Kaleerein Special: #CHANGE ME Not (edited)

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Sheen97

@sheen97

Dazzler

+ 3

Posted: 7 years ago

Happy sunday everyone

So every sunday forum is so dull thought of increasing forum activity

Kaleerein means diff to diff people

For me it brought forward a topic for which i used to fight with my mind

First of all i would really like to appreciate this ph for presenting kaleerein to us i have strong feeling that coming time kaleerein will surely do wonders

So guys i just have a simple questions . Are topics which create hype are important and should do wonders eg: triple talaq and ISA

But what about things which are so engraved in our mindset that it doesnt receive importance

Kaleerein is not just a love story . It is quest of girl to maintain her individuality

We girls are always expected to change

As i m 21 , and my brother of marriage able age so this topic always arise that a girl has to adjust , a girl after marriage must give preference to inlaws

You will have to change your certain habits ,etc etc

And i always think i should i

Why not this thing is applicable to both partners

Why i it is expected from me to make inlaws my parents then why not from. Guys to accept his laws and parents

Kaleerein is a story of every girl out there .

So i would like to ask every girl in this forum married or unmarried who has faced something similar in her life

Who once thought that why should she change , who expected not to change but had too and your struggles to resist change

Married girls especially

PLZ Silent members i would really appreciate if u will also comment bcz this need to be addressed

PS: Thought of making this post as celebration for 100.episode

I might not be gud in writing but was just thinking of making these type of appreciation posts for kaleerein

Do tell should i or not

Note: I really feel people not watching kaleerein are missing beautiful love story

Bcz you will watch many love story but you might never get to feel that love story

Bcz this is not just love story. This is journey of two peoplep

their struggles their bond how they overcome their perceptions how they accept others flaws how they fall in love with each others flaw how they bring out worst in each other yet never leave each other's side

This is what need to be appreciated Bcz meevan my dear is your real life couple

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May

@The_May_Rose

Stunner

+ 5

Posted: 7 years ago

Do not change. It not always easy and their will be times when you feel a lot of pressure but in the long term you will be happier for it.

I believe in equality for men and women and they should both be appreciate for their qualities. If there is respect and honesty on both sides any relationship can be successful.

Sometimes you have to be diplomatic and choose your words carefully, sometimes you have to loose small arguments to keep the peace but that does not mean you are changing yourself. Keeping expectation real and communication open also helps in any relationship. 😊

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Filmyarchu

@Filmyarchu

Dazzler

+ 2

Posted: 7 years ago

I completely agree with you about Kaleerein is not just a love story but its the story about every girl who has been told by someone in their life for sure that you will be the one who needs to change and adjust.

I am an 18 year old girl who lives in Melbourne but my background is Indian and most of my family in India is very conservative and believes that yes girls need to adjust and guys will be themselves simply because they are males. But I'm so lucky to be living in a country who has helped me have a mind of my own and explore my identity because of my experiences as earlier I was very naive but life has taught many lessons early in life. My parents divorce helped me become independent because with my dad I was living in a bubble but as I have grown with only my mum being my world its really made me strong and confident to say that I am someone who is great the way I am and I might need to balance certain habits/expectations of my mine when its about handling relationships but its not at the stake of my self-respect or diminishing of me.

It's true relationships are very fragile and they need care and time but its not one person's responsibility. Both partners need balance and understand that its about their happiness and not just me & you. As for in-laws it's simple for me, if you're going to respect me and family I can assure you to be my best with you.

Overall I am just going to say that respect is one of the most important aspect of any relationship in the world. You cannot disrespect someone just because you think its cool..it's a big no!

Kaleerein has been trying to send across the same message that parents/society need to understand girls are not just the only one who can run a relationship smoothly by constantly changing themselves instead its about finding the balance and growing with your partner/other relationships :))

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anjani-pagli

@anjani-pagli

Sparkler

+ 3

Posted: 7 years ago

Instead of answering the question directly, let me ask you one thing,

if you are working/student u go to office/school/college.

Do u behave the same way as u behave in ur home?

Do u not adjust yourself based on the situation out there?

We all do...we all change. Change is the only truth in anybody's life!!

If you dont change, it is never gonna help you in any manner!!

Now how much to bend, wht not to do...is totally dependent on individuals.

I feel, if the change make you a better person, help to adjust, its good. But I dont believe, only one partner has to change, change usually comes from both side.

Every family has its set of rules, u just cannot go and barge in n say i dnt believe, i wont change, i wont follow

At the same time, ppl arround u shld also appreciate and accept you as you.

**sorry for a preachy post...but its from my married life/work experience talking**

Meera has a stubborn nature and Vivz has trust issue!!

I feel both should change in order to accept each other

Though Vivaan likes Meera, yet I feel, even she needs to change and trust Vivz more for him to trust her more..

Edited by anjani-pagli - 7 years ago

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Sheen97

@sheen97

Dazzler

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: anjani-pagli
Instead of answering the question directly, let me ask you one thing,
if you are working/student u go to office/school/college.
Do u behave the same way as u behave in ur home?

Do u not adjust yourself based on the situation out there?

We all do...we all change. Change is the only truth in anybody's life!!
If you dont change, it is never gonna help you in any manner!!

Now how much to bend, wht not to do...is totally dependent on individuals.

I feel, if the change make you a better person, help to adjust, its good. But I dont believe, only one partner has to change, change usually comes from both side.

Every family has its set of rules, u just cannot go and barge in n say i dnt believe, i wont change, i wont follow
At the same time, ppl arround u shld also appreciate and accept you as you.

**sorry for a preachy post...but its from my married life/work experience talking**

Meera has a stubborn nature and Vivz has trust issue!!
I feel both should change in order to accept each other
Though Vivaan likes Meera, yet I feel, even she needs to change and trust Vivz more for him to trust her more..