Originally posted by: butterfly45
Many have preferences that they want a baby girl or boy, depending on what siblings they have. That is not wrong. I wouldn't find it wrong if kartik says I want a baby girl like u naira or naira says I want a boy like u Kartik.
But according to me in Goenka family there r luvkush, who r still young boys. I notice usually if the household had all female children they wish they had a boy child or if all male children at home they wish they had a female. That is a common wishing.
Dadi wish is pathological. She did say I don't want a girl, i need only a boy as heir and for salvation. Who knows with her kind of thinking , in real life when they believe they will have only one child can force abortion or do illegal stuff.
To say she has lack of knowledge is wrong. She was a businesswoman who took care of Goenkas before Manish took over. She has become so blind in her love for male child.
There is no point in defending her. She was always scolding Kirti that girls can't play games, can't dance( also to naira), get back to abusive husband, can't do business etc etc
And kaira have no problem with girl child, how can she go behind their back to do illegal stuff, sex determination is a banned in India. This makes it not even give a thought of her pov.
The last point I would make is , the baby is kaira s and they have more right on it than her
@blue - since this is not shown, I won't assume it .
Yes ! She has said she doesn't want a girl child but she also said that Pandit ji said that if they get to know things on time, they can take steps which can change the gender.
So the scenario is simple currently - she wants to do hawan - puja, and feed Naira with Prasads like babbooti which would change the gender.
This is clearly Lack of knowledge.
If they show that she would say that nothing can happen then I will kill the child, then I can say she is bad but till now I can only see poor knowledge.
@violet - Her differentiation between a boy and a girl was just the ones which we all go through in the hands of our family members. Nothing major !
Coz if it would have been major she wouldn't have sent Maansi all alone to a foreign location to get her education. Her thinking is age old but she isn't very regressive too. They are the ones which can be explained and make her make do with it.
But the point is , did she not love both her grand daughters ?
She scolded Keerthi to take care of Aditya but when she got to know the reality of Aditya, did she allow Keerthi to go back ?
Yes ! She was in a dilemma whether to break the relation or not which for once every elder gets into if they are put into such situation as they try t o think and understand the matter from all angles - society, family and person.
She did send Keerthi for a talk on Aditya's request as she was in a dilemma but did she allow Keerthy to go back, NO !
She has never been against girls business coz it has been shown time and again her younger DIL was an event manager and her elder DIL helped her husband in Business, which they do not show now anymore but when Goenkas were introduced , this is how it was.
She objected to Naira as she felt dance was a demeaning profession (and trust me even now any career out of office is not appreciated much till you don't get a Bumper success in it)
She objected to Keerthi's business immediately as it was her 2nd marriage and she wanted her to strengthen her relations with in-laws before dividing her attention somewhere else.
Edited by abhilasha_dream - 7 years ago
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