Dear Zindagi - Is there really so much stigma against therapy?

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Saazhumsafars

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Posted: 6 years ago

So I just saw a clip of DZ on instagram (the scene where kiara reaches the point of an outburst and tells everyone that she is seeing the therapist and that if they are going to call her insane they should just do it then to her face,she says that everyone must think that "kiara has gone crazy or "cuckoo"..the clip ended there but I think after that she becomes a bit preachy being all "that is what everyone thinks,right?that anyone who goes to a therapist or a psychiatrist is cuckoo")

As somebody who is seeing a therapist for months now,I don't completely relate to it.I don't say these discussions are completely without stigma (like in real life I am not okay with everybody knowing that I am seeing a therapist,before making this topic too I thought just a bit) but my point is that I didn't had the fear or fear disguised as anger that my family is going to judge me or think of me as cuckoo when I told them I was seeing a therapist.One of my friends knows too and she too is so supportive.

Perhaps I am luckier with the kind of family and friends I have,but I want to know if other families in real life are like kiara's too or if things are scenes in the movie were a bit dramatized?

I know that kiara wasn't closest to her parents and deep down had complaints and was very hurt by them,I do take this into account but still why did she think that her parents would be the kind of humans who would think she was "cuckoo".Is there really such a stigma in the minds of most/significant number of people?

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Posted: 6 years ago

Seeing a therapist was a huge stigma in the US too up until the late 60s/early 70s based on patients I've interacted with who are now in their senior years. So it's no surprise, it's a stigma even now in other countries.

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Posted: 6 years ago

I don't completely agree with approach film uses to get out of depression. Film was highly dramatized and over simplified. Things are not that easy and simple like in movies. But kudos for taking up the topic and doing Justice to it.

Yes. There is still stigma

I have been through one kind of similar situation. it was very awkward to open up before elders knowing they won't take you seriously.

For entire time I was standing in middle , surrounded by elders with opinions and loud mouths, before I could finish they decided I need a vacation to relax myself for a while. Since then, I have never ever discussed my problems with them, I might take shelter in self pity but would never ever discuss my problems with them.

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Saazhumsafars

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Posted: 6 years ago

Originally posted by: Chameli_billi
Seeing a therapist was a huge stigma in the US too up until the late 60s/early 70s based on patients I've interacted with who are now in their senior years. So it's no surprise, it's a stigma even now in other countries.

Do you mean to say that a more developed or seemingly more modern a country,the less stigma there will be?I am not sure if I agree with it,as my friend who knows about me going to a therapist is from a small town of a not very developed state in India and has no stigma in her mind regarding this,in most aspects she is one of the most broad minded people I have known.

Or may be,my friend is one of the exceptions and your comment is right if we take the general population in account.

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Saazhumsafars

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Posted: 6 years ago

Originally posted by: Twinklingmoon
I don't completely agree with approach film uses to get out of depression. Film was highly dramatized and over simplified. Things are not that easy and simple like in movies. But kudos for taking up the topic and doing Justice to it.
Yes. There is still stigma

I have been through one kind of similar situation. it was very awkward to open up before elders knowing they won't take you seriously.
For entire time I was standing in middle , surrounded by elders with opinions and loud mouths, before I could finish they decided I need a vacation to relax myself for a while. Since then, I have never ever discussed my problems with them, I might take shelter in self pity but would never ever discuss my problems with them.

I don't know what to say,I am sorry you are surrounded by elders who didn't take you seriously and decided by themselves that what you needed was a vacation.I am more sorry that because of their behaviour,you have never discussed your problems with them after that.I hope you are not alone and do have friends and other people you can share your thoughts and feelings with.I am sorry :(

As much as I remember of the entire movie,I think I too would say that it was overdramatized.You seem to know more about depression than I do but I too agree that oversimplification is not the solution,yet it seems to be prevalent in our movies,I think.

Edited by Saazhumsafars - 6 years ago