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Dragonfly88

@Dragonfly88

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Posted: 7 years ago

I was super pissed after yesterday's episode to even come to the forum 😆 but then I woke up this morning and tried to understand the episode from a different angle.

I remember talking about this with Subha in my earlier thread. Aditya comes from a broken family. He was quite young when Harsh had left them temporarily for another family. He found comfort in Pooja back then and understood it as love because his life was lacking love. A broken family kid always craves for love and attention and Adi got that from sakshi and pooja. But his illusion broke when he found out his own family, marriage was broken as well. So to me at this point, it looks like Aditya has never felt love for someone so strongly in his life. We learn to love in the very beginning from our family and then we grow up and make friends and pass on that love and care. But Aditya never really learnt it from his family and straight landed with Pooja.

Coming to this manjnu avatar of Aditya, I think it's all coming from his root fear. Why would someone be this obsessed about his love? The fear of being alone again in his life has landed him here. He has realized after Pooja died he never was really alone because of Zoya. In his hate also, zoya was infront of his face as distraction. Back then he didn't have his family so it was only Zoya. Aditya is slowly turning insane because the thought of being alone again has put a dent in his thinking abilities. Which is why I am scared that he might actually go till end of life, like he told harsh today I will fight till my last breathe.

Now Zoya, she use to have a fairytale life which her father gave her since childhood. Then she met her prince charming according to her and married him who continued to keep her in that fairytale land. But then that illusion broke and pushed her into reality. Aditya showed her the real world and the people in it who can be evil sometimes like mahi. She was so far damaged due to yash's betrayal that she doesn't have it in her to love again. The aditya she is looking at now reminds her of old Zoya who use to be this mad behind yash. Zoya too was this adamant back then about her love. Even after multiple signs she did not believe yash was a cheater. She is seeing the similar kind of love in Aditya's eyes but she is scared it will turn into a lie again like her and yash's had. At this point, the way arshad supported her last night I have no hope that zoya will back out. Even if she wants to, her gulity conscious towards Arshad won't let her. As much I would hate it, I think Arshad will back out. Zoya will not have it in her to back out after going so far.

The precap only reminded me of rock and roll dance where Adi had become a different person that night after listening to his father. He had danced to manipulate back then too.

I think he needs another thapad like the riot night at the office and remember how then he had completely calmed down 😆 Sorry I am just at the brim of losing it with these two stubborn idiots.

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Looneygirl

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Posted: 7 years ago

Adhira, well analyses again. I haven't seen the episode yet. It's on at 1 a.m Singapore time and I'm a bit put offf with this late timing as I won't be able to keep up with the written updates as well. Gosh!! Why is this turning out to be a drag fest? 😕 . Is Aditya still breathing down zoya's neck(in a bad way 😆 not the romantic way). Still in her face ah? I myself feel like kicking him...so he's back to zoya's place? The precap showed him forlornly sitting outside while mehendi was on! 😕 . But I can say, I can understand his actions (though I don't like it). Hasn't he been this way from the beginning?hounding her and yelling at her, till she accepted her husband had cheated? So I'm not surprised that he's the same way again but it's becoming tedious for us to see him this mad!!! Is zoya anywhere near accepatance ? Not even a glimmer? I too hate that that lambu will be mahaan!!! 😡 . Somehow I'll feel that her love for adi is not as Bepannah as adi's for her! . I don't think I'll like it even a wee bit. He's mad I guess but we know for sure how encompassing and how extreme his love is. Alright, one more doubt - I read somewhere on twitter that the marriage (Arshad and zoya) is going to be registered tomorrow? what the heck!!! Is this true? I'm very scared that our stupid lover boy will manipulate things in such a way with his papa that it will end up as his name being registered with zoya and then the dhoka of zoya phir se shuru hogi... 😡 I know this is very far fetbched but now with everyone mad I'm also thinking of this like EK mata would do!!! 😆 . Please clear this for me if you can...

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Dragonfly88

@Dragonfly88

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: Looneygirl
Adhira, well analyses again. I haven't seen the episode yet. It's on at 1 a.m Singapore time and I'm a bit put offf with this late timing as I won't be able to keep up with the written updates as well. Gosh!! Why is this turning out to be a drag fest? 😕 . Is Aditya still breathing down zoya's neck(in a bad way 😆 not the romantic way). Still in her face ah? I myself feel like kicking him...so he's back to zoya's place? The precap showed him forlornly sitting outside while mehendi was on! 😕 . But I can say, I can understand his actions (though I don't like it). Hasn't he been this way from the beginning?hounding her and yelling at her, till she accepted her husband had cheated? So I'm not surprised that he's the same way again but it's becoming tedious for us to see him this mad!!! Is zoya anywhere near accepatance ? Not even a glimmer? I too hate that that lambu will be mahaan!!! 😡 . Somehow I'll feel that her love for adi is not as Bepannah as adi's for her! . I don't think I'll like it even a wee bit. He's mad I guess but we know for sure how encompassing and how extreme his love is. Alright, one more doubt - I read somewhere on twitter that the marriage (Arshad and zoya) is going to be registered tomorrow? what the heck!!! Is this true? I'm very scared that our stupid lover boy will manipulate things in such a way with his papa that it will end up as his name being registered with zoya and then the dhoka of zoya phir se shuru hogi... 😡 I know this is very far fetbched but now with everyone mad I'm also thinking of this like EK mata would do!!! 😆 . Please clear this for me if you can...

Haha honestly you can give the episode a miss. Except for zoya's mehendi scene it was a filler episode. Adi wasn't breathing down her neck last night but he is planning to tonight, he told his parents he is not giving up on her. Somewhere his actions speak pooja's words from the diary. He feels he is incapable of giving love so he is giving too much of it right now. Someone needs to sit him down and explain that he lost pooja not because of his love but because of his childishness. Aditya and zoya were faking/pretending to have maved on post leap. They are still stuck in the preleap phase and are getting affected by poosh's words.

Lol no they were planning for a registered marriage because they were scared Adi might do something but Arshad's mom said she wants a grand wedding for her son and arshad said he trusts zoya so no need for registered marriage. I have also kept it at the back of my head that Harsh might just do something stupid to get zoya for adi 😆 at this point I am not goint to expect anything sane from this show.

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Isha

@tereliyex

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Posted: 7 years ago

I wholeheartedly agree with your post.
I come from a broken family as well, similar situation as Adi's so I found myself connecting a lot to his character in the initial episodes. The distrust in his father, the disappointment in his mother all felt too real. Even when he clung into Anjana after realizing Sakshi knew about the affair, I understood because coming from a vulnerable point you have no one to call your own and when you lose someone you had faith in you cling onto the nearest support, in Adi's case, his parents. People gave him a lot of hate for swinging back and forth from hating/liking his parents but that's so damn realistic! His parents never built a connection during his formative years how can anyone expect him to genuinely trust/support/take their advice?

As for love, coming from a broken family, you start to lose faith in love, in marriage and what not. So magically if you do meet someone, someone who even gives you the least bit of attention it seems too good to be true. That person is worshipped. In Adi's case it is Zoya. Zoya is everything he's wanted his whole life: a friend, a companion, a guardian, a confidante, a therapist, a love that was pure.

I have said this a million times before, Adi is a flawed character, I hate the way he does things but truth is with Adi's background on love & relationships: what were we really expecting? A magical fairytale in which he's a devta that does no wrong? Adi has only seen failure in every relationship he pursued. Hence, he is obsessed with righting this one relation. He is by no means doing it the right way. But that is for him to figure out, not for us to sit here and judge. :)

P.S. sorry I got sooo into my own personal life, I just relate a bit too well to Adi's personal life hence I find myself apt to talk about things from his perspective 😆

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Looneygirl

@Looneygirl

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: -Ishana-
I wholeheartedly agree with your post.
I come from a broken family as well, similar situation as Adi's so I found myself connecting a lot to his character in the initial episodes. The distrust in his father, the disappointment in his mother all felt too real. Even when he clung into Anjana after realizing Sakshi knew about the affair, I understood because coming from a vulnerable point you have no one to call your own and when you lose someone you had faith in you cling onto the nearest support, in Adi's case, his parents. People gave him a lot of hate for swinging back and forth from hating/liking his parents but that's so damn realistic! His parents never built a connection during his formative years how can anyone expect him to genuinely trust/support/take their advice?

As for love, coming from a broken family, you start to lose faith in love, in marriage and what not. So magically if you do meet someone, someone who even gives you the least bit of attention it seems too good to be true. That person is worshipped. In Adi's case it is Zoya. Zoya is everything he's wanted his whole life: a friend, a companion, a guardian, a confidante, a therapist, a love that was pure.

I have said this a million times before, Adi is a flawed character, I hate the way he does things but truth is with Adi's background on love & relationships: what were we really expecting? A magical fairytale in which he's a devta that does no wrong? Adi has only seen failure in every relationship he pursued. Hence, he is obsessed with righting this one relation. He is by no means doing it the right way. But that is for him to figure out, not for us to sit here and judge. :)

P.S. sorry I got sooo into my own personal life, I just relate a bit too well to Adi's personal life hence I find myself apt to talk about things from his perspective 😆

Ishana, so loved what you've written and to put out your own story and making me understand - 🤗 I used to be be quick to judge and everything was black and white for me but after 15 years of marriage and two children, I'm not so quick to judge and I can understand and appreciate the grey equally. I do emphathize with adi with al his idiotic and crazy ways even before you wrote this but it makes me Want to understand him more and judge him less. It's true about that old saying - put yourself in the other's shoes to really understand what they're going through. Whatever's said and done it can't be refuted that bepannaah is a cut above the usual daily soaps and I'm glad I chanced upon it by accident and I'm here for the long haul and it's given us Jennifer and Harshad and I've become so attached to them 😆 the characters they portray as well as the people they are.

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@Amru4krish

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Posted: 7 years ago

Brilliant adhira ... Agree with every point of yours... Am equally pissed off seeing the episode... Precap is only the only best thing in yesterdays episode...don't know what's wrong with the story line... Cvs have lost... Hope we get back the lost charm of bepannaah ASAP .. Before ppl loose interest totally.. ... That too at 10.30...omg... Cvs please don't spoil the story line further... Arshad bhai jaldi ja adiya ke life se Bahar meharbhani karke

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Dragonfly88

@Dragonfly88

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: -Ishana-
I wholeheartedly agree with your post.
I come from a broken family as well, similar situation as Adi's so I found myself connecting a lot to his character in the initial episodes. The distrust in his father, the disappointment in his mother all felt too real. Even when he clung into Anjana after realizing Sakshi knew about the affair, I understood because coming from a vulnerable point you have no one to call your own and when you lose someone you had faith in you cling onto the nearest support, in Adi's case, his parents. People gave him a lot of hate for swinging back and forth from hating/liking his parents but that's so damn realistic! His parents never built a connection during his formative years how can anyone expect him to genuinely trust/support/take their advice?

As for love, coming from a broken family, you start to lose faith in love, in marriage and what not. So magically if you do meet someone, someone who even gives you the least bit of attention it seems too good to be true. That person is worshipped. In Adi's case it is Zoya. Zoya is everything he's wanted his whole life: a friend, a companion, a guardian, a confidante, a therapist, a love that was pure.

I have said this a million times before, Adi is a flawed character, I hate the way he does things but truth is with Adi's background on love & relationships: what were we really expecting? A magical fairytale in which he's a devta that does no wrong? Adi has only seen failure in every relationship he pursued. Hence, he is obsessed with righting this one relation. He is by no means doing it the right way. But that is for him to figure out, not for us to sit here and judge. :)

P.S. sorry I got sooo into my own personal life, I just relate a bit too well to Adi's personal life hence I find myself apt to talk about things from his perspective 😆

Wow Ishana never knew, thank you for sharing your personal story 🤗 exactly ishana, I had said before in the previous post that for Aditya it is very easy to detach himself from his family because of this reason. He doesn't have enough moments with them to cling onto them. Everytime he has to chose between his family and others he choses others because the value of family was not given to him at a younger age.

What Aditya is doing is completely bonkers and I don't want to support him in anyway because it is going towards self-destruction. In his desperation to get atleast one relationship right in his life, he is moving towards dark territory. I was just trying to understand his actions behind all this that's all 😆

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Dragonfly88

@Dragonfly88

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: Amru4krish
Brilliant adhira ... Agree with every point of yours... Am equally pissed off seeing the episode... Precap is only the only best thing in yesterdays episode...don't know what's wrong with the story line... Cvs have lost... Hope we get back the lost charm of bepannaah ASAP .. Before ppl loose interest totally.. ... That too at 10.30...omg... Cvs please don't spoil the story line further... Arshad bhai jaldi ja adiya ke life se Bahar meharbhani karke

I think I am pissed off more with the pace as compared to the story itself. Yes it's annoying to see adi doing all this stupid things but I wish they show it with a little faster pace. It's just dragging a bit now.

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Krithika ravichandran

@Kiruravi

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Posted: 7 years ago

What you made is a very valid justifiable point👏. I completely agree with you. All the tragedies which has happened in his life is making him crazy now for zoya. Broken family & pooja' s diary are important rsns fr his actions. The baseline for all his actions is just one thing which is he should not loose zoya and should stop her from taking wrong decision. This is what contiously going in his mind and on top of that only 6 days remaining which i would say is the major reason for his behaviour.

If the time period is more iam sure adi would hav handled everything well. Earlier he said tht he will fight untill she says qubool hai now it became till his last breath. That much love he has for zoya :(. Right now iam feeling bad for adi too. Beacuse right now he has no support frm any side. If someone gives him very valuable piece of advise he would surely think right nd take right route. But person who knws both adi nd zoya well oly can give tht advise but no one knws zoya better than adi. Somebdy should remind him abt the trust thing to him.

I wrote this in another post will write it here also, what i feel is to adi, zoya's acceptance of her feelings+stoping her mrg decision is one thing. He thinks tht if he makes her to accept her love she will automatically call off the wedding which is true.

But he should really see those 2 things as seperate. He should make stoping her frm taking wrong decision as his priority rather than making her realize her love. To do this he should again become her friend. Right now eventhough zoya is brkn with adi if he behaves as her frend surely her stubborness will brk. She can be stubborn with lover adi but not with her friend adi.

Arshad he plainly believes zoya for which he is going to get his prize soon. Plzz dnt say tht arshad will back out :(( tht line brkes me inside. It should be zoya only. I still believe tht something major will happen tht will brk all her stubborness nd will make her 2 accept adi wholeheartedly. I dnt want mahaan arshad.

If adiya mrg happens without her consent nd acceptance of her love then nobody can save bp. Zoya wil never forgive him nd again it goes 2 square 1 . She wil hate him nd eventually accept her love like all other itv FL. I dont want this too happen.

adi wil not back off. cvs are taking difficult route. if adi backs off it would be really simple so he will not. cvs will make this even more complicated nd will torture hs more.He is not gonna kidanp her if so then haldi wouldhav not happened. So he wil take her to somwhere nd something imptnt wil happen there. After 2day's & tmw's episode we can atleast predict something i guess.

I hope coming episodes will be good nd watchable.😳

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lalithaaa

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Posted: 7 years ago

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adira very well interpreted. ater this dance hw is going yo get some demening lecture from waseem. arshad ammi is going yo play major role. cvs better show zoya's feeling in a strong way. i read colors spoiler adi is going to kidnap zoya. idk what's going to happen. iam really confused now. how will they put an end to this drama. with out confession if marriage gonna happen thats the worst for me.

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