Dilemma when girls go after old men

I want to share something personal here. Ok so I'm a child from my 62 yr old Dad's 2nd marriage. He divorced his first wife because she had mental issues and plus he was under the influence of his elder brother and the uncle's kids who wanted all the money and property for themselves.

You can gather they weren't happy with us either and gave us hell but that's a story for another day.

But for the purposes of this particular dilemma, like I said my Dad is 62 and very handsome. He's not tall, like 5 7-8 ish, but was an athlete in college and that build still is there, very nice features. When I visited my nani ke village recently, some of the ladies inquired about him and reminisced that he looked like a gudda, doll, on his wedding day, so handsome he was. So even though he has a little paunch, more on days when he has gas troubles which is most of the times btw. But he always dressed well and cleans up nicely with his turban and all. He's always been very obsessed with his looks, spends 2 hours in front of the mirror every single day pulling out every small hair from his beard which may be out of place. Gets the beard trimmed regularly at the saloon.

So that's the description of my Dad.

My Mum is a beautiful lady too with nice features but she's also crazy. And she's a hypochondriac too and doesn't really care for her looks. Yes so both my Dad's wives are crazy. In fact my Dad used to avoid coming home when we were little just to avoid my Mother.

My brother is like very very handsome, he's 6 2 and looks a bit like Siddharth Malhotra but much better features.

I'm the youngest at 16, average looking so far.

But I'm an empath so I can read people and situations pretty quickly. I'm like really sensitive to that sort of thing. My friends in the US said the same. I studied for 2 years in the US and you know there girls and boys are really promiscuous. They start having sex at 12. Somehow I kept my virginity intact so far as I never fitted in the general milieu. But I recall this girl who was my friend there and she, me and another guy were in the same lift once. And I could just sense the sexual tensions in the air. It felt like they wanted to tear off each others' clothes and do it right there. And later came to know that they were going out together.

I've many more such examples. Like I could feel a sense of loss when I came to see off a friend who was leaving the city. I mean I felt such a longing for his house even though it had nothing to do with me. Of course he was the one who was sad at leaving. Trust me, those were not my feelings because he wasn't my close friend or anything just a passing acquaintance.

So that's the Background to my story.

Here goes. So once when my brother father and me were going to Badrinath. There on one of the treks, there were a lot of older ladies riding on those palki like things. And they were all lusting for my dad. And it was so obvious to me because me and my brother were out on a trek alone because Dad was feeling tired. And they all individually enquired after my Dad who they had earlier noticed walking with us, when their husbands were walking far behind. Ladies from all over India-Andhra, TN, PB, Delhi. 10-12 of them.

I could feel it, see when my Dad wasn't even there.

Another time-we rented out our property to a college as a hostel once. And all the girls used to gather around my Dad bringing up some request or the other to use his influence with the college as the property owner and try to thrust their phone nos. on him. He acceded to some of them but mostly listened as a group request you know. But he did enjoy the attention. I mean who wouldn't?

So the last straw was yesterday. I went with my dad to another city for some work. For those purposes we met a girl who was probably in her 20s and all of a sudden I can smell this lusty feeling.

And this girl too tried to give my dad her number on some excuse. My dad as always loved the attention and was having his own Mungerilal ke sapne you know like girls dream some things when watching silly indian tv shows. But I could feel the lust from her side for a fact. Honestly, I can feel things. I'm super sensitive.

And my Dad cleans up really nicely. I made him stop colouring his beard on some excuse by throwing tantrums and with his trimmed white beard he gets more attention than ever. Not when he's in his pyjamas lol but when dressed up it's so embarrassing when teens react like that. They always start flirting with him and he also enjoys making as he thinks smart and witty quips which are not very witty at all btw but he's got like a captive audience you know. Even when my mother is there. Not when bro is there though because then he gets all the attention.

I want to know-how should one react in such a scenario? Like yesterday I blew my top a little bit and was thinking all kinds of things. I gave my Dad a slightly hard time by saying why he doesn't call girls my bro's and mine age beti and some such things without being all obvious at least I hope so.

But I don't want to have to parent my father like this. But I also don't want a half or step sibling at this age. Should I just ignore these situations?

I sometimes think maybe my dad had some affairs when we were growing up since my mother was the way she is. And I'm ok with that too.

But now is too much. Esp when teens and 20 or 30 something girls do this. I kid him about the older ladies asking about him but with the younger ones it's too embarrassing and upsetting on so many levels. How're they like so attracted to a 62 yr old like animal attraction though my Dad can easily pass for a 50 yr old you know and most of the times lies that he's 50 only. Lol.

Am I being jealous of the potential of someone else becoming more important for my Dad? Like even if the girls call him for some reason, maybe just advice? I mean we're close now and he gives me plenty of time. So I shouldn't worry about that, right?

But I honestly worry. I want my Dad to be happy but what if he does have an affair and starts something but I don't want any more siblings. I've a half sister from Dad's first marriage already. She's married and she too was really evil to us and she hates Dad because she thinks it's because of us that he abandoned her Mum even though their arranged marriage happened 10 yrs after. She was officially adopted by Dad's brother and they treated her badly but she's got a case of Stockholm Syndrome and loves them.

See, we didn't have the best childhood growing up with a crazy mother who gave us a really hard time and a mostly absent father who was more interested in his own looks and shirking responsibility. But we've come this far and things are a little better since we separated from my Uncles' family. Batwara you know.

If anyone read this far, please tell me guys what do you think? When he starts flirting with his so-called smart quips with receptionists and all, and I keep telling him what's the need for that. Why not just get our work done and leave? These situations are very difficult for me. I'm happy that he's so fit and healthy but what to do?

So I read this weird message in the vernacular but typed in English ostensibly by my dad about loving the feeling she gives and wanting to experience that feeling again. That why she wasn't taking the messages...something along those lines.

That day I blew my top and was so upset. I had a huge row and asked Dad what was this shameless behaviour. And he said that someone else was using his number. Not much of an excuse..something like that... But see, he was so afraid that one of the other family should know.

So I didn't tell anyone but I was mad and asked him to end whatever it was though he never accepted it.

Since that day I grew really suspicious I suppose though I was always embarrassed by the wanton attention he received.

I wish I could just run away to the forest or some strange land and change my name and identity and never have to deal with family again. There are just so many expectations and disappointments with family/relatives...You have to live with their ideas of you. It's so binding.

But am I wrong or greedy to not want to have to share my inheritance?

I love village people. If you read carefully, I said a particular kind of village people not all of them. No need to take things personally when it's not even talking about you.

Yes I've decided to let go. I guess really needed to.

Yes that's true. Like with older men what we usually see in films is that they're not so moody and are a bit more clear on what they want from life. For eg they've achieved a career and things so they're more loyal and will be less likely to cheat or stray in a relationship. That's why they're also more "generous" I guess because with them it's like they're in for the long term.

But I just meant in my example, it's not like the girl even knew about the financial status. I think maybe it's pheromones or something. Maybe some people release more than others. Anyway who knows.

Yes people with different preferences make different choices in this world and take new paths for karmic repercussions.