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While I m glad Mishti went n broke up with veer straight forwardly, I m not too happy with the way she had zero empathy for him.

Well, by this, I don't expect mahaan dialogues like I didn't want to hurt u etc. But I at least expected her too feel that she is hurting him. Idk if it was dialogues or direction or veer's poor acting n hence zero chemistry or what...but it was too in a matter of the fact tone for me. It was like she was telling her friend that she can't marry someone where the friend isn't involved in that relationship at all. For God's sake, even veer is involved in the whole mess. He is not just someone, but Ur husband to be with whom u r breaking off. So it is not only about u n Ur feelings, it's about his feelings too. It's one thing being honest n genuine and other thing being all about urself. This girl neither had a thought about veer until ruhaan reminded her nor she had any empathy for him. It was all about I thought it was love so I got engaged n I think it's not love so I can't marry. Call me Mishti hater if u want (though I m not), but this girl has always looked too full of herself to me. Yes she is head of the family n earning for all n taking responsibility of all n loves all...true, agreed. But when it comes to juzzbaat...she doesn't think of anybody else...be it ruhaan or veer or her family. However every other character revolves around her emotional mess.

Secondly, I didn't understand the concept of not loving veer ever. For once, I can accept that she was not herself with veer but she was very much romantically involved with him, willingly, she used to love his touch, she used to get hyper when he didn't talk to her, she used to love making him feel special. So I can't buy there was no love. For me, maybe she loved ruhaan more or fell out of love with veer after she met ruhaan. N hence my unpopular opinion here. I wanted to see her struggle to make her relationship with veer work out n then break up. If they claim ruhaan is not the reason of break up, she should have tried to make it work. This love is too overrated in ITV. In real life, we fall in love with someone. As we start dating, we see changes in each other. At times we even doubt our own decision, we doubt if we really love each other. At times, we reach a point where we think of calling it off. But still we try our level best to make it work. N when we realise we can't, we break it off. By this, I don't mean we should compromise n stay in a love-less marriage. But when we have liked someone so dearly since quite a time, it is not so easy to break off from them, even if we fall apart, for old times sake, we try if we can start it all over again. Mishti struggled with her emotions only until she realised she loved ruhaan, later when ruhaan made her think about veer, she struggled with her insecurity if she is being like her papa. But I didn't see her struggle how she'll tell veer, if she should try to work it out with veer. No, I can't keep veer in a love-less marriage is not the struggle I m talking about. In Ur life u may feel distracted for a while, but u can get back...she didn't think if that's the case with her. I am not character assassinating her, but I m not sure if she'll make it till the end with ruhaan also with this kind of attitude towards relationship. Loving urself is true, but any relationship works only when u think of the other before urself n make efforts. Maybe there r a very few who think like me in today's feminist or for that matter individualistic world, so most of the people find it brave of mishti to do what she did. I totally agreed with veer that this girl never told him what's wrong, she should have, maybe he would have given her a reason to love him.

Anyways, what she did was better than totally cheating him, so let's let that be. But it was suddenly too harsh on veer.

Right....there is a lack of guilt and empathy from Mishti's side.....

Yes I agree with you. She never tried working hard on Mish-Veer relationship because there is nothing lacking in there relationship & she never mention there is anything lacking.

Her reason is she fall for Ruhaan. In reality she know what she want in her life & she found that quality in Veer & then she go head with Veer & got engage. After Ruhaan entry everything is change. Now she chose love over commitment & stability & security in life which she 1stly want in her life. I don't want to comment on Mishaan equation because they not start yet officially.

I'm happy she come clean with Veer instead of dragging un-necessary. About her feeling towards Veer lack of empathy so this is nothing new. She is always like that. She start to end think herself only about her feeling & what she want in her life, about her image, not want to become like her bio-logical father & don't want to go through like mauli. that's sit.

Right now also she give damn about Ruhaan & other factor too. She is like now I realize I love you so you can't leave me & stay with me, stand by me always. She conveniently Ruhaan also have connection with Veer. He is Veer's best friend. How there equation change & damage their child hood friendship. How Veer family take this Ruhaan-Mishti think when they feel Ruhaan also there like son.

I like Ruhaan & Pari (in mishti's imagination) both give her reality check & later Pari gave her moral support.

Originally posted by: amolaarohi

Yes I agree with you. She never tried working hard on Mish-Veer relationship because there is nothing lacking in there relationship & she never mention there is anything lacking.

Her reason is she fall for Ruhaan. In reality she know what she want in her life & she found that quality in Veer & then she go head with Veer & got engage. After Ruhaan entry everything is change. Now she chose love over commitment & stability & security in life which she 1stly want in her life. I don't want to comment on Mishaan equation because they not start yet officially.

I'm happy she come clean with Veer instead of dragging un-necessary. About her feeling towards Veer lack of empathy so this is nothing new. She is always like that. She start to end think herself only about her feeling & what she want in her life, about her image, not want to become like her bio-logical father & don't want to go through like mauli. that's sit.

Right now also she give damn about Ruhaan & other factor too. She is like now I realize I love you so you can't leave me & stay with me, stand by me always. She conveniently Ruhaan also have connection with Veer. He is Veer's best friend. How there equation change & damage their child hood friendship. How Veer family take this Ruhaan-Mishti think when they feel Ruhaan also there like son.

I like Ruhaan & Pari (in mishti's imagination) both give her reality check & later Pari gave her moral support.

As per tejaswi prakash's AV which was posted here yesterday, she was very much clear about her character mishti's thought process and she has clearly mentioned that mishti feels she can't be herself with veer in mishveer relationship and she feels she was never in love with veer and she realizes this things once after falling in love and experiencing what love is like so as per tejaswi her character mishti decided to do break up because of no love for veer in heart fir chahe ruhaan ho ya koi tisra doesn't matter because bottom line is for mishti is if there is no love for veer in her heart then she should inform him .

Bold Red: Ruhaan was the one who was unable to resist his feelings for mishti in spite of the fact that she is his childhood best friend veer's honewali biwi. Ruhaan has always given preference to his feelings over his friendship than why to blame mishti now? It's ruhaan's responsibility to take care of his friendship .If ruhaan failed as friend then we should blame ruhaan and not mishti.Aj Mishti ne jab ruhaan ko bataya ki usne veer se break up kar liya hai to kya ruhaan ne ek bar bhi bola ki tumhe break up nai karna chahiye tha veer se? Ruhaan ne ek bar bhi mishti ko yeh bola ki tumne galat kiya mishti? Ruhaan to mishti ke iss action ki tarif kar raha tha ki tumne bahot sahi kiya. Aisa kyon ? Ruhaan ko to mishti ka action bahot sahi laga then why to blame mishti to damage their frienship?

I think sab ko apni galti ki responsibility khud leni chahiye jaise mishti ne apni galti ki responsibility li hai. Ruhaan ne apne childhood friend or uske family ke sath dhokha kiya hai apni feelings ko preference dekar to usko bhi apni galti ka responsibility khud lena chahiye. Mishti ke sath blame game kar k kooi fayda nai hai.

I think she has both empathy and guilt for hurting Veer. She says with Ruhaan that she is very bad. I know this will again can be taken as Mihsti is scared of being labelled as bad girl and all..

I feel that she is not guilt about loving Ruhaan cause she.is aware subconsciously that falling for Ruhaan is not the reason for breaking up with Veer but not being able to love Veer. And it's not Veer's mistake , it's her mistake and she has acknowledged it and guilty about it too for hurting Veer in this. Mishveer were romancing so they were in love ? There are people who are casually dating and enjoying romance without love or anything deep.. and here in Mishti case she liked a guy she has choosen to be in relationship and she decided that she will be committed even before anything deeper can develop between them and since she decided that it's her commitment she started to involve romantically and she was enjoying too. She putting extra effort to make him feel special , she being hyper when he was leaving her.. all these things are more to do about she desperately wanted to workout her commitment.She was wrong.And she accepted it. She is right now is what she is believing that is why now she can't feel guilty of what she is doing but can only feel empathetic for Veer.

Agree with the lacking empathy part. the way she was day dreaming and smiling on her way back after breaking veers heart, i found it quiet insensitive.. Expected better from Mishti.

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

As per tejaswi prakash's AV which was posted here yesterday, she was very much clear about her character mishti's thought process and she has clearly mentioned that mishti feels she can't be herself with veer in mishveer relationship and she feels she was never in love with veer and she realizes this things once after falling in love and experiencing what love is like so as per tejaswi her character mishti decided to do break up because of no love for veer in heart fir chahe ruhaan ho ya koi tisra doesn't matter because bottom line is for mishti is if there is no love for veer in her heart then she should inform him .

Bold Red: Ruhaan was the one who was unable to resist his feelings for mishti in spite of the fact that she is his childhood best friend veer's honewali biwi. Ruhaan has always given preference to his feelings over his friendship than why to blame mishti now? It's ruhaan's responsibility to take care of his friendship .If ruhaan failed as friend then we should blame ruhaan and not mishti.Aj Mishti ne jab ruhaan ko bataya ki usne veer se break up kar liya hai to kya ruhaan ne ek bar bhi bola ki tumhe break up nai karna chahiye tha veer se? Ruhaan ne ek bar bhi mishti ko yeh bola ki tumne galat kiya mishti? Ruhaan to mishti ke iss action ki tarif kar raha tha ki tumne bahot sahi kiya. Aisa kyon ? Ruhaan ko to mishti ka action bahot sahi laga then why to blame mishti to damage their frienship?

I think sab ko apni galti ki responsibility khud leni chahiye jaise mishti ne apni galti ki responsibility li hai. Ruhaan ne apne childhood friend or uske family ke sath dhokha kiya hai apni feelings ko preference dekar to usko bhi apni galti ka responsibility khud lena chahiye. Mishti ke sath blame game kar k kooi fayda nai hai.

I'm talking about Mishti character not about actress aka Tejaswini. Yes behind the scene actress is very clear what mishti thinking but on screen not reflect the same thing at least for me.

Once again I clearly told you here if mine pov is not match with you that doesn't mean I'm bashing Mishti or Ruhaan.

I clearly stated in the starting Mishti was very clearly know what she want from life (commitment , stability & secure life & don't want to go like her mother) & she act & behave like that. M I said in mine above post she love veer before or mistakenly think its love ? Big NO. She chose Veer because she know what she want from life & she knows Veer gave her exactly same thing. After Ruhaan came between them & equation change & now she chose love over what she want (stability & secure life). She did fight with her unknowing feeling because she don't want to become like her bio-father.

About Ruhaan & Veer friendship. Yes its Ruhaan reponsibility to make thing clear with Veer. But I'm saying Mishti knows they both are best friend from child-hood. One time & very 1st time Veer fought with her for Ruhaan sake. But after realizing her love feeling she gave damn other things like Veer-Ruhaan friendship, Ruhaan & veer's family equation. I'm saying she is always like that. She is full of herself start to till date. She always prefer her own feeling over others.

She broke up with Veer because She fall for Ruhaan. She realize she fall for Ruhaan that time she realize she never love Veer & she should Brock up with him. It is very convenience from her side 1st confession with lover & getting assurance from him he not go away from her & then getting impression of not going through any judgmental from arounding people like pari (moral support). She take every single step after getting sure no one should hate her, think bad about her & not loose any thing.

I don't think its mistake its matter of choice. In the start she want stability, secure life, 100% commitment person so she chose Veer & now she want love she chose Ruhaan.

If I'm wrong first person mishti thought after realising her love for ruhaan is veer! She don't want to keep him in dark and their relationship loops holes are visible from the starting date itself

If I'm mishti I can't even open my mouth Infront of my fiance, but I likes the way they showed daring step of mishti

It's like protecting the faith of humanity, dreaming and imagining can happen in everyone's heart when we fell in love but mishti thought before itselft to break her commitment

Latter her thoughts occupied to ruhaan because of his sudden departure but once she realised what's happening, she went to inform veer and want to tell him everything that's really appreciable move of mishti

May be CV's intention of showing that was that her love for Ruhaan could over power any other emotion for anyone else. She was not supposed to be just guilt she was also supposed to be sad for standing before Veer as a girl who has done mistake and for being at that situation and to think consequences she will be facing like how Veer and her dadi will take this and how society will label her as Kunal's daughter and all; She forgot all these things for a moment when she saw a couple in love and by imagining herself in love. Something like when you are in love you will be strong ; And its only a moment of imaginary happiness and when in real she met Ruhaan at that time..she wasn't romancing like her imagination. She was sad and wanted his assurance that she is not bad girl. And she could show her feeling guilt for Veer before only Ruhaan and was seeking comfort

Originally posted by: amolaarohi

I'm talking about Mishti character not about actress aka Tejaswini. Yes behind the scene actress is very clear what mishti thinking but on screen not reflect the same thing at least for me.

Once again I clearly told you here if mine pov is not match with you that doesn't mean I'm bashing Mishti or Ruhaan.

I clearly stated in the starting Mishti was very clearly know what she want from life (commitment , stability & secure life & don't want to go like her mother) & she act & behave like that. M I said in mine above post she love veer before or mistakenly think its love ? Big NO. She chose Veer because she know what she want from life & she knows Veer gave her exactly same thing. After Ruhaan came between them & equation change & now she chose love over what she want (stability & secure life). She did fight with her unknowing feeling because she don't want to become like her bio-father.

About Ruhaan & Veer friendship. Yes its Ruhaan reponsibility to make thing clear with Veer. But I'm saying Mishti knows they both are best friend from child-hood. One time & very 1st time Veer fought with her for Ruhaan sake. But after realizing her love feeling she gave damn other things like Veer-Ruhaan friendship, Ruhaan & veer's family equation. I'm saying she is always like that. She is full of herself start to till date. She always prefer her own feeling over others.

She broke up with Veer because She fall for Ruhaan. She realize she fall for Ruhaan that time she realize she never love Veer & she should Brock up with him. It is very convenience from her side 1st confession with lover & getting assurance from him he not go away from her & then getting impression of not going through any judgmental from arounding people like pari (moral support). She take every single step after getting sure no one should hate her, think bad about her & not loose any thing.

I don't think its mistake its matter of choice. In the start she want stability, secure life, 100% commitment person so she chose Veer & now she want love she chose Ruhaan.

I haven't said or felt that you are bashing mishti or ruhaan.

If it's just about matter of choice and now she want love so she chose ruhaan, does that mean she is now no more expecting stability,secure life, 100% commitment person as life partner???