Can you help me guys?

Aloo_gobi thumbnail
20th Anniversary Thumbnail Explorer Thumbnail
Posted: 17 years ago
#1

Hi guys,

i sometimes feel these serials reflect some parts of our 'real life'. I am going through some issues, which i am hoping you guys could advise me on. i'll try and keep it short as possible.

i used to work with a friend, and we were so close, used to do everything together - lunches, go home together, regular emails chats, talk on phone when we got home etc... i went through a bad patch at work and she supported me immensly and it did result me in leaving.

once i left, things seemed to become stronger with us...then all of a sudden she made a new friend at work, stopped keeping in contact with me as much...she was always busy with work whilst i was job hunting, i tried to keep the relationship the same as when we worked together... now whenever i meet her, i feel this uncomfortableness, this other friend of hers whom she is close to and i am not that much, is always there - she seems to think it always has to be the 3 of us....when i would just rather catch up with her only as i don't see her enough...

now she responds to my texts hours or days later ... i want to hug her so tight when i see her, but i just can't - before, we were so open and honest and would do anything for each other... but i still love her sooo much, she is my sister...my jaan and she knows this ...

our personalities are somewhat different - i am more expressive and she is not, i think i have helped her in opening up as she never trusted anyone before... i was always happy and she was always stressed and i would try and always make her happy which i think i did for a while...

now things are not the same, i feel awkward and uncomfortable... can two friends drift whom were so close yet still love each other soo much... i don't want to lose her, i need her in my life... i try to talk to her about our friendship, but never seem to get it across...

i don't know if its all in my head or are we changing... she never tells me what i mean to her...i never needed to know before as i knew my worth in her life, now i don't - i feel this other friend of hers always interferes, i can't seem to talk to her for 5mins without him butting in...

what shall i do .... sorry i tried to keep it short !

i am confused and i really don't want to lose such an important relation in my life...

thanks

aloo gobi.

Created

Last reply

Replies

2

Views

578

Users

3

Frequent Posters

Little Foot thumbnail
18th Anniversary Thumbnail Rocker Thumbnail + 4
Posted: 17 years ago
#2
hi
i had the same problem....but well it was in school. had a best friend and when i came back after my vacation everything changed...

now to you....i think you should let her a little time. not running after her and so on. i know it's hard but she will realize that she also needs you. maybe you can try to talk to the friend of hers. if this friend is most of the time with her it's difficult to spend time with her alone. i donno for how long these things are going on now...but reading your post it seems like you were really so close. after some time she'll realize what great time she had....

dont think that i could help you a lot 😳 ...
i hope for the best...
i know how much it hurts to lose a very very close friend...
manshi_singh thumbnail
19th Anniversary Thumbnail Dazzler Thumbnail Engager Level 1 Thumbnail
Posted: 17 years ago
#3
Topic is posted twice so I will merge this into the other one 😊



~*Topi c Closed*~

Related Topics

Top

Stay Connected with IndiaForums!

Be the first to know about the latest news, updates, and exclusive content.

Add to Home Screen!

Install this web app on your iPhone for the best experience. It's easy, just tap and then "Add to Home Screen".