Is Mauli really so unlovable?

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Posted: 6 years ago
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First of all, if you want to point out that "Unlovable" is not a word, I think you are right but I couldn't think of anything else right now.

In this show, not a single character loves her (Maybe The maid), I don't mean that they do not like her or they don't hold her dear but none loves her unconditionally and in return she loves everyone unconditionally, but everyone has a condition when they love her -
Radhika and Dida - They are supporting Mauli but I don't see them trying decrease her pain, they are the sole reason of what she is going through after she filed for divorce. I guess they love her but their condition is that kunal should be with her at any cost, even if he makes her miserable.

Kunal - I don't know what to say about this man, he has changed from a feminist fighting for women to a man who thinks his wife is stooping low and because of this she lost the respect he had for her. The nerve, he cheats on her, he slept with other woman, he tells Nandini - Hamare apne jo saja denge wo ham lenge. But when Mauli even says a word to his girlfriend he manhandled her.


Nandini - Mauli did everything she could for her, Nandini's husband is trying to burn her but this woman wouldn't realize that Mauli saved her from this very torture. She loves Mauli but her condition is that Mauli is not a man. Nandini will always toss Mauli for a man.

Mauli's family - At first I thought Mauli has spent her life among loved ones but it seems more and more difficult because she tries so hard to be loved and I guess it's because of her mother, she always fought for her mother's love but looks like she never received it, her father and brother are nonexistent.

I just want to understand, what it is that makes Mauli so unlovable?

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Posted: 6 years ago
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interesting question...

first would question whether dida and radhika themselves love mauli. if there is genuine love, one won't play such emotional mind games. that is just cruelty. even they seem to be using mauli...

as for your question, perhaps a different angle to ask is if mauli loves herself. I never related to any of these characters including mauli. many of her actions seemed very strange to me and it felt like deep down, she wasn't confident herself and so went overboard with her affections for nandini or kunal. she seemed like a bit of a people pleaser? generally people pleasers are desperate for affection because they feel a lack in themselves.

the harsh truth is that in everyone's lives, we all have moments where we feel alone and we have to do this fight alone. in that case, how do we go about it? rather than pleasing others, she needs to look at what's important for her. to do that, she has to love herself.
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Posted: 6 years ago
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Because she's self sufficient, i guess people usually like others when they are dependent on them and in some way inferior to them. Here she's perfect by herself.
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Posted: 6 years ago
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I can't say much about her life before marriage because it's not shown much in the show but the way her mother behaves with her I think she developed and inferiority complex which went dormant after her successful career.
She met kunal who made her feel like a princess and his family adored her so she naturally wanted to reciprocate their love. And that's when she got attached.
And someone like mauli has a personality that if she gets attached to someone she will do everything she can to make them happy. It will never be about what she wants but about what everyone wants and she will be genuinely happy with that decision. Her happiness will always be with the happiness of the people she loves. Their needs will always be above her own.
As we see in the serial mauli gives chances to people even if quite frankly they don't deserve it. And it makes her seem like a pushover. But she is OK with it. Because they are in her life and that's all she has ever wanted. To be surrounded with people who she loves. And even if they screw her over she will still be there for them (her mother, Dida) because that's who she is. A giver, never a taker. Call her a pushover or people pleaser or under confident, that's her nature.
And to answer your question no she is not unlovable. She is the type of person who deserves love the most, but sadly she is also the type of person who gets used the most.
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Posted: 6 years ago
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Mauli kind of reminds me of Monica certain times. And Monica had Chandler who brought stability in her just like she brought it in his life.
Both had horrible parents especially mother. Both were dedicated to their friends even though she would get angry at times over many things but she would be by their side when they needed her the most.
Only difference is Chandler loved Monica more than she loved him in her own sweet way while Mauli loved Kunal more than he loved her. Chandler loved pampering Monica while here Mauli loved pampering Kunal.
Monica took time to get in and out of relationships with Richard and Pete, that's the case with Mauli too on some level.

But Monica was not surrounded by toxic people while Mauli is. Monica had friends who would support her decision and stand by her side while Mauli doesn't have that unconditional support from anyone around her.
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Posted: 6 years ago
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She's just extremely independent and men like their egos to be stroked constantly...

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Posted: 6 years ago
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as far as dida and radhika is concerned they love her. they genuinely love her but there love for their son and their kids togetherness is making them do all this. i know this is not right.
mauli is suffering right now. earlier she had some hopes so she gave in to dida's demands.. deep down she herself wanted to give it a try. but now the situation is ugly. and dida radhika are not thinking rationally . they are stupid people but not bad.. i feel radhika definitely love mauli more than she love their togetherness. cant say the same about dida though..


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Posted: 6 years ago
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Leave mauli aside. Plz someone tell me? Who is kunal? Is he remotely even likable.
He has all the traits of a sexual predators who preys on vulnerable woman.
What nandini n mauli even saw in him?
Itne din ka pyar, itne sal ka rishta aise kaise koi bhula sakta hai?
Kaise?
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Posted: 6 years ago
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some people are lovable but they do not get true love in return. Sad truth for some people in this world
they do too much for others, stand by them & support them that people take it for granted and do not respect it.

I am hoping mauli's baby will give her the true love she deserves

Btw i think mauli should get a dog 😳who will love her no matter what😆
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Posted: 6 years ago
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Originally posted by: naq5

some people are lovable but they do not get true love in return. Sad truth for some people in this world

they do too much for others, stand by them & support them that people take it for granted and do not respect it.

I am hoping mauli's baby will give her the true love she deserves

Btw i think mauli should get a dog 😳who will love her no matter what😆


True. 😆

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