shown to be a good human being aswell as also has been shown to be a bad husband and father but yes they did show him being caring towards Meeta. Surely the character itself is shown to be bad hence they did try to show that at intervals even when he communicated with Meeta. But not that 24/7 his character was portrayed as bad. Now his character has turned into a complete villain. His abusing Meeta or hitting her is a little too much to bear and is def not as per the Ashok we saw earlier. He was definitely caring,good and supportive towards Mita earlier. Even with Babita they have never shown him physically abusing her while they were married. The whole focus was more on long distance marriage and an unfaithful husband but nowhere it was mentioned that he was abusuve or used to hit Babita. Suddenly introducing this track, him locking Mita’s room, she getting so scared of him all this seems not required. Why do Indian serials try to portray ppl like this to make them villains. What Ashok did itself is bad but the character does not need to change for that reason. Babita can be shown to be an independent successful businesswoman. Ashok’s and Mita’s marriage can be shown to be successful. It was good to see Mita fierecely independent aswell as not the typical other woman. Not that what she did was right, completely wrong it was. But they just tried to show that it was a mistake but she was helpless as she was in love with Ashok however she was not shown to be a bad human being. Now suddenly she is shown to be vulnerable, scared of Ashok. She shivers, stammers and what not. Ashok has been shown to be extremely bad towards her. He does not change at times (which is possible) but he is bad all times. Why do we need to follow stereotypes.
Can’t we see a different angle a different story. Can’t both Ashok and Babita live their lives. Do they have to show that the second marriage is breaking off and even if it does can’t there be another reason, do they have to show such a bad relation between Ashok Meeta. With no such background for Ashok it becomes more difficult to digest the same. Like when Mini tells Babita that when Ashok hit Mita I thought it was u my question was when did she see her father abusing or hitting her mother when they were married. They had very good impression of him then so why this new storyline. It is important to understand that people cheat and not all those who cheat are necessarily Abusive. Also it is important to understand that cheating and being unfaithful itself is a problem and a emotional torture for a wife...such a person has def done a mistake since he is selfish least bothered abt his family or impact on his close people. We do not need to combine these two things. Him being a good human being does not take away the fact that he was unfaithful and forcefully show him to be a bad husband even to his second wife. They can be happy to with each other.
@bold it may seem a bit out of place, but this is the whole point of psychological abuse, that even the toughest looking independent women fall victim to because their mind, the source of their mental strength, is what is being attacked. Ashok knows she's vulnerable and is upping the ante.
As for Ashok being shown more and more abusive recently, I've been thinking about this...
When I went back and watched the old episodes, it struck me that we've seen from time to time that Ashok has an aggressive nature with violence suppressed deep down, as we saw in all his interactions with HS, starting from when he tried to hit Minnie and drag her out of HS' house, to where he slapped her when she stood up to him as HS was about to lose his job. Also, in the scene where he wants to see Minnie to ask her withdraw her complaint against Manmeet, his body language says he would have shoved Babita if HS hadn't stepped in then (he didn't know then that Babita herself would be tough enough to stop him too).
When Minnie was talking to Babita about her fears that Ashok must have treated her that way too, I wondered if he had ever hit Babita. I had always expected this to be about emotional and psychological abuse, not physical so I wonder if such a thing would be revealed. On the other hand, they never really lived together, and Ashok was probably less mean when he was newly married, so maybe there was no such situation. Frankly, I am not surprised by him manhandling Meeta, with tons of coercion by Khatri + alcohol. It's just the pace of the story that makes it seem sudden and rushed. I would have expected that the CVs would have taken a bit longer to get to this if Hunar's exit weren't so last moment.
Edited by inlieu - 6 years ago