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Hi everyone,
Been sometime since I visited the forum.Been watching 3-4 eppys at a stretch in fast forward mode for sometime now...However,Wednesday's and Thursday's eppy reminded me of a line of thought I had posted sometime back..
Sameer's entry into Naina's life changed her relationship equations with the people she loves forever.This post is intended to bring the changes in her relationship equations from a purely logical perspective.
1)Naina is person who seeks approval from people
2)In this process of getting approval she always puts the other person and his/her demands first.
3) Once she gets their approval and is confident of not losing it,she starts putting her needs ahead of theirs ,esp in issues where Sameer is involved.(This nature starts only after Sameer enters her life.She is not like this earlier).In this process she inadvertently hurts people.
4) If the other person(whom she hurts) threatens to withdraw approval or transfers any negative consequence to her,Naina again goes into "You first,me second"mode and apologizes profusely and sets the relationship right.
5)If the other person meekly submits and does not transfer the pain or the negative consequence of Naina's action back to her,Naina continues in "Me first" mode.
Point 4 and 5 are very important.Point 4 describes her relationship with Swati and point 5 describes her relationship with Sameer.
Naina Swati:
When Naina gets comfortable with Swati, Naina starts putting herself first. Naina sees to it that Swati is punished so that she can get the coveted role with Sameer in the play in school. In the election too,Naina both puts forward and withdraws Swati's name without asking her consent.She does this because "she does not even think that Swati will be hurt by her actions."This is where my third point starts working. "Once she gets their approval and is confident of not losing it,she starts putting her needs and priorities ahead of theirs".
With Swati the relationship moves from stage 3 to stage 4:When Swati is hurt,she shows it.When Naina tried to take away her lead role,Swati made it clear to her that it was not done.Similarly I had predicted that Naina will suffer some consequence of neglecting Swati during the election.This happened yesterday with Swati stealing the votes...As I said,when Swati is hurt she shows it and hurts Naina back..The negative consequence of Naina's actions are transferred back to her...
My guess is that after this both Swati and Naina feel guilty,stay aloof for sometime and then later apologize to each other and make up..This explains the guilt in Naina's voiceover when she says that she feels bad for neglecting Swati during this period.Since Sameer never transfers the negative consequence of Naina's actions back to her,Naina never apologizes to Sameer. Relationship with Sameer therefore moves from stage 3 to stage 5 always.
My conclusion(copied from the earlier post)
I believe that these two inherent traits of Naina -constantly seeking approval and putting her needs before others in relationships where Sameer plays an indirect role will be her bane in the long run.(If she continues this way,she is sure to lose friends.)
This is where I think her GS thing will be a huge blessing.A GS post gives her open and legitimate approval.She no longer has to strive for approval.Secondly,as GS she is more powerful(a first in her life).It is important that she uses this power to develop empathy and sensitivity towards the feelings and pain of others.If she does,over a period of time her nature of putting herself first always will also change.This is Naina's chance to develop into a mature and well balanced person .It is upto Naina to use her chance wisely
Here is the link to the original(rather lengthy) post.
https://www.india-forums.com/forum_posts.asp?TID=5024203
PS:Have updated my post based on Aswathy's observations that the changes in Naina's behaviour occured only after Sameer's entry.Thanks for pointing that out😊
