Are people this oblivious to their OWN feelings in real life?

Namaste Rishta fam! 😉

Seeing the mess that is relationship dynamics on this show, I have a question for all of you- can people lack self-awareness to this extent in real life? ❓

I ask because as a person who is quite aware of her own feelings- toward situations, things and most importantly people. I KNOW when I like or dislike someone.

TV shows so often have characters who 'love' a person but don't realise it until 20 eons later. On this show, while Abir seems to have some understanding that his feelings towards Mishti are not completely platonic, he is yet to admit to himself that he likes her and does not want her to be with Kunal. Hence, he attempts to set Kunal and Mishti up but feels bad about it.

Mishti lights up when she meets Abir and seeks out his company. She says stuff like 'You are the only person in this house who understands me' but cannot discern that what she feels for him is more than friendship.

Of course, it's too soon for love, but how can they not realise they have a teeny tiny crush on each other?

Kunal is similar to Mishti in that he enjoys his time with Kuhu and wants to be with her but does not give any thought to why he is so comfortable with her. The only time he is not on his phone is when he is with her. Kuhu is probably the most self-aware of her feelings at this point. She likes Kunal but knows Kunal-Mishti might get engaged, so tries to stay away from Kunal and maintain her distance.

I have seen characters in shows gnashing their teeth and asking themselves 'kyun main uska dard bardash nahi kar paa raha', 'kyun uske hone ya na hone se mujhe farq padta hai'. I am like, BRUH, CAN I HAVE WHAT YOU ARE HAVING? 🤔

I wish I was this unaware about my feelings. 😒 Can people be like in this real life? Not know they like/love someone? What has your experience been?

If i keep my own personal thoughts here then "I Don't Believe" LOVE Is Exist In Real Life (off course A Couple Love)😆 Only Mother's Love is True in this selfish loveless world❤️ Otherwise everybody stay with each other for their own selfish motive😝 So, all these Feelings Ehsaas bullshits exist only in Books and Movies 😆

Originally posted by: mahi246

If i keep my own personal thoughts here then "I Don't Believe" LOVE Is Exist In Real Life (off course A Couple Love)😆 Only Mother's Love is True in this selfish loveless world❤️ Otherwise everybody stay with each other for their own selfish motive😝 So, all these Feelings Ehsaas bullshits exist only in Books and Movies 😆

Completely agree with you.... 🖐👍

These itv channels are like drug peddlers, selling cannabis without the kick

They give lollipops and take it when they want. I mean the characters are trained to switch on and off their feelings

For me emotions run riot in real life.

I think physical attraction won’t take a minute to realise like what happened with Kuhu....🥰🥰 jo acha laga so laga... 🥰🥰

Kunal, I believe may take sometime. He, after his breakup with Shweta, made up his mind to get married to anyone his mother chooses. He is not even interested in knowing her. With Kuhu he is getting comfortable, but looking at him things still seem on a platonic level, better than when he is with Mishti certainly , but still not on a romantic level. So I give him a pass, if he does not realise for some more time.☺️☺️

Coming to Mishti, I am a bit confused about her. Unlike the way Kunal smiles at Kuhu, when Mishti smiles looking at Abir, to me, she seriously seem to be infatuated. She has become more and comfortable, to a certain extent emotionally dependent too. Even if she does not realise her feelings for Abir, she should at least realise that Kunal is not the right one for her. There are ample reasons I can see why she should back off.🙂🙂

Abir, my God , I so wanted MishBir to interact first and fall slowly in love but to my bad he fell in love with a jet speed.. 🤯🤯His speed at falling in love was just behind Kuhu, but he is taking way more longer time than her, to come to a self realisation 😂😂...He connected to her really fast, recited a poem when she called and had just said nothing but a “hello”. The self acknowledgement like u said should happen to him now. He is sad about Kunal Mishti alliance. He gets enchanted when he looks at her...The eye locks, those lost eyes... 🥰🥰sorry but no matter how much writers want to tell that he is unaware of his feelings, it is just not possible .😈😈..The dilemmas that his brother is courting her, Vishambar’s promise etc. can be dealt later but he should acknowledge his feelings first.🤓🤓...His conscience is ringing the alarm very loudly. It’s high time he should hear.👹👹 This is something that cannot be real at all..😥

Btw, those classic last lines ... kyn main Tumhaara dard bardasht nahi kar paata...😂😂😂😂😂 They have become so meh...😼😼😼 I really hope they don’t use them here.

Good post yaar.

Completely agree with you.

Only in serials they show things like. Everyone will know right if they like a person or not.

Crush have never heard this word used in itv. If leads like each other then it’s friendship.

Yes kuhu is only person who acknowledged her feelings but they will show her in bad light.😑

Pink is back. Kinda.

I haven't seen the last few episodes, therefore I might be totally wrong.

I'll answer to the easiest of them all, Abeer. He is pretty aware of his attraction for Mishti. However, he has abandonment issues. He assumes pyar matlab shaadi. His mother left his father. They had an affair and he assumes if that can happen to his dad, it can happen to him too. Just like he is able to afford himself banjaragiri to escape this pain, he assumes mishti can marry kunal and he can escape the pain by simply hiding at his bachelor pad.

As for Kunal. He refuses to do anything about his attraction for kuhu because pyar to usne kar leeya. Shweta se😭. He assumes there is no way he will fall in love with someone else and marry them. That ain't happening in his mind. So, he is just going through the motions with Mishti

Mishti, wasn't even looking to marry or have an emotional rishta with a guy. She has seen enough rishte go wrong and has very little trust in marriage. All these people are assuming that love = marriage. So, they dont even want to go where their feelings might lead them

Kuhu was prepared to do something about her feelings. However, her lovely, EQ rich family (not!) sent her feelings to bhad 😕

It was shown in the earlier episodes ? Who had an affair, Meenakshi or her husband ? Abeer knows this ?

Originally posted by: mahi246

If i keep my own personal thoughts here then "I Don't Believe" LOVE Is Exist In Real Life (off course A Couple Love)😆 Only Mother's Love is True in this selfish loveless world❤️ Otherwise everybody stay with each other for their own selfish motive😝 So, all these Feelings Ehsaas bullshits exist only in Books and Movies 😆

Haha satyavachan 👏

I do like to hope that there are people who will love us though.

To answer Bluntly - nope! There is no bulb jala , ghanti bhaji, I am in looooouve moment in real life! :D

And ofcourse you know when you like a person, but that would take what - 2 episodes? And they need to run the show 5 days a week all year round, so I guess somewhere they do need to show all this - and it adds to the drama and the tingles .

But in real life, If someone says "Kyun mujhey jail jaane se uska gussa Bura lag Raha hai?!" I would probably laugh out loud!! :D :d

But the same dialogue in a show and it somewhere adds to the awwww factor. :)