|| Prem vs Moh ||

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Kshithi

@Muggle_Diaries

Dazzler

+ 3

Posted: 6 years ago

Hello Friends,

I am about to share something really personal and which is something painful. I may shed few tears too. But this is something which I want to do. Anyways..moving on to the topic.

What is Prem? And What is Moh? Why are they different? How are they different?

If you need an example of Moh in the serial, look at Vrishbhan. What he feels for his daughter is not 'Prem'. It is 'Moh'. Where there is Moh, there is 'ownership', 'possession'. He is slowly caging Radha. He does not want her to fly freely. Today's episode showcased this very well. He is so insecure that he did not like that Radha did not share the sweet with him.

On the other hand 'Prem' sets you free. You only want what is good for the other person. It does not matter if they are with you or not. It is not selfish. It does not possess. There is no scope for petty jealousies.

I was Radha this year. My relationship of 18 years broke few months back. My partner wanted a breakup for his own reasons. Those reasons had nothing to do with me and those were some valid reasons too. It was best for him. But I did not want it. I wanted us to be together. I struggled with this for few days. I did not want to let go of him. I wanted to hold on to this relationship. I wanted us to work through this. I was stubborn to see that this is best for him. In short I was confusing 'Prem' with 'Moh'.

But in the end I decided to let him go. If he is not happy in this relationship, eventually I will be unhappy too. You cannot force someone to be with you. I loved him enough to let this go. I chose his happiness and my happiness over a relationship akin to a cage. I chose happiness over anger and hatred.

Even though it was a painful decision, even though I feel sad for this, even though I feel lonely sometimes, I am at peace. I am happy that he is happy. And I know I will be happy too. I saved our friendship as he is also my best friend even today.

I learnt a lot about love during those few days.

Because of this, I am loving this track. I have experienced both Moh and Prem.

Love

Kshithi

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Madhuri

@Viswasruti

Moderator

+ 29

Posted: 6 years ago

Kshithi , hugging you with all my love !🤗

You've been on a roller coaster ride of emotions.You 've swinged through the incessant swing of letting go and holding on. You're exhausted from the relationship but aren't just ready to throw in the towel and say, "I've had enough." I know , by now you are aware that in any successful, fulfilling and meaningful relationship, it is not just about giving and taking, but about willingly and enthusiastically giving and receiving love and respect in return.Meanwhile, your heart is tired, drained, exhausted and, yet, you still want to go on, to hold on to anything that can give you hope that everything will work out just fine in the end. That is your "Prem" Kshithi. I respect you in this context.❤️ 🤗You feel compelled to hold on because you love him and, somehow, you are hoping he will come around one day ! "You still love him," you can hear your heart saying. "Let him go and move on. Don't hold on anymore to something that is no longer there", your mind says!---"Easier said than done, "-- your reply, I know.😊

At this point, you know that it is better not to follow your heart and instead heed the wisdom of your mind. Sometimes it is better to stick with what you know is the right thing to do than to follow your heart.You feel conflicted. Torn apart by what you feel and what you think is right-- at last, taken a decision and you mukt yourself from that strong desire --Moh , to be with him , and now you are free from all entanglements in that relationship. Love always carries with it some rights as well as a few duties, his moving away from responsibilities because of a few misunderstandings, how far it is correct --I am not in a position to either question or define, because it is highly personal. But I can put my hands around you to hug to soothe your aching heart for a while.🤗

Regarding Moh and Prem of Radha Krishna , will write later . Have to feed my kids dinner . 😊

Edited by Viswasruti - 6 years ago

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proteeti

@sambhavami

Stunner

+ 12

Posted: 6 years ago

Oh, I'm really sorry to hear that and I'm so glad you stayed strong and did the right thing. It must've been so difficult for you, but I'm sure kanha is and will always be with you!

Moh and Prem are so, so similar in nature that most people never realize the difference. Just like Lord Indra and rest of the devas when they tried to use Kamadeva's powers to unite Shiva ji and Gauri maa.

And you're so right, moh holds you back while true love sets you free. We used to sing a hymn back in our school days- Magic Penny.

It's [Love]s] just like a magic penny,
Hold it tight and you won't have any.
Lend it, spend it, and you'll have so many
They'll roll all over the floor.

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Aarti

@TheSilverDoe

Voyager

Posted: 6 years ago

Dear.. I have experienced break up too. Last year. So I understand how it feels.. 😭

All I can say is.. Stay strong and 🤗 hug from me.

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shruthiravi

@shruthiravi

Stunner

+ 2

Posted: 6 years ago

@kshiti I understand. When seven years back when my hubby wanted to pursue his dream it was not easy for me to accept. First we had to be in different places, second he was leaving a secured job and we had committments. I had to bear the burden alone. Like u for some months I struggled to accept it, asked him to check other offers if he is not satisifed with present job. But later understood he wanted to go and I allowed him to go. Looking back the best decision I took. Yes it was a struggle for me in the first couple of years, travel was there. But the best thing was, in the loneliness I reignited my passion for writing.And early this year I happily quit my corporate job to pursue something in which I had interest. I wrote and published a book, now planning to study. Yes letting go is love and I believe it gives the best results. My hubby respects me and supports me in my dream also😃