Hi Nive !!!! Long time, no see. I hope you are doing well.
I saw this post and was thinking about it before I could write what I felt. Because, I am on a roller coaster of feelings about Kiara knowing about Abhi. So, as usual I am going to take a long, tedious route. Hope you can bear with me.
I really don't know what Kiara knows, Nive. But like Sahiti, I feel quite uncomfortable with a child that age roaming around unsupervised in public places such as international airports and hotel lobbies, sitting in strangers' cars and calling a stranger papa, dad or pops. This is all making me squirm. I feel like it is all a cheesy and crude way of the stupid writers showing that blood is thicker than anything. Against the backdrop of what we are seeing now a days, atrocities against children, the makers should have put some more thought into this rather than showing a child, especially a girl child being left alone and feeling secure enough to sit in a strangers' moving car. This is giving me the major creeps.
Now to what I would want. I can totally see if this child was told when she was little, when asked about papa, that papa is in India and can't be with them, left it at that with no explanations. I feel that is perfectly reasonable, as children who are very young ( 2-3 yrs old ) may not ask for any further clarification. If she had accepted that statement at that age, I can see why she wouldn't have asked any more questions as to why, where and when till pre-adolescence. But looking at the inquisitive nature of Kiara, I think these questions might come up sooner than that. Then comes the question, how does King fit in, how would you explain King to Kiara? Say a young child at 2 is throwing an uncontrollable tantrum wanting to know why she doesn't have a papa to show off like that obnoxious red haired kid in the park, King could have stepped in that role as a " dada" . This could be just like say, my brother who is visiting me offers to go to the school for the father's day brunch when daddy is otherwise busy with an emergency. And then, that is that. The child this way knows she can fall back on dada, her support system, but knows that he is not "her papa".
For the sake of the child and for the sake of Abhi, I do not want her to know all the details and circumstances of her mama being thrown out🤢. That would be a deathblow for Abhi as a father, if the child knows the injustice that might have been dished out to mama, who BTW, at that age is everything for her, no matter whether the mama is right or wrong. That would be an inhumane piece of news for the child to know, where her views of the world as a secure and happy place will be shattered forever. And Abhi' s image of papa cannot be redeemed in the eyes of that child for a very, very long time, if that. 🤢That is the age where a child should ideally be exploring the outside world with curiosity, cocooned by the security a parent and /or parents provide. And then, to top it all for the child to NOW know that her father King is not her biological father now would be devastating for the child, if she doesn't know till now. This would affect her sense of object permanence at that age😭
This is what I wish for, for my peace of mind😳. The reality of what the makers may have planned could be very different. From what I have observed with this show, they really don't go deep, everything is scratched just on the surface and then they just rely on drama, nauseating, revolting for the most part. There is no depth in thought process, characterization, actions or plot or anything. I feel like the child will be made as reincarnation of daadi who will have to bring the straying father, ever brain absent man, who forever lives in his own bubble into line without actually bursting the bubble, so everything can be status quo. The child will now have to crack the whip, so to speak😲Lot is riding on this young child, expectation of her taking on the role of a parent to bring the wayward parent into line is extremely sad, she will be promiscuous, will have to play cupid, will have to make him understand right from wrong and a lot, lot more. My heart went out when in one of the episodes, she was telling him "you are my papa". 😭I just am hoping against hope that she will not be subjected to her papa's indiscretions with xxx. This is all tiring me a lot when I think about it. I really, really hope I am wrong, Nive🤢.
I am sorry😒, as usual, I went all over the place to make my point Not sure if I made sense. Forever affected by overthinking ki bimaari.
Edited by mili9 - 7 years ago