I need help

Hi! all,

I would be most greatful if you guys give me good n very useful suggestion to solve my problem.

i lives in Hong Kong. me and my husband working here. we have a 10 yrs old son. he is studying in Nepal with my parents. since 3 years he steel (thief) money from home and distribute to his friends in school. We are all very worried about his future. we tried to make him understand not to do this n this is a bad habit. the time we suggest he says ok. later on he forget. He don't speak much. I am very worried in future this habit would may make him 😡.... so, i tried to bring him to Hong Kong but my parents says "you 2 have go to work. if mother stay home to take care for son, one person income is not enough for 3 guys n school fee etc. and many problems. so, better keep him here, we will put him bording house. where he may stop his habit." What should i do? any tips to make him good boy. please be advise

steel lol 😆 CORRECTION STEAL 😈 by the way.. i think i know where this has started.. and i'll have to say! that you both are his parents and he needs his parents!!! to raised him. his parents to always be present in his outdoor activities. 8 years from now, he'll be leaving home ^^ raise his own family and have a bright future. But for now.. your son is your job

well i agree with IceFire. a child needs his parents the most... i suggest u to bring him back to hongkong..
idk what the law in hongkong is, but here a child under 12 cant be left alone.. if u dont have any such law there then u don't have to quit ur job.. u can get a part time job or get someone to take care of him when hes alone...
in my opinion, boarding school is not a good idea.. i have heard its rly strict n stuff but ur son will be there away from everyone... i don't think he will like it too much.. which will only make him worse..

Originally posted by: -Pinky-

well i agree with IceFire. a child needs his parents the most... i suggest u to bring him back to hongkong..
idk what the law in hongkong is, but here a child under 12 cant be left alone.. if u dont have any such law there then u don't have to quit ur job.. u can get a part time job or get someone to take care of him when hes alone...
in my opinion, boarding school is not a good idea.. i have heard its rly strict n stuff but ur son will be there away from everyone... i don't think he will like it too much.. which will only make him worse..

thank you! now! everything has been pretty much said! xx

Thanks a lot dear icefire and pinky, 4 ur kind suggestions. I agree to bring him back to Hong Kong. here, in Hong Kong, even 2 month child can be leave with maid or other leagal guardian. both parents can work. i stongly agree with u guys to bring him back.

if i bring him back, any tips to control his bad habit. i don't want to give him much money for his personnel expense.if i give less money than he maybe continue his bad habit(steal). if i give much money than he may smoke or buy drugs in future. here in Hong Kong most of child have bad habit. we love him, i don't want him feel depretion. Thanks a lot once again.

you're the mother for goodness! you need to teach him a lesson. DESCIPLINE HIM ^^ BE FAIR AND SQUARE. that way he'll behave and actually learn that life isn't all that and that sometimes things can't always go the way he wants it. LIFE DOES NOT REVOLVE AROUND HIM!

Yes bring him back definitely.

You first have to sit down and get to the bottom of this problem - as to why he is stealingand giving this money to his friends.

Maybe there are other reasons behind this - he may be getting bullied and forced to steal money and give it to these people. There are all sorts of reasons to whyt he may steal.

First get to the root of the problem.

If you are making him understand that it is bad, tell him the concequences of his action. That ifhe takes money it is stealing and when older you can be arresed by the police.

The key is to make him know that it is a crime to steal from anyone.

To stop this habut- monitor his expenses. Give him Less money to start of with and if he is good youcan reward him andgive him more. When he is bad take the money away to make him learn that he can not be bad - you ae not depriving him, just making him know what is right and wrong 😳 .

well i thn u better consult a counceller...i thnk dat wud b bst 4 him...cuz hez srsly young now 4 nethn

Originally posted by: jessypurna

Thanks a lot dear icefire and pinky, 4 ur kind suggestions. I agree to bring him back to Hong Kong. here, in Hong Kong, even 2 month child can be leave with maid or other leagal guardian. both parents can work. i stongly agree with u guys to bring him back.

if i bring him back, any tips to control his bad habit. i don't want to give him much money for his personnel expense.if i give less money than he maybe continue his bad habit(steal). if i give much money than he may smoke or buy drugs in future. here in Hong Kong most of child have bad habit. we love him, i don't want him feel depretion. Thanks a lot once again.

well first of all, u have to have a serious talk with him... find out what he does with the money that he steals.. he woudn't just steal money to buy a candy or something u know... he cud just ask u for that.. there must be some other reason..
n u don't have to give him too much money.. hes only 10 yrs old.. he doesn't need alot of it.. heck i didn't get a penny when i was 10 😆 😆 just give him enough to buy food n stuff... n tell him that if he wants more he could just ask u n u will buy whatever he needs.. but don't hand that extra money to him..
hope that helps