Chhottu Mishti, Badi Mishti and the men in her life. - Page 4

Originally posted by: chicksoup

I agree with you.

Why does he encourage this kind of submissive behavior in his wife? That's all I was trying to say. As a partner, he should allow her to grow. I really like Veer too, actually. And I agree he is quite balanced, especially the way he laughed off the kiss. I don't know about his family, though. I think Mishti is extra careful around them because they are nice, but orthodox. You can see that in the way they have brought up Veer to respect elders, which I admire actually. All I am saying is. If Radhika was Veer's mom, would she not say her choice is the same as Mishti's? It is the girl's choice, that much should be clear to any MIL. There are some things Mishti is assuming and some actual facts. Let us see if we get to see them playing out.

Season 1: Ishaan's mom seemed right to want things her way too. She loved and respected Mauli, but not unconditionally!

Originally posted by: anshvi

See touching someone's feet doesn't mean one is orthodox.

Also if u watched that scene then Mishti was pretty persistent on making her mom in law choose a ring for her...And as far as I remember she even denied to choose it once but then went ahead

Also if this scene was shown the other way like her would be mom in law made her wear a ring of her own choice and Veer not going against it then your point would have been valid

I agree Veer needs to assure her more and help her let go of those fears...He does try though...obviously He isn't perfect but tries to keep her happy..it's not like he's ignorant or doesn't give a damn about her fears.

Also as of now Mishti doesn't feel there is anything missing in their relation...she is happy..the only fear is she doesn't want to go through a heartbreak like her mom

So far MishVeer aren't a perfect couple well no couples are but they seem quite ideal And They Don't Have Major Issues that CCan't Be Worked Out

As far as Ruhan is concerned...He did overhear her talking about her fears so might come into play later on

So far he seems to be smitten by her...And we have seen only physical attraction from their end rather than an emotional connect

So let's see how makers are going to go with their journey

Originally posted by: chicksoup

Orthodox is not a bad thing in my dictionary , actually. I meant it in a traditional orthodox way. I really fell for Veer when he entered and touched Bua's feet. I mentioned it because I haven't noticed it before and this was so visibly noticeable. Sometimes writers send out these warning signs, so just felt it could be so, because it came out of the blue.

Mishti and Veer are a very compatible couple and if there were no complicating factors, they should have a decent life.

The fact is, Mishti has feelings for Ruhaan that she refuses to acknowledge. It comes out subtly most of the times, but Pari actually hit it on the nail that Ruhaan seems to have invaded her mind. The more she ignores it, it is going to get more complicated. She should address it before things get too complicated, because even if Ruhaan wants to keep away, fate has a way of throwing them together with some pretty explosive results.

It is not just physical attraction. He admires her, especially the way she took care of Veer's parents. She thanked him for Ansh. He tried to ignore his feelings, thinking they are one sided. When she exploded on the hamaara dil aap ke paaas hai phrase, he knew she had something for him too. Still, he was willing to play along after the outburst. He had a chance to apply colours on her first, he didn't. The scene under the shower had shown him his place.

Basicall, they are both getting vibes from each other. He is trying to be cool about it, fate and Mishti are not helping at all.

Originally posted by: anshvi

Yes traditional is the better word for it ...He is traditional as well as open minded...a quality that I really like about him

Yes Mishti needs to clear her head, sort her feelings out and it at all she feels something for Ruhan then she needs to have a conversation with Veer...in fact her falling for Ruhan right now despite being in a happy relation is where the makers faulter...because there isn't anything missing from Mishti's pov in her relation, she is happy...if makers had shown that Mishti is happy yet feels something is missing but brushes if off and post that if she develops feelings for Ruhan it would have made sense...here it seems out of the blue and more like an infatuation

Second why I said physical attraction more than anything else coz if u notice he was smitten the day he saw her, opened her hair, then there was the kiss dare scene after which Mishti thought about him , then the trip and fall scene...after which both thought about each other and now the accidental kiss scene

Wrtiere never showed both thiking about the good things both have done so far but about these incidents that have affected them more than anything...Mishti is not falling for his goodness neither Ruhan is...oh course they are getting to know each other as well and finding out about each other's good qualities along the way..those incidents have played an important role...Also their attraction was itself based on first sight and not after knowing each other...Ruhan intact carries that tissue that has Mishti's lip mark

Writers as if pointing out how on one side there is stability, trust and commitment but in the other sparks, attractions

Remember Mishti said she doesn't believe in spark and love at first sight and Pari said what if she experienced attraction and sparks soon and this is exactly what is happening with her right now

It reminds me of TVD a lot! Damon was her worst choice (elena's words) and yet she chose her coz she wanted to experience love that consumed her, there were sparks, attraction and unpredictability that made her feel alive..she wanted love that could consume her...Damon gave her that...Stefan was the best choice she ever made (her words) he gave her stability, made her feel at home , was a good bf but that's not what she chose despite that being the best choice..precisely why I never connected with Delena when majority did coz I don't relate to that kind of love and the flip flopping that happened but it was elena's choice and she felt right..it made her happy

So, as much as I disagree with it and can never root for such kind of love I know for s fact that it does happen in life with people and I get their pov as well even if I disagree with them

Same is the case here

I hope makers won't mess it up ...they did go ahead with Kunal Nandini but then they also redeemed themselves by showing Mauli overcoming all obstacles and realising her self worth and choosing Ishaan in the end

I hope this season also nothing wrong is justified

Originally posted by: chicksoup

I agree with your choice. Definitely more practical in real life. This is why Mishti is rejecting Ruhaan. It is not practical for her.

We will have to see how Veer goes about this. The only place I found him lacking was the way he complained about Misti getting coloured during holi. After what happened in the night, I expected him to go straight to her and colour her. 😆 It was entirely his fault he got delayed.

Yeah, he's a sweetheart too. Mishti has a tough choice to make.

What I find lacking is, openness in their relationship. Mishti is trying hard to please him. She has not once discussed her fears with him. Like you said, it can come as the couple grows...With Ruhaan, she is rude like she has never been with anyone. The only thing she hides is her feelings for him. Why doesn't she have that level of comfort with Veer?

Originally posted by: anshvi

yes Mishti needs to open up more with Veer...I won't say there is lack of comfort but lack of communication..it's not like she doesn't communicate but she needs to let go of her fears...like I said...couples in real life also learn a lot of things about each other as time passes..as their relation progresses.

now the question is how will the fear of heartbreak that Mishti has will go...she already has a partner who won't cheat on her ever and not put her through d heartbreak that her mom went through...maybe after marriage her fears might fade as she realsies that she is in a happy space...no one can be sure actually..a lot depends on Mishti as well I guess ..She Did Express These Fears to Him And He Assured Her As well...But What MoRe Can Be Done To Make Her Fear Of HeArtbreak Go Away...Maybe With Time It Will fadE If She ContInues To Be in A Happy Relation

She isn't comfortable with Ruhan per say...she feels sparks..she feels that attraction for him and that is why is scared to admit it to herself...because she doesn't believe in sparks...she can't admit it to herself that she has started feeling for someone despite being in a committed relation...she wants it to stop but can't help but get more and more attracted and that is why she behaves super rudely with Ruhan

She is experiencing new emotions which she doesn't want to go through coz she doesn't want anything to happen to her already happy relation

Coz she can never think of putting someone especially Veer through the situation that her mom went through

She hates her father for putting her mom through a heartbreak when she wasn't even at fault so as of now Veer doesn't have any fault so how can she put him through something that she herself doesn't want to go through

She hates the idea of finding herself in her dad's shoes and thus is running away from her growing feelings is what I think

Also falling for Ruhan M not sure how will make her fears go away but might make her realise life can't be planned

I hope she doesn't realise that even her dad was not wrong coz that is something that would be pathetic

I hope writers know what they are doing

Originally posted by: chicksoup

Hmm.. .The point I'm trying to make is, having a non cheating partner doesn't guarantee a happy marriage . Infidelity is only one of the reasons for divorce to happen. Mishti can be all prepared to have Veer as a life partner forever, but her resolve is not enough... People change over the years. I'm talking from the experience of my friend who married her school sweetheart. They battled all odds and had an intercaste wedding. Up until she was submissive to her controlling in-laws , everything was fine. The moment she wanted her son to have freedom to choose his religion, all hell broke loose. This childhood sweetheart husband of hers who was supportive of her career and seemed like an ideal husband, refused to see her pov and went in for a divorce. Within months after the divorce, he was engaged to be married to the woman his parents chose.

Mishti is diving straight into troubled waters with her ' I'll keep him and his parents happy' attitude. It is not at all healthy and definitely the wrong way to enter into a relationship. Radhika never evoked such a need in Mauli. Ishaan didn't allow Mauli to ever have to go through that...

As for Mishti and Ishaan- Mishti certainly doesn't have to show her displeasure to a stranger so openly. It is more from her side actually. He just reacts to her. She could very well be civil with him. He is the only person she takes the trouble to trouble. 😆 In fact, if she just ignored him totally and had faith in her perfect relationship, they wouldn't be here. Is it just the excitement he gives, or is there a side to her that rebels? Knowing the control freak she is, I have no idea how she will fit into Veer's perfect family. How well does she know them? Even Pari and Radhika are confused about this side to Mishti, and it is not her at all. Her marriage is not going to be about just her and Veer. There are hints that the family will be involved too, just like Sandhya in season 1. Mishti's declaration only complicates it further.

Originally posted by: anshvi

See there is no guarantee in any relation...who knows even if MishAan happen then they might not for someone else again same is the case With MishVeer difference Is That They Have Already Been In A Steady Relation And Hsve Been Happy So far

Mishti Hasn't Lived with His Parents But Knows Them Well...Also Who's To say Whether they Are Liberal Or Authorstatie...She Is trying to Keep Them Happy For sure For Obvious reasons

ishaan's Mom was Authorstative But There situation was Differnet as Mauli Was A

Divorcee with child so she was apprehensive but here we are yet to see how exactly are her parents

There are only assumptions that they are orthodox and we are yet to see that in the show so why assume that they will b authoratative

Yes I agree Mishti needs to let go of this need to make Veer and her parents happy at any cost...And for that to happen her fear of heartbreak needs to go and how thst cam happen we have already discussed that

As already explained how she is extra rude with him coz she is fighting her emotions and not ready to admit that she is experiencing feelings for him

She doesn't want to do anything to jeopardise her relation with Veer and to put either of them through a situation that her mom went through

No so far we haven't been given any indication that his family will be troublesome ... in fsct they gell quite well as per Mishti

That ring scene was to depict how Mishti tries extra hard to impress her in laws cox of her fear of heartbreak and how veer understnds her and tries to keep her happy

Originally posted by: chicksoup

Why did Mishti put in that additional clause of keeping his parents happy then? That was never an issue in Mauli's life. Infidelity was the only issue. Even an unhappy parent didn't interfere with her second marriage. Mishti needed to be fearful only of infidelity. That parent angle was put in there for a purpose.

For how long have they known each other? This was their first holi. They are two nice individuals who haven't gone through any crises. Mishaan starts out as a crisis.

Anyway, let us see how this plays out. I strongly feel Mishti uttered that parentwaala dialogue with a purpose to the story.